So fed up with "it takes time"

WombatHat42

Ok so I am just venting a bit right now as I am feeling a bit stressed. But seriously I am so fed up with how everything I am working on "will take time" to accomplish. I mean dont get me wrong I feel 100% the best things in life are worth waiting for but right now seems like EVERYTHING is hitting now. Been trying to lose weight for two years now(setbacks/injuries have prevented breaking the 260 barrier a few times now -_- ) and it will take a minimum of 3 months to reach my goal(if I keep losing 2/week) Just had surgery so I cant do anything and that will take time to heal. I am still dealing with a difficult break up that I would rather just be over with but since I can barely leave the house and just moved back to an area I know no one - until classes start - I cant meet someone new. And lastly fricking medical school applications are just pissing me off since I have to wait til the end of the semester to see if I will have the minimum 3.0 or not and most likely will have to wait another year to apply. Which sometimes just makes me feel like at what point should i just say screw medical school - yet at the same time I wouldnt be able to get a job with just my B.A . I dont know if I just ignore my stress til it all just comes out or if all this stuff just happens at the same time(it has been an on going trend the past year). Is it just me or does anyone else feel like stressful crap always comes in bunches? Anyways, like I said just venting sorry.

RaggedyPond

TLDR

You know what you have to do already. Just start tracking calories and stay within the goal. It doesn't even require exercise.

WombatHat42

I am losing weight it is not really that. More of a combination of everything

sakuya3834

I'm pretty sure the first response didn't really read the whole post.
I don't have much to say except I can relate. Hang in there. It is tough to keep on going but time will pass whether you are heading towards your goals or not. So you may as well keep pushing forward.

iggyboo93

No need to apologize - you have a lot of things going on in your life. Vent, blow off steam, get it out of your system and get back to the books future doctor.

RodaRose

Go ahead and vent. It stinks to be recovering from surgery and feeling like you are always waiting. Find some things at home that help you relieve stress. Focus on that.
. . . just a thought. Instead of stressing about getting into medical school, investigating getting a second bachelors, or going for a masters. . . . either one that can lead directly into a job.

Coolfloridian

I understand the frustration of waiting. "Good things come to those who wait" is a terrible statement. Another expression that sucks is, "patience pays". I think most people would love instant gratification in their weight loss goals. One piece of advice is DON'T QUIT ON MED SCHOOL!!!. You will regret it for the rest of your life.

Think about the problems you have that are within your control and change it. Think about the problems you have that are NOT in your control and set them to the side for now. Then look at what you have accomplished so far. First, you have made it this far in Uni, and not many people can say that they qualify to apply for med school. Second, think about how much weight you have already lost and about the self-control you have demonstrated so far in changing your diet. The most important thing to remember is your motivation. If you keep that in mind, it will make the time more bearable. You have many good things in life to help you focus and avoid dwelling on the time as it passes, however slowly. I wish you the best. Send me a friend request if you need anything else.

Chavellek

I say just keep working out or doing the small things that can u can do. This will keep u from going backwards and it always good to have something going right in your life when everything is going bad. U got this and eventually everything will be ok or it will just end. The great thing is that time always keeps moving.

micheledavison39

Oh Yeah, it always feels like once you have been *kitten* on once, it becomes open season and everything lands on you all at the same time.

Like someone else said, deal with the things you can actually control and try to (note I said TRY, not do) stress less over the things you can't control, like waiting on your GPA. Check and see if you can apply to med school anyway and then submit your GPA later, it can't hurt to ask, and it might get one more thing off your stress list.

Sometimes when it gets to be too much; after I go outside and scream!; I make two lists, one of things I can change and what I plan to do about them and another of the things I can't change and how I plan to deal with them. As you deal with the things on your list(s), cross them off. I usually find that just the act of writing them down releases some of the stress as I realize that they really aren't that big a deal and I just need to let it go and move on.

Sometimes though, all you need to do is vent and know that someone else is listening and gets it.

Hang in there!

VeryKatie

At least you know things will be easier in a little while - and you'll have proved to yourself you can do anything.

As stressed as you may feel, keep up the good work!

Josalinn

I am an impatient person. I like instant gratification or at least visible progress in all of my efforts. This is one of the reasons I dislike law school, it all comes down to one test at the end of the semester. And at the end of the semester I am the biggest ball of stress you have ever seen. This past semester all my local friends graduated from undergrad, my cat-who-is-more-like-family-than-anything-else got sick and threatened to die on me, and I needed to hit a certain GPA in order to participate in something this fall. Venting was all I did for a long time. And it feels great! Do it! No complaints here.

On a more constructive note, you said you are not moving too much. That doesn't give a lot of information, which is fine. After the wound is no longer in danger of opening, perhaps joining a gym with a pool since a lot of people recommend that as a low resistance way to get exercise. You might meet some nice people too.

This is good advice:

I make two lists, one of things I can change and what I plan to do about them and another of the things I can't change and how I plan to deal with them. As you deal with the things on your list(s), cross them off. I usually find that just the act of writing them down releases some of the stress as I realize that they really aren't that big a deal and I just need to let it go and move on.

And because it popped into my head:

ElliottTN

A few years down the road you will probably look back and think: Wow, remember x years ago when things were so simple and stress free.

Buck up man, life won't slow down until you are dead.

jkwolly

A few years down the road you will probably look back and think: Wow, remember x years ago when things were so simple and stress free.

Buck up man, life won't slow down until you are dead.

This!

htrombleyl

I can totally relate. Yes it does come back to back. Everyone I know hears me yell "Really" over and over again when things start to pile up. People say that it will get better but I think that all I get is a break (never more than a week) and it starts all over again. The thing is the new thing takes up my time and I cease to worry about what was stressing me out before. Oh god, that is depressing when you see it all written out. Sorry not much help. Lol.

bwogilvie

Hey, go ahead and vent. It makes most people feel better!

Then, after venting, take those "it takes time" goals and break them down into "I can do this today/this week" milestones.

Reaching your weight goal will take 3 months? Well, being at or just under your calorie goal for the day is a daily milestone. Or if you're like me, under your goal for the week, since I'd rather allow some flexibility to account for my exercise schedule. Of course, my original goal required over a year to attain, so 3 months seems short. :-)

Dealing with a breakup: that's tough. But you can meet people before school starts if you join a group, or look for an Internet meetup related to one of your interests. I like cycling, mostly by myself but sometimes I go for a group ride just to meet people. If you're religious, find a welcoming church/synagogue/mosque/whatever.

Med school applications: you won't know your GPA until the end of the semester, but you can take steps when it starts to get the best grades you can. Plan your assignments and exams in your calendar, and arrange your extracurriculars so that you'll have study time before things are due. Take advantage of your TAs' and profs' office hours if there's something you are having trouble understanding. Get to know a couple of profs who can write recommendations.

Basically, you've got a lot of stuff going on that seems overwhelming because none of it can be achieved in the short run. That's most of my life. Breaking it down into stuff that *can* be achieved in the short run makes it a lot easier to handle. The folks who bicycle across America do best when they think about it as biking 50-100 miles a day, for 2-3 months, rather than biking 3500-5000 miles.