Time for new strong friends
skaboom163
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Most of my old friends don't log in any longer. Lame.
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif. If you are focused on eating a salad and fitting into your size 2 pants and obsessed with getting that disgusting thigh gap...I don't think we are compatible. Sorry, its not me...it's you.
I want guy friends who are going to support a girl who is strong and wants to be stronger. If you dare say "don't get too jacked" I will throw a barbell at your face. If you think we will be homies, feel free to friend me.
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif. If you are focused on eating a salad and fitting into your size 2 pants and obsessed with getting that disgusting thigh gap...I don't think we are compatible. Sorry, its not me...it's you.
I want guy friends who are going to support a girl who is strong and wants to be stronger. If you dare say "don't get too jacked" I will throw a barbell at your face. If you think we will be homies, feel free to friend me.
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Hey! I'm all for strong women!!! I'm not at the stage where I'm doing weightlifting at the gym but I'm definitely working on increasing my strength doing bodyweight exercises at home (I'm a bit of a newbie). To be honest I'd love to add you as a friend because I aspire to have the strength and confidence to lift at the gym someday - but I'll let you add me if you think we're compatible :flowerforyou:0
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Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.0 -
You have a lot of rules.
Out.0 -
Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
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Thats one way to make friends....
Not.
I'm with Ms Acrylics above.
See ya!0 -
Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
IN! To see more woman on woman, building!
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Hey!! Add me!
I just started lifting and found my max's last weekend. I will start the beginning of my lifting today! Woo Woo,, cant wait to get started. Still doing cardio but want to incorporate lifting in too. Not the salad eating, thigh gap wanting kinda gal either!!0 -
Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
^^This. And Ms. Heavy Acrylics is already my friend who can totally kick my butt and out-lift me any day (some day, self, some day), while still encouraging and supporting me, so I'm good.
OP, hope you all the best in finding friends with similar interests :flowerforyou:0 -
In for the :
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Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
Well, said, my friend. Very well said indeed. Build up - don't tear down. Nobody's got time for that. Slow clap baby - on her way to doing hanging let raises!!
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Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
:flowerforyou: Well said.
I certainly have no intention of having my hipbones re-positioned just so I do not have a thigh gap when I am in shape.0 -
Yeah, I came into this thread with the intent of adding you, OP, since I know you are into Crossfit. Then I read your OP and nah. Good luck finding new friends though. You do sound like a peach. :flowerforyou:0
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Most of my old friends don't log in any longer. Lame.
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif. If you are focused on eating a salad and fitting into your size 2 pants and obsessed with getting that disgusting thigh gap...I don't think we are compatible. Sorry, its not me...it's you.
I want guy friends who are going to support a girl who is strong and wants to be stronger. If you dare say "don't get too jacked" I will throw a barbell at your face. If you think we will be homies, feel free to friend me.
Congratulations on being a cancer survivor. There many who dont survive that insidiousness & I commend you for your part in the battle to try and overcome it. Truly.
As to the rest? Your battle doesnt give you the right to judge anyone but yourself. Pick whatever friends you want and the type you want..I get that. But coming on this site and throwing judgements at other people for the choices they make is offensive to me.
Who gave you the right to decide that what's important to other people needed to be belittled? Are they sonehow "shallow" because they dont throw around barbells? Many people have worked their *kitten* off to fit into those size 2's & develop the discipline to eat that salad so they can continue to be healthy. Some of them have overcome things to get there that you couldnt fathom if you tried. If they dont fit your mold of whats acceptable, they are somehow inferior to you?
I am a man who offers as much support to those that I can, under the concept of pay it forward. On a daily basis, I try to support people who are strong on the outside and the inside. EVERY single person here has a bucket of crap to carry, just like you do. The difference is that most of us realize that ****ting on each other is counterproductive & the world already has enough of that.
In case you dont think I've walked anywhere close to in your shoes? Try having to answer your 8 year old son( and your only child) the night before his 2nd open heart surgery, when he asks you if he will die. And you've spent that day signing the consent forms listing the risk factors for that same surgery.
It was easier not to have to answer that question duirng the 1st surgery, but then again he was only 14 days old. From your own experience, you know those can be the coldest, hardest days ever.
If you maybe tried a different perspective, you might get a different result.. Even given all of that, I'd still be happy to cheer your successes on. You are still young and have the world in front of you.....make the most of it,. Feel free to FR if you'd lke....
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Most of my old friends don't log in any longer. Lame.
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif. If you are focused on eating a salad and fitting into your size 2 pants and obsessed with getting that disgusting thigh gap...I don't think we are compatible. Sorry, its not me...it's you.
