people commenting on weight loss in a negative way

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member

    I'm starting to wonder whether I should keep on losing if this is just going to mean more comments from people around me.

    When I hear things like this, I always wonder if the person is looking for an excuse to quit.
    I lost weight at a reasonable pace. My mom hadn't seen me in months and when she did (and I was still a good 20 pounds heavier than my smallest ever) she accused me of being "too thin" and anorexic. I just laughed at her. I'm 5'3" and was around 130 pounds.
  • CASteffes
    CASteffes Posts: 1 Member
    Please do NOT let the negative comments of people who have NO IDEA how you're losing the weight affect you! If you are doing it right, and tracking your calories, who cares what other people say. Try to kill them with kindness if you can, and ask them if they are jealous and would like to join your exercise plan. This might catch them in their tracks.

    Otherwise, CONGRATULATIONS!! You are doing great :)
  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,371 Member
    Don't give people the opportunity to discuss your weight loss with you. Stop talking about it to them. If you do talk about it to them you are inviting them to discuss it with you and with that comes their personal opinion.
  • AnnofB
    AnnofB Posts: 3,589 Member
    People hate change. It makes them insecure. Will you stop being their friend when you reach goal? Will you find a new husband and leave me? Will you make me look worse in family photo's cause you look so good now? You can almost see the little cogs in their head rolling around these thoughts. These same people will let you know the second you have gained 1/2 an ounce. It's THEIR problem... not yours. Do what you need to do to get healthy. That's what's matters.

    I agree with tiptoethruthe who said don't talk to people about your weight loss. Change the subject. Never tell anyone you are on a diet. That's an open invitation for them to "advise" you. If someone sees you eating a salad and says are you on a diet, just say, "I felt like having a salad today." Or if they say, you didn't eat very much. Say," I wasn't that hungry today." That keeps most of the food police off your back.

    If they persist, tell them you are within a range your doctor advices, or about to reach that range. Let "the doctor" take the heat, haha. Most people can't argue with that.

    This will pass once they get used to the knew you. So let it roll off your shoulder and stand tall and be proud of what you have accomplished. You are doing great! Just keep going. Get to your goal and show us a picture WE will know what to say! :flowerforyou:

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