What would you think of this??

odusgolp
odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
My BF and I met online 9 months ago. I've changed my status on FB to "in a relationship" several times now, but he won't update it on his end to show everyone. What should I do?







Also, peer pressure. TIA.
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  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    First!
  • Behxo
    Behxo Posts: 1,190 Member
    first to say break up
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    Ugh, I totally know how this is. My boyfriend is exactly the same way. Something about his girlfriend seeing it or some crap... totally frustrating.

    Have you gone through his messages yet?? That would be my next course of action.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    wait, so you guys have broken up and gotten back together several times in 9 months?

    I'd be leery of changing my FB status back to "in a relationship" too.

    You two sound like basket cases who deserve each other....
  • DBoone85
    DBoone85 Posts: 916 Member
    Post up his noodz on your wall so other girls will know you two are serious....
  • jacques57
    jacques57 Posts: 2,129 Member
    My take? He is still playing the field and not interested in commitment. I only say that because that is how I thought when I was in my 20s. Took me a while to grow up and recognize the joys of maturing and committing to a relationship. Now I just flirt on MFP.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    wait, so you guys have broken up and gotten back together several times in 9 months?

    I'd be leery of changing my FB status back to "in a relationship" too.

    You two sound like basket cases who deserve each other....

    No, we've been together the whole time, but denies the request or something, so I just keep re-sending.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Post up his noodz on your wall so other girls will know you two are serious....

    LOL Well, I do post pictures of the two of us together, but he doesn't.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    obviously he doesn't even know you guys are together.

    you need to up your game so he knows for sure.

    cater to his every need. sandwiches, cleaning, a beej every morning....

    sooner or later he'll get comfortable enough with you around that he'll leave his FB logged in.
    then you can go in and change it yourself.
  • DBoone85
    DBoone85 Posts: 916 Member
    Ugh, I totally know how this is. My boyfriend is exactly the same way. Something about his girlfriend seeing it or some crap... totally frustrating.

    Have you gone through his messages yet?? That would be my next course of action.

    I told him it was ok if he wanted to update his profile to say he was with you. I don't mind sharing him.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    first to say break up

    Why didn't I think of that? :grumble:
  • cheekym7
    cheekym7 Posts: 570 Member
    Ugh, I totally know how this is. My boyfriend is exactly the same way. Something about his girlfriend seeing it or some crap... totally frustrating.

    Bahaha! Always my luck
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    My BF and I met online 9 months ago. I've changed my status on FB to "in a relationship" several times now, but he won't update it on his end to show everyone. What should I do?







    Also, peer pressure. TIA.

    Take his cocaine out of the fridge, and put it in his rectum where it belongs.

    Oh. Were you talking about his fb status?
    I just make mine say I am "In a relationship" because there is some form of relationship with everyone, friends, enemy, non-existent....
  • KseRz
    KseRz Posts: 980 Member
    Ask him ....

    whats+up+with+that.gif
  • capnrus789
    capnrus789 Posts: 2,736 Member
    obviously he doesn't even know you guys are together.

    you need to up your game so he knows for sure.

    cater to his every need. sandwiches, cleaning, a beej every morning....

    sooner or later he'll get comfortable enough with you around that he'll leave his FB logged in.
    then you can go in and change it yourself.
    You should listen to this man. He's a bloody GENIUS!
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    Have you told him that you created a facebook account for him yet? He may not even know how to facebook.
  • Barbellarella_
    Barbellarella_ Posts: 454 Member
    Maybe he has a secret girlfriend and he doesn't want her to see the update!
  • WestCoastPhoenix
    WestCoastPhoenix Posts: 802 Member
    Check his text messages, he is cheating on you. You're welcome. :drinker:
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    why is your status public in the first place?

    I never changed mine because mine's not public and I can't be bothered- I'd probably have declined/ignored the status update as well if I were him. It's such a trivial matter. move on and live in the actual present- and stop trying to live your life on facebook.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    obviously he doesn't even know you guys are together.

    you need to up your game so he knows for sure.

    cater to his every need. sandwiches, cleaning, a beej every morning....

    sooner or later he'll get comfortable enough with you around that he'll leave his FB logged in.
    then you can go in and change it yourself.
    You should listen to this man. He's a bloody GENIUS!

    oh rus, you gentleman.
    now stop making me blush and come get your sandwich and beej.
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
    I think it's probably high time you got knocked up. I say that you tell him you are on birth control... but, you know... not be.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Something is definitely up. If Facebook says you are not in a relationship, then you are clearly not in a relationship. Time to call Nev and Max from Catfish!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Maybe he has a secret girlfriend and he doesn't want her to see the update!

    Is it you? Cause if it is, I concede. You're hot.
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    Ugh, I totally know how this is. My boyfriend is exactly the same way. Something about his girlfriend seeing it or some crap... totally frustrating.

    Have you gone through his messages yet?? That would be my next course of action.

    I told him it was ok if he wanted to update his profile to say he was with you. I don't mind sharing him.

    Jeez, and here he makes you sound like such a harpy. You seem totally reasonable!
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Maybe he has a secret girlfriend and he doesn't want her to see the update!

    Good point, OP, you should watch him log into his phone over his shoulder to get his passwords, and then read through all of his texts and emails. It will help build trust, while you see he has no other girlfriends.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    obviously he doesn't even know you guys are together.

    you need to up your game so he knows for sure.

    cater to his every need. sandwiches, cleaning, a beej every morning....

    sooner or later he'll get comfortable enough with you around that he'll leave his FB logged in.
    then you can go in and change it yourself.
    You should listen to this man. He's a bloody GENIUS!

    oh rus, you gentleman.
    now stop making me blush and come get your sandwich and beej.

    But I don't like making sandwiches and I'm no good at it!
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Post up his noodz on your wall so other girls will know you two are serious....

    Nvm what I said. This suggestion is the way to go!
  • shadowofender
    shadowofender Posts: 786 Member
    why is your status public in the first place?

    I never changed mine because mine's not public and I can't be bothered- I'd probably have declined/ignored the status update as well if I were him. It's such a trivial matter. move on and live in the actual present- and stop trying to live your life on facebook.

    This is how I am, too. My bf and I have been together a while and I don't think either of us cares enough to figure out how to change it. Why's it matter? Are you insecure about your relationship and you need to prove to everyone you're together? It's just facebook...
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    Post up his noodz on your wall so other girls will know you two are serious....

    Nvm what I said. This suggestion is the way to go!

    Bonus points if you have video.
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
    Post up his noodz on your wall so other girls will know you two are serious....

    Nvm what I said. This suggestion is the way to go!

    May I suggest you superimpose a picture of you with a thumbs up in said photo. It proves you two are together. Just make sure you have pretty impressive photoshopping skills... people have some pretty keen eyes for that shiiiznittles.