weight loss comments

Tanie98

Do you enjoy getting weight loss comments? I find it akward when someone comment on my weight loss. At the same time its nice for others to regonize your hard work. How about you? Do you enjoy it, hate it or indifferent ?

Libertysfate

I'm like you, the simple comments are nice. If they get all dramatic about it like "Oh my God...!" It makes me uncomfortable.
I noticed I'm getting a lot of thin-shaming, too.

Jim_Barteck

I can understand the mixed feelings.

One the one hand, someone is saying something nice about you and recognizing the effort that you're putting into making changes. On the other, they are at least unintentionally reminding you that had gotten to a place where you felt those changes became necessary - so not a totally comfortable feeling there.

I already own where I had let myself go. It would be foolish of me not to recognize that other people noticed it too. It's not like you can exactly hide an extra 50 pounds of weight So those people who notice my weight loss now? They're the same people who knew me at my highest weight too and who were also considerate enough not to have made comments about just how overweight I used to be. So their intent is clearly not to be rude or hurtful - even if we may internalize their comments that way because of our own issues in coming to grips with where we are/were.

I take weight loss comments in the spirit in which they are intended: supportive and positive. I use them as further motivation and inspiration to keep doing what I was doing for myself anyway

mhlew

I cant wait for my first weight loss comment. So far I am 10.5 pounds down according to last Saturday weigh in. From waht ive heard it takes about 20-25 pounds lost for people to start to comment.

BlueBombers

Doesn't bother me.

seltzermint555

In general, I like it. But I do get a bit uncomfortable when people are over the top about it. There are a few cashiers (mostly women 15-20 yrs older than I am) at stores my husband and I frequent who make a big deal about our weight loss any time we go in. That is tired by now, I appreciated it the first couple of times but they don't need to keep on...

The only type of comments I really dislike are things like "OH I bet you FEEL soooo much BETTER now!" because I never felt bad, even 100+ lb heavier.

babydaisy81

When I lost about ten pounds I was so pumped and WAITING for someone to notice, and no one noticed Or just didnt want to say anything. Now I am down 20 and people have started comments like "skinny" and "tiny" and I don't like that because I am in no way skinny, I must have just been that chunky before that I look normal now. Or something. If someone would say that my dedication to the gym is paying off, I'd take that compliment and run! As I type it seems I will never be happy compliment wise! lol

TheSatinPumpkin

In general i don't mind and i keep my response short yet polite however our Father at Mass would every now and then ask the congregation to continue to pray for my WOE. That makes me feel uncomfortable as i have never told or asked anyone (with the exception of my wife and WOE forums) for their support. Just something personal i am doing for myself.

Liftng4Lis

Oh I love it when someone notices, because it shows my work is paying off!

callmestephanie

My husband's family comment a lot and it's a bit embarrassing because they are always like "Omg you're losing so much weight" and "how are you doing it, it' soooo hard, I need to lose too" (they aren't big)... I hate being the center of attention, especially about something as delicate as weight. Plus I haven't lost MUCH since they started commenting (5-10lbs but I'm like 100lbs over weight so 5-10lbs is nothing)... or sometimes I even maintain or gain a little. It's awkward having to say I didn't lose anything and... I dunno... it's just weird to me. haha

logg1e

I smile and say thank you. Saying that, I've not had anyone gush, which I can imagine is a bit uncomfortable.

focusedonfitness2015

I wish! No one says a damn word to me about it. Even got the comment this morning from a co-worker..."Oh, you've lost weight?" because I was wearing jeans I haven't fit into for over a year. Geesh!

DjinnMarie

The comments I receive are negative, so no. I don't like them.

caracrawford1

Sometimes. Its when they go on and on about it that makes me feel weird.

toscarthearmada

The only comments that I didn't like when the ones where people were telling me I was TOO thin.

Have you never received a compliment about the way you look? Does it make you uncomfortable because you're not use to the attention? They've got to get use to the "new you" too.

Good news, after a while it goes away. Enjoy it while you can.

martinel2099

I want to hear them. I do this for myself but it's nice to hear that it's noticeable.

cstroh13

I it depends on what they say. If they make comments about why I was overweight or anything other than "good job, you look great" then I get uncomfortable/upset. I know why I am overweight, I know it's unhealthy, but that is a topic for me and my doctor to discuss not anyone else. I don't like advice unless it's positive either. "try not to lose weight too quickly or eat healthy"...common sense I don't need to be reminded a million times. I don't like being lied to either. When I haven't lost any inches or pounds and people will say I look like I've lost weight as a compliment kind of hurts. but when it is true and they comment on my energy and point out what looks smaller that puts a smile on my face

