Friend breakup / first weight loss struggle

ejohnson_ar

So, I have this friend who it turns out talks poorly about me behind my back and I found out about 2 weeks ago. She talks poorly about all her friends behind their backs. Very poorly. Obviously, I'm not surprised but I am hurt. I clearly can't trust her.

I've been avoiding her (yes, I know that is bad) until the other day when she just flat out asked me what was wrong. I told her. She did not deny it, in fact she basically said that she does that about everyone so she can vent about them behind their backs instead of saying anything to their faces that may hurt their friendship. Um. Okay...

I just want to eat a pile of cupcakes and never have to think about her again. We have a few friends in common (whom I have not said a word of this to). She mostly only talked to me when she wanted something anyway. Make this for her, do that for her kid's birthday, help her with this or that project... but I really thought we were friends. I've known her for like 15 years.

This is really bothering me and I never thought I was a stress eater until now.. I'm very disappointed in myself. I find myself thinking about it and grazing, not hungry at all, just eating. We try to keep healthier options around but I'm not eating them in healthy amounts and I have eaten a few cookies in the last couple days.

If anyone has any BTDT (been there, done that) or overcoming stress eating tips PLEASE share. In times of stress I've never really turned to food like this...Then again, this is my first experience with making more healthy choices too. I've lost 61 lbs and I don't want to eat myself back there.

breesie11

It sounds like she was never your friend anyway (even if you thought she was your friend). There comes a time in your life where you look at the people in your life and realize who would actually be there for you when you needed them. A friendship goes two ways and it sounds like this one was just one. You can still be friendly with her, but just keep in mind that anything you tell her will be retold to other people, so keep it light and fluffy. A real friend will never talk s$&t behind your back. I am also a stress eater, and this week has been a stressful one. I have had to keep telling myself to not reach for anything that will "comfort" me. It will only make you feel better for a minute, then you will feel so much worse after. go sit on the couch and don't get up, or go to bed and get some rest, or walk in place (or outside) instead of going for the food, just be conscious of what you are doing. She's not worth the stress!