Things that suck about being fat

SsetAdnama

Working on a list for my motivation board: "Things that suck about being fat"

What pet peeves are you most looking forward to leaving behind?

I'll start...

chub rub / chafing
compression garments
not fitting knee-high boots because my calves are too big
neck sweat
getting winded going up 2 flights of stairs
having breathing problems bending over to tie shoes (or painting/cutting toenails)
not quite fitting into airplane & stadium seats
being the fat girl engaged to the skinny guy
one size all doesn't fit me
FUPA
wanting to sit/lie down all the time
depression/anxiety related to weight and health
the Bad Habit Cycle
not feeling sexy
being the fattest of my friends
my outside doesn't fit my personality
poor posture
back problems

enzosmama

Having to shop in the plus sized stores- I can't wait for that to be over!

leahraskie

Leg chaffing
Can't see everything while shaving
Getting winded, period.
The knee length boots thing is total truth. They should make some that fit for just bigger calves in general.
Boy shorts swim bottoms. Done with those.

SsetAdnama

The knee length boots thing is total truth. They should make some that fit for just bigger calves in general.

They do make them, but I'm broke and can't afford them. All the boots in my price range are meant for skinny calves. Boo-hoo!

Rhaynestorm

Feeling my back rolls rub together from sweat when I'm out for a walk.
Having my belly hang down over my belt when I'm sitting.
Not being able to wear thigh-high stockings/nylons because they don't stay up or they make my legs look like sausages spilling out over the edges.
Feeling my fat jiggling around when I walk.

I'm sure there are more, that's just what's off the top of my head.

JoRocka

Working on a list for my motivation board: "Things that suck about being fat"

What pet peeves are you most looking forward to leaving behind?

I'll start...

chub rub / chafing I have chub rub and chafing- legs and arms
compression garments still wear them
not fitting knee-high boots because my calves are too big still have issues with boots sliding down b/c the calves don't fit
neck sweat definitely
getting winded going up 2 flights of stairs EVERY DAY TO WORK I DO
having breathing problems bending over to tie shoes (or painting/cutting toenails)
not quite fitting into airplane & stadium seats depends on the seat but yeah- big butts don't fit well comfortably- no matter how plus they are
being the fat girl engaged to the skinny guy try being the fit one with the over weight one- not much better
one size all doesn't fit me one size all is one size fits almost no one
FUPA I look 4 months pregnant all the time b/c of this
wanting to sit/lie down all the time probably not for the same reasons- but THIS- ALL.THE.TIME - tired is a state of being.
depression/anxiety related to weight and health this never goes away- it gets better- but you wind up fussing with other things
the Bad Habit Cycle all mental- not your actual weight
not feeling sexy happens to everyone
being the fattest of my friends happens at any size
my outside doesn't fit my personality
poor posture it doesn't have to be- skinny people have poor posture too- fix it now
back problems

Oh honey- I think ti's a good idea- but wrong direction because I have bad news for you- I've added my comments in bold to your quote

many of those things can be addressed now- and are well outside of just a size issue. I'm kind of sad to see this list because it's so negative and the reality is many of us deal with these things on our own- in our own way- like I said- I get mad chub rub- and I have body image issues- i'm fabulous- but some days I just look down at my fat thighs (they aren't that fat but they look like it those days) and I just want to cry- all my accomplishments be damned.

Then I go put on sexy dresses- go to dinner and make my BF crazy over me and forget what I was thinking about.

I would focus on the positives and working on improving your mental image of yourself NOW. If you wait till you're "skinny" it's going to be hard b/c you'll realize many of the issues are completely separate from your actual weight.

For me it was important (IS- not was LOL) to focus on positives-
getting to spend more time with active family members?
getting to shop more!
trying new things you couldn't' before!
being more fit means so much to me- and when I am not fit- and I can't keep up- or am limited- it's a big motivation to look forward to trying new things- rock climbing- kayaking- horse riding hiking stuff like that- it opens a lot of doors and opportunities.

Anyway- I love the fact you have a motivational board though- so keep that up- but don't forget the positve things to look forward to as well!!!

riosangel

decrease in sex drive and performance.
sweat tends to smell stronger.
losing motivation to work out because of knee and back pain at the end of a sesion .
knowing you are probably killing yourself and not doing enough to revert that.

Stiang

1. Blue jeans don't fit - my hips/rear end is way larger than the waist and it cause a gap large enough for a softball to fit through. Any belt I get stays along the hips but allows the pants to slide.

