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Do guys find it weird if a girl......

porcelain_doll
porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
edited September 2024 in Chit-Chat
...... hasn't had a boyfriend in a long time? Like, years? Is it even an issue, or do they think that "something must be wrong/weird/etc. about her?" Just looking for a general opinion here. Thanks!
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  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    does it depend on what she's doing with herself? like school, or career?
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    I don't believe so.
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    Nope. Thats not wierd.
  • Scorpiomom222
    Scorpiomom222 Posts: 1,462 Member
    I don't understand why it might be an issue. My mom doesn't want to be with anyone, because the few times she has trusted someone enough, she got hurt REALLY bad. She hasn't been with anyone in over 5 years.
  • TateFTW
    TateFTW Posts: 658 Member
    Not as far as I'm concerned. It could be something to make me think if it's combined with other factors, but no big deal in and of itself.

    edit; I'd find it more of a red flag if she had ALWAYS been with someone. The girls who always need a guy are the ones with issues, generally speaking.
  • ironmule2042
    ironmule2042 Posts: 103
    Don't fret it's not weird at all. :-)
  • XFitMojoMom
    XFitMojoMom Posts: 3,255 Member
    not even a booty call? a friend with benefits?
    I don't think there is anything wrong with not having someone "steady" in your life, but I'd be a little curious how one could go without a little outside affection... you know, other than the B.o.B (Battery operated Boyfriend...)
  • 00trayn
    00trayn Posts: 1,849 Member
    The guy I'm seeing has been pretty cool with the fact that he's the first guy I've dated seriously. He knew that fairly early on and it's worked great. He's also 7 yrs older than me, I just never really dated in college and I graduated last year. I think most guys don't really care. Things have worked out really well for the two of us so far.
  • TulsaTim
    TulsaTim Posts: 87
    These days I don't think guys think it is weird at all. I imagine that most men that are worth a grain of salt, understand how busy life can get and sometimes there just isn't time for relationships.
  • scott24
    scott24 Posts: 132
    Not an issue at all - unless there is something else going on, it shows she is comfortable being herself. Actually the opposite of this is more of a red flag...IMHO.
  • racharla
    racharla Posts: 92 Member
    Naa....Naa..:smile: ...thats not a big deal ..
  • cgrave002
    cgrave002 Posts: 1
    As a guy I do not find it wierd, you never know what is going in with a person unless you try to get to know them.:smile:
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    IDK. I'm not dating and have no intention to. I dislike affection so it's not so hard for me to stay single. I don't crave that attention like some people do. Since the divorce I'm just so jaded by the whole idea of being in a relationship. One day when I feel like I'm ready, I will put myself out there but it won't be for a long while. I don't see how it's an issue unless there's some other factors at work.
  • apeman
    apeman Posts: 82
    It probably won't matter much if he's into the woman (or vise verse). Could be an issue if it matures and that time away from dating makes it so the person is unable to deal with some of the things you need to compromise on when dating someone. Just my two cents.
  • Charlie001
    Charlie001 Posts: 354
    If a guy is into you, he will not care if you were a nun until today.
  • DancingDreamer
    DancingDreamer Posts: 520
    not even a booty call? a friend with benefits?
    I don't think there is anything wrong with not having someone "steady" in your life, but I'd be a little curious how one could go without a little outside affection... you know, other than the B.o.B (Battery operated Boyfriend...)

    as a note to this....some of us dont WANT something casual and would rather just rely on Mr.Batteries to do the job. i've got nothing against people who have friends with benefits at all, i just dont wanna do that, myself. and i know i'm not the only one.
  • ZebraHead
    ZebraHead Posts: 15,207 Member
    @NYDoll - I don't think it is an issue at all. I hope you are fretting over it. :flowerforyou:

    You should not have to explain yourself to anyone or clarify your 'dating' situation to anyone.
  • hpsnickers1
    hpsnickers1 Posts: 2,783 Member
    I don't understand why it might be an issue. My mom doesn't want to be with anyone, because the few times she has trusted someone enough, she got hurt REALLY bad. She hasn't been with anyone in over 5 years.


