Inlaws caused me to gain it all back!!! b my friend?

RedHeadHotMama
RedHeadHotMama Posts: 50 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Help. I am looking for new friends. My know it all inlaws who seem to think the umbilical cord should be wrapped around my husbands neck when he had his surgery last year. Thanks to stress harassment and even calling the police on me because I wouldn't go against my husbands wishes and give them the code for information I gained over 70 lbs of the weight I lost back. During this process I lost so many friends because I wasn't logging in for almost a year. I have been back at in for almost a month this time and doing wonderfully. I have lost about 5 lbs and sticking to it. Even got attacked the other day and am proud to say I didn't eat everything in sight. But my news feed is so bad. Looking for friends to help keep me going. Thanks. :heart:

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  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    wut?
  • BombshellPhoenix
    BombshellPhoenix Posts: 1,693 Member
    You got attacked yesterday and all you could think about was not overeating? I hope you filed a police report or something.
  • Wetcoaster
    Wetcoaster Posts: 1,788 Member
    wut?

    +1
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  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    Cool story bro
  • RedHeadHotMama
    RedHeadHotMama Posts: 50 Member
    No it was verbal facebook attack. Basically I was called lazy and all kinds of other crap. Mental attack. LOL.
  • FIT_Goat
    FIT_Goat Posts: 4,224 Member
    I...what?
    Of all this, it was "code for information" that confused me the most.

    That's the only part I got! LOL

    When my mom was fighting cancer, I was the one family member who was told the code (at her request) and I knew who she wanted to be able to access her health information if she was not able to tell them herself. Basically, it's a code that you have and give when calling a hospital to let them know that you're one of the people they are allowed to release information to. If you don't know the code, they won't tell you anything about the health status of a patient.

    Edit: the patient can give multiple people the code, if they wish. My mom gave it only to me because my sisters would overreact and panic at bad information. I tend to be more level headed and would be able to share her status with them without freaking them out.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    Sorry if this sounds harsh, but: Grow a thicker skin.

    There will always be crappy people out there, life will chuck bad things at you, and crap will proverbially hit the fan without your control. What you CAN control is how you deal with it. Do you really want to give the keys to your weight and heath in the hands of your in-laws? Because that's what you are doing when you eat in response to their attacks. YOU are choosing to let them rule your life choices.

    Stop. Stop now. Take your power back, stop letting them in your head. Get tougher, take responsibility for your actions, and don't blame others for what is at the end of the day is entirely your choice. Good luck with everything.
  • RedHeadHotMama
    RedHeadHotMama Posts: 50 Member
    Yeah.Thanks for explaining that frob. And I have finally taken back control. But the harassment and abuse takes a toll on you. It may be easy to say just take back control until YOU are the one under attack. It has been hard but I have taken back my life. I had no desire to eat the other day I just basically told my SIL where to go and I wasn't going to take her abuse. Which she seemed to believe she had every right to do. Having the police called on you and the hospital for their policys makes you go crazy. But i have my life back now.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    No it was verbal facebook attack. Basically I was called lazy and all kinds of other crap. Mental attack. LOL.

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  • RedHeadHotMama
    RedHeadHotMama Posts: 50 Member
    Hahaha. I know. But in this case it was the only time i had been attacked on facebook. I have stopped speaking to her period. Problem solved.
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  • RedHeadHotMama
    RedHeadHotMama Posts: 50 Member
    My husband didn't want anyone having the code except for me. And that is what the hospital prefered to. I made multiple phone calls to people telling them everything. But I was called stupid and I didn't know what the hell I was doing. I also had no right to be alone with him because I was hiding information. It was a no win situation. I did the best I could following his instructions and they wanted everything and me gone. :mad:
  • MaidensAndMonsters
    MaidensAndMonsters Posts: 89
    I would be happy to be your friend and provide you with support but I am a "tough lover" and I feel the need to tell you that your in-law's didn't make you fat. You made yourself fat by using food inappropriately to address emotional issues. Take ownership of your role in the problem and then you can focus on your role in fixing it. Not trying to be a B****, just think it's important. Good luck!

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