2. Cute tops that have to be larger than the bust so it can fit around the waist. I have to pin the tops to my bra strap and wear a jacket to hide the safety pins.

JeriAnne84

The knee length boots thing is total truth. They should make some that fit for just bigger calves in general.

Aw man. This. I went to Hot Topic back when I was like 22 and saw an awesome pair of knee high boots. I had the guy grab me my size from the back and when I pulled up my pant leg to put them on, he said...loudly..."wow you have huge calves!!"

I said "yeah I know, @$$ hat, thanks for the reminder" and walked out.

I haven't tried on a pair of knee high boots since.

jkwolly

WTF is FUPA?

JoRocka

front upper pu**y area

(least that's how I learned it)

some people really have more of a what is affectionally called a gunt

gut + ****

but- semantics I guess. Shrug- my internals sit higher- so it looks like I seriously have a FUPA- it makes me CRAZY- because there is very little fat in that area- it's simply just a higher resting baby maker I'll never need. I fu*king hate it.

BlueBombers

Thigh chafing :sad:

BlueBombers

WTF is FUPA?

Hah I had to Google that. It's an overhang of one's gut over their "private" area.

seltzermint555

I think FUPA stands for "fat upper pubic area"...that's what I've always heard anyway.

I think the worst thing about being fat is other peoples' negative assumptions...especially if you are obese/morbidly obese, a lot of people (including some fellow fat people) will assume one or many of the following things...that you are lazy, unintelligent, do not care about your health, take Rx meds for many health issues, have hypertension/diabetes/infertility, can't walk long distances or climb stairs, do not have healthy lifestyle habits in ANY WAY, binge eat, overeat at every meal, have a bad sex life, and are not stylish or sophisticated in any way. By no means an exhaustive list, either.

That stuff used to p** me off something awful because for me none of it was true...for some reason it bothered me MOST when other obese or morbidly obese women assumed it about me. I wasn't in denial about being dangerously obese, but I didn't have the issues that were assumed.

shadowofender

Freaking cute tops. Like. I'm pretty top heavy even when the rest of me isn't overweight and these tops are designed for freaking a cups or something and I can't makei t work and it's so depressing.

thigh rub when I wear dresses.

Honestly though I got over a lot of the rest of it because I was choosing to live my life in a way that left me sad, anxious, etc. and one of the steps of getting out of the self harm cycle I was in, was realizing I can change things I don't like.

smantha32

Working on a list for my motivation board: "Things that suck about being fat"

What pet peeves are you most looking forward to leaving behind?

I'll start...


getting winded going up 2 flights of stairs
wanting to sit/lie down all the time
depression/anxiety related to weight and health
not feeling sexy
my outside doesn't fit my personality
poor posture
back problems

Yeah these are most of mine.

smantha32

The knee length boots thing is total truth. They should make some that fit for just bigger calves in general.

They do, they call them European cut. They're more expensive though.

JoRocka

WTF is FUPA?

Hah I had to Google that. It's an overhang of one's gut over their "private" area.

Wearing high waist-ed white starched pants for a long portion of my college carreer- did not do well for ANYONE who had any gut that looked remotely close to this.

My poor roommate was called the four foot fupa- boys are mean.

ponycyndi

front upper pu**y area

(least that's how I learned it)

some people really have more of a what is affectionally called a gunt

gut + ****

but- semantics I guess. Shrug- my internals sit higher- so it looks like I seriously have a FUPA- it makes me CRAZY- because there is very little fat in that area- it's simply just a higher resting baby maker I'll never need. I fu*king hate it.

What my friend lovingly refers to as vag fat.

JoRocka

Snort.

That's hysterical... but no- I've seen that up close and personal- that's a WHOLE other ball of wax- I'm not sure which is better though!!!

_Waffle_

The frowns I get from the hostess when I visit my favorite Chinese buffet.

smantha32

Guilt.
Cuz I want a waffle and I want syrup on it, but it'll put me over my calories.

mygnsac

Working on a list for my motivation board: "Things that suck about being fat"

What pet peeves are you most looking forward to leaving behind?

