Last attempt at a healthy life!!

xYummyMummy1Dayx

Hi all,

I'm back after a couple of unsuccessful attempts over the years.

I now need to lose more weight than I ever have before as I'm officially at my heaviest weight to date!!

Trying to start a family after getting married at the start of this month (yes even the wedding stress didn't blast the fat!). Need to lose the weight as I have pcos and will find it increasingly difficult to get pregnant the bigger I get. We've been trying since May so far.

We've also booked our dream honeymoon to the Maldives in October and I'm determined not to make my husband miserable with my constant moaning about my ugly bikini body!

I'm 26, 5"2 and weight 165lbs or 11st,12lbs and aim to lose just over 3st to hit my goal weight.

Please feel free to add me.

x

Timjones4u

Last attempt? At 26? 3st by Oct? Your goal is too tough, set yourself a target that is more realistic and then when you are successful you'll feel good. If you miss your 3st goal you'll just feel bad about yourself. Cut yourself some slack, be realistic with your goals and if you miss your target try again. Never give up.

xYummyMummy1Dayx

More of a motivational kick up the butt comment to myself as I'm bored of saying "I'll start again on Monday......".

And no, certainly not 3st by October, it's probably physically impossible! I'd like to lose between half a stone and a stone by mid October but 3st as a whole.

Realtree2429

More of a motivational kick up the butt comment to myself as I'm bored of saying "I'll start again on Monday......".

And no, certainly not 3st by October, it's probably physically impossible! I'd like to lose between half a stone and a stone by mid October but 3st as a whole.

I always used the same excuse. Wait until Monday, the weekends are too tough. I can't start yet, the holidays are coming up (even if they're 2 months away!).

There was ALWAYS an excuse.

Now I tell myself that the days will pass no matter what, a year from now I can look back and say that I lost 20 lbs or I gained 20 lbs. I choose to lose it because I cannot stand to gain anymore! I'm at the highest I have ever been and I have young kids that I need to be around and healthy for.

I have now replaced my excuses with reasons to try hard

You've got this! Set a reasonable goal and don't give up....you're young and have a great life ahead of you!

msengineer72

Hi xYummyMummy1D,

This is my first post here, as I've only been on MFP for a few weeks now, but felt like maybe my story could help you. I'm in the US so I'll have to use pounds, sorry. (I had to look up the weight of a stone - thanks for the new factoid!) Anyway....

I was in a place pretty similar to you in 2009. I weighed 253 lbs, and I was really miserable. My marriage was failing at the time,and my work situation was also exceptionally stressful, and I didn't really have anyone I could confide in or talk with about any of this. But I got a dose of reality while trying to relax on a weekend....I went for a motor boat ride with a friend on a local river. There were a lot of people floating down the rive on tubes and canoes and such. My friend had to idle his boat for a bit at one place to allow the floaters to move out of the way. A group of male floaters, who'd been having a lot of beer, thought that my friend's boat was stalled - they didn't realize he was stopped so he didn't run them over. Seeing me in the front of the boat, they called out to my friend: "Hey, get the whale out of your boat and you'll be able to go." They called out a few different versions of this as they passed by. There were probably over 100 people within hearing distance. I wanted to disappear!

Prior to that, I tried every diet, pill, product, and gimmick that came along. None of it ever worked for very long. I had tried one thing about a year before that seemed to work better than the rest, but I'd given up after a few weeks, using the excuse that work had gotten too demanding. But after the "whale" incident, I was determined and tried again. The plan seemed like it would be impossible, because NO processed foods were allowed. Only real foods that had to be cooked at home - I was actually going to have to cook! But I was determined, so I started spending my Sunday afternoons cooking enough food to last all week. I packed what I needed for workdays in a cooler and took it along. I was never far from my big container of water.

This was all very taxing for a few weeks, but the weight began to drop away quickly and I really wasn't hungry all of the time, so I kept with it. There were times when it was difficult to eat grilled chicken when everyone else was ordering a cheeseburger, but that "whale" thing would come to mind, and I'd make the right choice. I did sometimes make a bad decision, but I decided that the sum of all of my decisions was more important than an occasional slip, and so I didn't use an slip-up as an excuse to give up completely, as I had done in the past.

The whale incident was the first week of July 2009, and I was 253. By mid October 2009, I was buying new clothes for a short business trip - I weighed 205! By the end of that year, I got down to 190. It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be, and I didn't exercise a crazy amount. But the plan I followed had me eating plenty of protein and plenty of fats, and also some carbs. Also, no processed foods - had to cook everything myself. I have learned since then that processed foods are full of chemicals and other not-natural stuff that messes up our bodies' metabolism hormones. If you eat a lot of processed stuff, you'll never be able to win the battle long term.

In the years since, I've gone between 170 and 200 several times, so in US dress sizes, I've varied between a 10 and a 14. I really want to be a 6 or an 8, and I'm going to get there and stay there this time! I am not really setting a weight goal, because I've learned the value of muscle, and the muscle weighs more than fat. But I am tired of my own excuses, and I'm tired of going up and down, and I'm tired of not looking the way I really want to look. If you are really TIRED of all of this, too - then I KNOW you will succeed! Just be sure to find the right tools for your journey.

Best of luck on your journey!
ms.engineer72

happyapathy

Feel free to add me!