Stopping ahead of my targeted goal, alittle nervous

Adpalangi

Recent post with some replies that felt like they were bashing me. But, I did pay attention and ate every protien I could find today ( I seem to be loosing a lot of hair, and here it was brought to my attention that I wasn't getting the proper nutrients, esp protien and fat. Today I stuffed in a piece of bacon and two soft boiled eggs, and after dinner I had dark chocolate almonds,that with my regular daily diet, I went took in 1134 calories my fats went over and my protien was over by 6. My carbs, and sugar were within normal limits. There was something I wasn't thinking until this morning. My goal was set for 107, I am now 115. Over the weekend family commented on how good I've done, and they all asked if I was going to loose more, I told each one of them my goal. Responses ran rapid, all saying the say thing just differently. You should not loose anymore you will look sickly. In your face is starting to drupe, that ages you. I decided to just listen and be polite. This morning while trying to wake up I noticed under the upper part of my arm had wrinkles while resting it on the bed. The skin looked so different too, kinda like thin. In my stomach I am quite sure that is loose skin, not as noticeable but in my thighs I could feel the loose skin. And final factor was I looked at my face trying to see what they saw, and it was right in front of me sunken in jaws or cheeks, somewhere Inbetween the two. I thought and thought about it and decided I need to maintaine right where I am. It's not my target or goal, and it have to remind myself I'm 49 years old my skin probably will not just spring back to normal, and do I really want more loose skin - absolutely not. I need to be happy where I'm at. I look lean, my confidence has almost been restored, I feel healthier. That's more than enough to be grateful for. I will cont to eat as I have been, but at a higher calorie count. I may even see if I can tone any of this with weights. I've been saying that since I started and 20 weeks later I still haven't touched the weights. Now that I am looking at my body and not the scale I realize enough is enough, and I'm good with that. I think there would of been a lot less loose skin if I had exercised. I pray that I start and that it's not useless or too late.
Your writing, your blog is very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You are doing great, wishes for cont'd success.

itsbasschick

you don't mention your height, but it sounds like you're making a good decision.

btw, working out with weights and resistance machines is so much fun AND you get to eat more and be stronger and firmer. .

logg1e

You sound a bit down on yourself in your post when it's so full of your achievements! I'm sure your friends and family are right in some part, but remember they'll also have their own reasons and motivations for what they see and say.

At your age you don't us to tell you how to look after your skin - sun block, drink plenty of water, eat plenty of fruit and veg and use toner and moisturiser.

In terms of exercise, try a smorgasbord of new activities until you find what you enjoy.

Adpalangi

Your right I didn't say. I am 5ft even. Thanks for replying sure do appreciate your input

scorpiophoenix

I think you're making the right decision, too. You took the time to actually look at yourself honestly and decide off of what you saw. I think this is far healthier than sticking firm to some number that may not be right for you. Good luck with the toning! :flowerforyou:

Adpalangi

Yes I didn't realize that. But I am very happy and grateful for how I have done this far, and I don't want to make this a diet, I want it to stay as my lifestyle. Guess I was alittle bummed that my family thought I was going to look sickly, my therapist said they just aren't used to seeing me like this over the past 5 years or more. I'm afraid they might be seeing something I'm not. I really don't feel like I look as if I've lost a lot. I guess I'm dissappointed that the measuring tape still not showing much, that 25 lbs had to come from somewhere other than just my chest. And I'd like to work on those inches. Oh well I am far off better than I was 6 months ago.
Thanks for you reply, I do appreciate your time and kind words

Adpalangi

Thanks so much for validating what I decided, I don't want to look old or sickly, that would just be trading off one bad habbit/or look for another... Lol

pkw58

At age 55, soon to be 56, I find that I am focused on maintaining my weight plus or minus 3 pounds, working on my strength and endurance right now. I have found that protein and water and sleep really work well to make my skin "spring back".

Just a thought on "goal weight"... I had a doctor confirm mine. For years, weight watchers and the charts told me I needed to be about 10-15 pounds heavier than where I landed. Body frame matters. It is much easier for me to maintain where I am now than it was at a heavier goal.