I'll start...

chub rub / chafing I have chub rub and chafing- legs and arms
compression garments still wear them
not fitting knee-high boots because my calves are too big still have issues with boots sliding down b/c the calves don't fit
neck sweat definitely
getting winded going up 2 flights of stairs EVERY DAY TO WORK I DO
having breathing problems bending over to tie shoes (or painting/cutting toenails)
not quite fitting into airplane & stadium seats depends on the seat but yeah- big butts don't fit well comfortably- no matter how plus they are
being the fat girl engaged to the skinny guy try being the fit one with the over weight one- not much better
one size all doesn't fit me one size all is one size fits almost no one
FUPA I look 4 months pregnant all the time b/c of this
wanting to sit/lie down all the time probably not for the same reasons- but THIS- ALL.THE.TIME - tired is a state of being.
depression/anxiety related to weight and health this never goes away- it gets better- but you wind up fussing with other things
the Bad Habit Cycle all mental- not your actual weight
not feeling sexy happens to everyone
being the fattest of my friends happens at any size
my outside doesn't fit my personality
poor posture it doesn't have to be- skinny people have poor posture too- fix it now
back problems

Oh honey- I think ti's a good idea- but wrong direction because I have bad news for you- I've added my comments in bold to your quote

many of those things can be addressed now- and are well outside of just a size issue. I'm kind of sad to see this list because it's so negative and the reality is many of us deal with these things on our own- in our own way- like I said- I get mad chub rub- and I have body image issues- i'm fabulous- but some days I just look down at my fat thighs (they aren't that fat but they look like it those days) and I just want to cry- all my accomplishments be damned.

Then I go put on sexy dresses- go to dinner and make my BF crazy over me and forget what I was thinking about.

I would focus on the positives and working on improving your mental image of yourself NOW. If you wait till you're "skinny" it's going to be hard b/c you'll realize many of the issues are completely separate from your actual weight.

For me it was important (IS- not was LOL) to focus on positives-
getting to spend more time with active family members?
getting to shop more!
trying new things you couldn't' before!
being more fit means so much to me- and when I am not fit- and I can't keep up- or am limited- it's a big motivation to look forward to trying new things- rock climbing- kayaking- horse riding hiking stuff like that- it opens a lot of doors and opportunities.

Anyway- I love the fact you have a motivational board though- so keep that up- but don't forget the positve things to look forward to as well!!!

A motivational board is a fabulous idea! I agree with JoRocka. Don't forget the positive consequences! Here are some of my things that won't suck when I'm not fat. I'm sure I have lots more, but these jump to mind...

- Being able to get on any scale and know it will be able to handle your weight, as many have a 300 lb (or less) capicity. (done!)

- Being able to walk confidently into any store that sells clothes and know they will have your size.

- Being able to go into any restaurant without asking for a table, because you don't fit comfortably in most booths. (for the most part done, but I still have trouble with the super small booths, but I'm getting there). Even in restaurants where I know I can fit in a booth now, I still automatically ask for a table. Just habit I guess.

- Being able to get on a ride in a theme park AND being able to sit comfortably in a seat on a plane. (haven't tested either yet, but I'm optimistic)

- Moving into my senior years without the burden of carrying that extra weight.

FUPA...ha! Never knew it had a name/acronym. Learn something new everyday!

lukewind

I have quite a large FUPA, its way smaller now and getting smaller as I go, but lets just say in my current state any "activity" is not easily done, not that anyone would be. I sure hope that its goes away when I lose my last 180lbs.

Its an embarrassing situation and keeps many people from even attempting a relationship with someone, myself included. For women it is more aesthetic, but for men it prevent function.

SsetAdnama

Working on a list for my motivation board: "Things that suck about being fat"

What pet peeves are you most looking forward to leaving behind?

I'll start...

chub rub / chafing I have chub rub and chafing- legs and arms
compression garments still wear them
not fitting knee-high boots because my calves are too big still have issues with boots sliding down b/c the calves don't fit
neck sweat definitely
getting winded going up 2 flights of stairs EVERY DAY TO WORK I DO
having breathing problems bending over to tie shoes (or painting/cutting toenails)
not quite fitting into airplane & stadium seats depends on the seat but yeah- big butts don't fit well comfortably- no matter how plus they are
being the fat girl engaged to the skinny guy try being the fit one with the over weight one- not much better
one size all doesn't fit me one size all is one size fits almost no one
FUPA I look 4 months pregnant all the time b/c of this
wanting to sit/lie down all the time probably not for the same reasons- but THIS- ALL.THE.TIME - tired is a state of being.
depression/anxiety related to weight and health this never goes away- it gets better- but you wind up fussing with other things
the Bad Habit Cycle all mental- not your actual weight
not feeling sexy happens to everyone
being the fattest of my friends happens at any size
my outside doesn't fit my personality
poor posture it doesn't have to be- skinny people have poor posture too- fix it now
back problems

Oh honey- I think ti's a good idea- but wrong direction because I have bad news for you- I've added my comments in bold to your quote

many of those things can be addressed now- and are well outside of just a size issue. I'm kind of sad to see this list because it's so negative and the reality is many of us deal with these things on our own- in our own way- like I said- I get mad chub rub- and I have body image issues- i'm fabulous- but some days I just look down at my fat thighs (they aren't that fat but they look like it those days) and I just want to cry- all my accomplishments be damned.