I want guy friends who are going to support a girl who is strong and wants to be stronger. If you dare say "don't get too jacked" I will throw a barbell at your face. If you think we will be homies, feel free to friend me.
Congratulations on being a cancer survivor. There many who dont survive that insidiousness & I commend you for your part in the battle to try and overcome it. Truly.
As to the rest? Your battle doesnt give you the right to judge anyone but yourself. Pick whatever friends you want and the type you want..I get that. But coming on this site and throwing judgements at other people for the choices they make is offensive to me.
Who gave you the right to decide that what's important to other people needed to be belittled? Are they sonehow "shallow" because they dont throw around barbells? Many people have worked their *kitten* off to fit into those size 2's & develop the discipline to eat that salad so they can continue to be healthy. Some of them have overcome things to get there that you couldnt fathom if you tried. If they dont fit your mold of whats acceptable, they are somehow inferior to you?
I am a man who offers as much support to those that I can, under the concept of pay it forward. On a daily basis, I try to support people who are strong on the outside and the inside. EVERY single person here has a bucket of crap to carry, just like you do. The difference is that most of us realize that ****ting on each other is counterproductive & the world already has enough of that.
In case you dont think I've walked anywhere close to in your shoes? Try having to answer your 8 year old son( and your only child) the night before his 2nd open heart surgery, when he asks you if he will die. And you've spent that day signing the consent forms listing the risk factors for that same surgery.
It was easier not to have to answer that question duirng the 1st surgery, but then again he was only 14 days old. From your own experience, you know those can be the coldest, hardest days ever.
If you maybe tried a different perspective, you might get a different result.. Even given all of that, I'd still be happy to cheer your successes on. You are still young and have the world in front of you.....make the most of it,. Feel free to FR if you'd lke....
Fsunami
All the love to you, my friend.
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+10!Most of my old friends don't log in any longer. Lame.
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif. If you are focused on eating a salad and fitting into your size 2 pants and obsessed with getting that disgusting thigh gap...I don't think we are compatible. Sorry, its not me...it's you.
I want guy friends who are going to support a girl who is strong and wants to be stronger. If you dare say "don't get too jacked" I will throw a barbell at your face. If you think we will be homies, feel free to friend me.
Congratulations on being a cancer survivor. There many who dont survive that insidiousness & I commend you for your part in the battle to try and overcome it. Truly.
As to the rest? Your battle doesnt give you the right to judge anyone but yourself. Pick whatever friends you want and the type you want..I get that. But coming on this site and throwing judgements at other people for the choices they make is offensive to me.
Who gave you the right to decide that what's important to other people needed to be belittled? Are they sonehow "shallow" because they dont throw around barbells? Many people have worked their *kitten* off to fit into those size 2's & develop the discipline to eat that salad so they can continue to be healthy. Some of them have overcome things to get there that you couldnt fathom if you tried. If they dont fit your mold of whats acceptable, they are somehow inferior to you?
I am a man who offers as much support to those that I can, under the concept of pay it forward. On a daily basis, I try to support people who are strong on the outside and the inside. EVERY single person here has a bucket of crap to carry, just like you do. The difference is that most of us realize that ****ting on each other is counterproductive & the world already has enough of that.
In case you dont think I've walked anywhere close to in your shoes? Try having to answer your 8 year old son( and your only child) the night before his 2nd open heart surgery, when he asks you if he will die. And you've spent that day signing the consent forms listing the risk factors for that same surgery.
It was easier not to have to answer that question duirng the 1st surgery, but then again he was only 14 days old. From your own experience, you know those can be the coldest, hardest days ever.
If you maybe tried a different perspective, you might get a different result.. Even given all of that, I'd still be happy to cheer your successes on. You are still young and have the world in front of you.....make the most of it,. Feel free to FR if you'd lke....
Fsunami
All the love to you, my friend.0 -
It was a joke. That's my personality. People come in all types of shapes and sizes, I love salad as well but it's not ALL I eat. I also don't starve myself down to be something I'm not. If that's the way you NATURALLY are, then that's great! That's all I was trying to state in this message. I want real people who are strong and proud of themselves. If you are going to get super defensive and negative... I'm all set.0
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Hello, I am sorry that I've seemed to offend you. Let me clarify a few things in regards to your post.
First and foremost, that was all meant to be a joke.