GothyFaery

I think it depends on how the comment is made. I love hearing people say "Have you lost weight? You look good!" On the other hand if it's said differantly it can be awkward or even make me feel bad. Here's some bad ones I've heard:

-If you lose any more you're face is going to start sinking in.
-Damn you need to stop losing weight!
-Him: Damn you're getting skinny!
Me: Thank you
Him: Are you going to stop losing soon?
Me: Yeah, I'm about done. My husband jokes around and says I need to eat a cheeseburger. LOL
Him: Yeah, you really do. -_-

And then this one was just plain weird:
Her: I haven't seen you in a while. You look differnt
Me: Yeah. [awkwardly long pause] Thanks.
Her: [even longer awkwardly long pause] You look good.....[sounds like the sentence is still going but no, another long pause]
Me: thanks [runs away!]

So again, I think it's all in the delivery.

climbing_trees

I never felt fat or sick, but I wanted more attention, so I started losing weight.
So... I love all the comments!
:P

carrieliz81

I generally find them awkward, and it makes me feel uncomfortable... but, I'm also socially awkward. Also, being overweight is embarrassing to me, so I am also embarrassed when people make comments about my weight, even if they are supportive and positive. I tend to just blush, stammer about awkwardly for a few seconds, and immediately change the subject. I just don't know what to say! I suppose "thanks" would be an option, but that feels weird too, and then I never know where the conversation is supposed to go...... I'm feeling nervous just thinking about it! Sigh. :-) :-)

kmsnyg

I love it, assuming it's well intentioned (really a compliment, and not a backhanded compliment).

One member of my family loves to give the backhanded compliments. Like, "Good job with losing weight, it's about time you did something about it."

toiletski

I'd much rather have the awkward compliments than the "OMG when are you due??"

denise31992

I have lost 10lbs, and no one notices
That is okay though because as others have mentioned, some people can be mean and make big deals about weight loss.

Quick example. When I did start to gain weight in college, some noticed and would point it out. Now that I am pretty much close to the weight I used to be, those same people shame me for even trying to lose the weight.

So, sometimes it does make me uncomfortable.

TheSatinPumpkin

Feel the same too lol.

I generally find them awkward, and it makes me feel uncomfortable... but, I'm also socially awkward. Also, being overweight is embarrassing to me, so I am also embarrassed when people make comments about my weight, even if they are supportive and positive. I tend to just blush, stammer about awkwardly for a few seconds, and immediately change the subject. I just don't know what to say! I suppose "thanks" would be an option, but that feels weird too, and then I never know where the conversation is supposed to go...... I'm feeling nervous just thinking about it! Sigh. :-) :-)

corgarian

I've lost about 26 pounds and now I get complaments alll the time. For the most part it is nice that people notice my hard work, but there is this one woman who works in my building and she ALWAYS makes some kind of comment, and its getting awkward. She also feels the need to tell me about her "fat" (her words) daughter, and that makes me super uncomfortable.

Empty_Calories

The comments I receive are negative, so no. I don't like them.

Who is make negative comments? You look awesome. Seriously.



For me, it's always a mixed bag. I had a couple friends tell me I looked great last weekend which I really appreciated. However, there's always the subtle implication that I didn't look great before and that's a little tougher to accept. Part of it is I just need to better own that I let myself go for awhile and enjoy the compliments now. Overall, it is nice for people to recognize your dedication and the results it's achieved but I don't like when it's made to be a big deal one way or the other.

GothyFaery

Oh another one that makes you feel bad!

"Do you remember how fat you used to be?! [pulls up old picture from group work outing where I looked really bad] Look at those hamhawks! You actually have legs now! Look how fat your face was! Good job losing all that!"

Yeah, that's not a good comment. The really sad thing is he went on for like 5 minutes with 2 other co-workers standing by. He wasn't trying to be mean or anything. He really was trying to say I had done good but the words he chose just made me feel like *kitten*.

CPRsMom

I can't wait for the comments!

toiletski

I even appreciate the "negative" comments about how I used to look, because it's not like I'm not in agreement with my past appearance. I thought I looked awful, so I changed it. People don't really tell you when you look awful that you look awful because that would be mean, but when you work hard to change it and they tell you "WOW you look really good NOW," that's completely ok because I agree! I DO look good now!

Unknown

This content has been removed.

astroophys

I like it!

It's great to know that the physical changes are obvious to others and not just to me. When I notice the changes, it's really not that big of a deal because I can notice the most minuscule of changes, like a pair of jeans becoming slightly looser around the thigh (aka much easier to put on, less to no resistance). But, when someone else notices, it means that there has been on full-body physical change, and getting such feedback is awesome!