Then I go put on sexy dresses- go to dinner and make my BF crazy over me and forget what I was thinking about.

I would focus on the positives and working on improving your mental image of yourself NOW. If you wait till you're "skinny" it's going to be hard b/c you'll realize many of the issues are completely separate from your actual weight.

For me it was important (IS- not was LOL) to focus on positives-
getting to spend more time with active family members?
getting to shop more!
trying new things you couldn't' before!
being more fit means so much to me- and when I am not fit- and I can't keep up- or am limited- it's a big motivation to look forward to trying new things- rock climbing- kayaking- horse riding hiking stuff like that- it opens a lot of doors and opportunities.

Anyway- I love the fact you have a motivational board though- so keep that up- but don't forget the positve things to look forward to as well!!!

So happy to see a positive spin put on my snarky topic! On the face of it, yes, it can appear very negative to some people to create such a list. I see them more as "tipping points" - additional motivation to make the changes I need to make in my life, for my health and for myself. I have far more self-esteem than the post may show, although it has taken a hit in the body-image area. I understand that not all of these are guaranteed to go away when I lose weight - I may never be comfortable in airplane seats and I may never have calves that fit into knee-high boots. I know sexiness is a state of mind - and I feel sexier already now that I'm working out and trying to eat right and taking some damned control over the situation. I'm looking forward to being able to shop where I want to shop, dance all night, and trying new things - like acroyoga! Just because I posted a negative list doesn't mean I don't have dreams of what's positive. Like being healthy! I'm very appreciative of most of the people on MFP, who are always ready to try to lift someone else up when they think their head is in the wrong direction.

As for FUPA - it's a horrible thing. I never even heard of it until I heard two of my coworkers being obnoxious, talking about someone else. I had to look it up, and my stomach turned. Do I have a FUPA? I asked myself. I'd never thought of it before. Oh God! I did! Aack. I didn't like it before it had a name, and then it had a name!

SsetAdnama

As for thigh rub - I love BodyGlide in cream-to-powder formula and pettipants. If you're tired of bike shorts and compression shorts and tights and such, look up pettipants on Amazon. They're slip material made into shorts. Light enough to sleep in, come in a decent range of sizes, not very expensive, aren't restricting, and you don't have your dress crawling up your shorts. My "bloomers" saved my summer.

Rockinteacherchick

I haven't seen anyone with quite as much weight to lose as I do. My highest weight was last October, at 485. I am now 453, but have just recently started trying. I think my second job that started in September helped me lose what I have over the past several months. The issues I am looking most forward to leaving behind are mostly health related!

**No more leg edema (swelling, purple legs, and cellulitis), which is so painful that I cry at night sometimes =(
** High Blood pressure, with chest pain (yes, I am on meds!)
** Not being able to put any pressure on my knees/shins, which means I cannot get in the floor at all b/c I would be stuck there!
**No more using a personal hygiene wand, although truth be told it seems to be more sanitary than not using one. I just don;t want to HAVE to use one
**No more feeling lethargic

Anyone feel free to add me! We can encourage each other!

SomeNights246

I'm just going to say it.

Under boob sweat.

Raaynn

having a closet full of clothes but nothing that fits. my favorite one is the where im in the very back of all family photos, behind everyone else because I think if I hide then it wont look like im so big. it never works but I never stop trying.

jcast92

Things are a bit better now in comparison to four years ago, but the following still get me:

- thigh chafing ESPECIALLY when I run!! This prevents me from going on longer runs because it gets so uncomfortable.
- feeling noticeably fatter after eating when around thinner people
- trying to hide the fat (when I was fatter, I remember always wearing a sweater, even in spring, because I thought maybe people wouldn't notice how fat I was)

kimothy38

I'm just going to say it.

Under boob sweat.

This!
And flabby tummy making a slapping noise when doing rigorous jumping type exercises.