I'm not really concerned what people consider "healthy" because everyone is unique and everyone's definition of "fit" "healthy and "attractive' is different. I just posted this "looking for new friends" post because it is what I consider to be healthy and I am looking for people to motivate ME who share the same interests. It was not my intention to put people down. I didn't make negative comments on people's pictures or call anyone in particular out, I just simply posted a topic saying I would like to make some new friends who share the same interests (which happens to be weightlifting and becoming strong)
I stand behind my decision not to associate with negative people and people who insist on eating 500 calories a day and trying to look like someone from a concentration camp..that is not what I perceive as healthy. If you naturally look that way, that is another story..but starving oneself=not ok. Women (and even men) everywhere think that starving themselves to be super skinny is what needs to be done to be considered beautiful. I suffered from an eating disorder when I was young so if I choose not to be around people like that. That's MY prerogative and no one else's.
Like I said, if your goal is to look that way, I support that, that is just not someone who motivates me. I eat lots of salad as well but it's not all I eat. Who doesn't love a good salad?
Everyone has a story. Lots of people have been through things I can't even imagine. I don't use stage 4 cancer to make myself feel entitled to anything. In fact, lots of people I know don't even know I had it. I don't want to be "strong for a girl who had cancer", I want to be strong PERIOD. I don't use it as a crutch or even wonder "why me?". It happened, I kicked *kitten* and survived, and now its in the past.
I didn't come on here for "different results" . I didn't come on here to make lots of friends... I came on here for me. I want to be the best I can be and be motivated by people who share the same interests as me. I am not really one to care what other people think. You either love me or hate me and I'm ok with that because at the end of the day, I stick to my guns and I am 120% the woman I want to be.
+10!Most of my old friends don't log in any longer. Lame.
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif. If you are focused on eating a salad and fitting into your size 2 pants and obsessed with getting that disgusting thigh gap...I don't think we are compatible. Sorry, its not me...it's you.
I want guy friends who are going to support a girl who is strong and wants to be stronger. If you dare say "don't get too jacked" I will throw a barbell at your face. If you think we will be homies, feel free to friend me.
Congratulations on being a cancer survivor. There many who dont survive that insidiousness & I commend you for your part in the battle to try and overcome it. Truly.
As to the rest? Your battle doesnt give you the right to judge anyone but yourself. Pick whatever friends you want and the type you want..I get that. But coming on this site and throwing judgements at other people for the choices they make is offensive to me.
Who gave you the right to decide that what's important to other people needed to be belittled? Are they sonehow "shallow" because they dont throw around barbells? Many people have worked their *kitten* off to fit into those size 2's & develop the discipline to eat that salad so they can continue to be healthy. Some of them have overcome things to get there that you couldnt fathom if you tried. If they dont fit your mold of whats acceptable, they are somehow inferior to you?
I am a man who offers as much support to those that I can, under the concept of pay it forward. On a daily basis, I try to support people who are strong on the outside and the inside. EVERY single person here has a bucket of crap to carry, just like you do. The difference is that most of us realize that ****ting on each other is counterproductive & the world already has enough of that.
In case you dont think I've walked anywhere close to in your shoes? Try having to answer your 8 year old son( and your only child) the night before his 2nd open heart surgery, when he asks you if he will die. And you've spent that day signing the consent forms listing the risk factors for that same surgery.
It was easier not to have to answer that question duirng the 1st surgery, but then again he was only 14 days old. From your own experience, you know those can be the coldest, hardest days ever.
If you maybe tried a different perspective, you might get a different result.. Even given all of that, I'd still be happy to cheer your successes on. You are still young and have the world in front of you.....make the most of it,. Feel free to FR if you'd lke....
Fsunami
All the love to you, my friend.0 -
And now you understand the roadblocks to posting on a forum, where no one knows you, asking for friends. I'm glad this was a joke, but the reality is, when you are speaking to a new crowd (especially trying to use this kind of humor) it's better to err on the side of caution. Written words are all that matters, for no one can understand your intent or tone.
Congratulations on being a survivor. :flowerforyou:0 -
I didn't mean to insult you. If you naturally have a thigh gap, that's great! I certainly don't... but I also squat double my body weight. I just don't want women to feel like they should "have" to have the gap because beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. If you start squatting double body weight or more you are gonna build your quads and that gap will start to go away. It just happens. My post wasn't intended to bring anyone down.Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.0 -
Thanks. I'm sure there are lots of controversial posts on here besides mine. I happen to have a strange and sarcastic sense of humor. Lots of people don't get it. I will try to be cautious and tread lightly next time.And now you understand the roadblocks to posting on a forum, where no one knows you, asking for friends. I'm glad this was a joke, but the reality is, when you are speaking to a new crowd (especially trying to use this kind of humor) it's better to err on the side of caution. Written words are all that matters, for no one can understand your intent or tone.
Congratulations on being a survivor. :flowerforyou:0 -
I didn't mean to insult you. If you naturally have a thigh gap, that's great! I certainly don't... but I also squat double my body weight. I just don't want women to feel like they should "have" to have the gap because beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. If you start squatting double body weight or more you are gonna build your quads and that gap will start to go away. It just happens. My post wasn't intended to bring anyone down.Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
I'm getting quite a few chuckles out of you telling LiftHeavyAcrylics to squat. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0 -
Most of my old friends don't log in any longer. Lame.
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif. If you are focused on eating a salad and fitting into your size 2 pants and obsessed with getting that disgusting thigh gap...I don't think we are compatible. Sorry, its not me...it's you.
I want guy friends who are going to support a girl who is strong and wants to be stronger. If you dare say "don't get too jacked" I will throw a barbell at your face. If you think we will be homies, feel free to friend me.Thanks. I'm sure there are lots of controversial posts on here besides mine. I happen to have a strange and sarcastic sense of humor. Lots of people don't get it. I will try to be cautious and tread lightly next time.
Strange and sarcastic are fine. Lots of people do strange and sarcastic. The parts I put in bold are not - in my opinion - strange and sarcastic. They're insulting and reek of "I think I'm better than you." Like I said earlier, I came into this thread with the intention of adding you. I'm glad you actually recognize people have different goals than you and that that is ok.
As for this part that you wrote - "I stand behind my decision not to associate with negative people and people who insist on eating 500 calories a day and trying to look like someone from a concentration camp" - you never mentioned anything about that in your OP. So, standing behind it is an odd comment to make. However, my Jewish grandparents do appreciate your using the term concentration camp as a punchline. :flowerforyou:0 -
I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif.
You're not exactly thick.
Double bodyweight isn't that big a deal.0 -
Congrats on maxing out! Cardio is important for overall health, especially if you want to lose some body fat. I run and swim too because I like to stay limber and athletic. Either way, you are getting up and moving, I think that is wonderful!
Strength training is necessary for bone density and boosting your metabolism. Muscle burns more calories at rest than fat. Kudos for choosing to be strong!Hey!! Add me!
I just started lifting and found my max's last weekend. I will start the beginning of my lifting today! Woo Woo,, cant wait to get started. Still doing cardio but want to incorporate lifting in too. Not the salad eating, thigh gap wanting kinda gal either!!0 -
Well, I didn't... she said she squats her bodyweight..I said I squat double my bodyweight. I just thought she was curious why she still had a leg gap.I didn't mean to insult you. If you naturally have a thigh gap, that's great! I certainly don't... but I also squat double my body weight. I just don't want women to feel like they should "have" to have the gap because beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. If you start squatting double body weight or more you are gonna build your quads and that gap will start to go away. It just happens. My post wasn't intended to bring anyone down.Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
I'm getting quite a few chuckles out of you telling LiftHeavyAcrylics to squat. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0 -
Double body weight is an impressive squat. Respect for that. But it's still poor form to call a physical trait disgusting on a board fullof women and young girls with body image issues.0
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Not wanting to add fuel to the fire or get involved in the drama..
You came here asking for friends (in a way that ruffled a few feathers to say the least) and I would welcome your add.
I don't enjoy salad but I tolerate it, I don't lift weights but I am trying to befriend the gym. I have accepted that the only way I will ever attain the thigh gap would be to suck it out with an industrial strength hoover.0 -
Well, I didn't... she said she squats her bodyweight..I said I squat double my bodyweight. I just thought she was curious why she still had a leg gap.I didn't mean to insult you. If you naturally have a thigh gap, that's great! I certainly don't... but I also squat double my body weight. I just don't want women to feel like they should "have" to have the gap because beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. If you start squatting double body weight or more you are gonna build your quads and that gap will start to go away. It just happens. My post wasn't intended to bring anyone down.Well, I lift heavy and I squat my body weight but since I wear size 2 jeans, love salad (as well as most other foods including steak and ice cream) and have a "disgusting" thigh gap I guess I don't qualify.
Just as well. I prefer it when women can build other women up rather than insulting them.
I'm getting quite a few chuckles out of you telling LiftHeavyAcrylics to squat. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
If you thought I was asking why I have a thigh gap you misread my post.0 -
wiaf doesn't mean thick. I just don't want to be blown over by the breeze.I need some lady friends that like to lift weights and be STRONG..not a waif.
You're not exactly thick.
Double bodyweight isn't that big a deal.0
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