    Love your signature!
  • hpsnickers1
    hpsnickers1 Posts: 2,783 Member
    not even a booty call? a friend with benefits?
    I don't think there is anything wrong with not having someone "steady" in your life, but I'd be a little curious how one could go without a little outside affection... you know, other than the B.o.B (Battery operated Boyfriend...)

    as a note to this....some of us dont WANT something casual and would rather just rely on Mr.Batteries to do the job. i've got nothing against people who have friends with benefits at all, i just dont wanna do that, myself. and i know i'm not the only one.

    nothing wrong with Mr. Batteries!! He can be the perfect boyfriend. He does everything you ask and no back talk!
  • yanicka
    yanicka Posts: 1,004 Member
    That is nice to know!!!! I have been single for almost 5 years. I just do not had the time with my carreer, my buisness, my kids and taking care of myself.
  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
    not even a booty call? a friend with benefits?
    I don't think there is anything wrong with not having someone "steady" in your life, but I'd be a little curious how one could go without a little outside affection... you know, other than the B.o.B (Battery operated Boyfriend...)

    as a note to this....some of us dont WANT something casual and would rather just rely on Mr.Batteries to do the job. i've got nothing against people who have friends with benefits at all, i just dont wanna do that, myself. and i know i'm not the only one.

    Thor's man and I have been FWB for over 6 months now. Now we're in that awkward "Sould we take it a step further or not?" Time.
  • dothompson
    dothompson Posts: 1,184 Member
    Generally guys don't think about that at all. We don't ever think about your prior relationships unless you bring it up. So if you're worried, don't mention it.

    We are extremely simple.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    ...and lets be honest. If you are attractive, you can overlook A LOT! firedevil.gif
  • DancingDreamer
    DancingDreamer Posts: 520
    not even a booty call? a friend with benefits?
    I don't think there is anything wrong with not having someone "steady" in your life, but I'd be a little curious how one could go without a little outside affection... you know, other than the B.o.B (Battery operated Boyfriend...)

    as a note to this....some of us dont WANT something casual and would rather just rely on Mr.Batteries to do the job. i've got nothing against people who have friends with benefits at all, i just dont wanna do that, myself. and i know i'm not the only one.

    Thor's man and I have been FWB for over 6 months now. Now we're in that awkward "Sould we take it a step further or not?" Time.

    mmmhm and i've had friends before that have gone from FWB to more than that and also from FWB to just plain friends again. like i said, nothing against it, just not my thing. :)
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    ...and lets be honest. If you are attractive, you can overlook A LOT! firedevil.gif

    Exactly, I think how long since you dated comes pretty low on most guys list of things he thinks about a woman... not only if she is good looking but if the two of you get along.
  • butterflyfaerie
    butterflyfaerie Posts: 100 Member
    ...... hasn't had a boyfriend in a long time? Like, years? Is it even an issue, or do they think that "something must be wrong/weird/etc. about her?" Just looking for a general opinion here. Thanks!

    I hope not! I haven't had one in about 8 years :( (And considering I'm only 22, thats way too long)
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
    does it depend on what she's doing with herself? like school, or career?
    No, not really. Just the time factor itself.
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
    I appreciate the responses. Thank you! I never really knew what the general thought was on the matter. I haven't had one in a long time (like you didn't figure that out already, ha ha). I don't really know why. I guess between college, then working full-time, and being shy/not meeting a whole lot of people, I haven't clicked with anybody. I'm pretty comfortable being single and independent, but I would like to find someone sooner or later.

    (Not into the FWB/booty-call thing, as a sidenote...... just not my cup of tea. Can't leave my emotions out of that kind of stuff. :blushing: )

    Thanks again for your posts. :heart:
  • TooFine4MFP
    TooFine4MFP Posts: 134 Member
    I haven't dated in over 2 yrs by choice because since becoming saved and giving my life to Christ, I promised God I would not date anyone unless it was my husband that He sends me. But even before that I was never one that had to have a boyfriend all the time. If a guy finds it strange that you haven't had a boyfriend in a while, then he's probably immature LOL. Love is a wonderful thing to have, but there is so much more to life than having a boyfriend all the time. LOL :wink:
  • chelekaz
    chelekaz Posts: 847 Member
    I was one of those girls who wore their hearts on their sleeves. I fell in love with a long time friend after we graduated and we got engaged. A few months later due to family issues (mama's boy couldn't stand up to mama about being engaged... she loved me before... despised me after the ring was on?). Anyways, I was really hurt and I did not date anyone in the following 3 years. The next guy that I dated did not find it weird at all. He said that he would rather that I not be with a steady stream of guys or with "anyone" just for the sake of being in a relationship. ..... that said... I did have my BF's brother in law in the shadows. We'd all go out and party and sometimes, if the mood struck...we'd hook up. We were great friends before, during and now so it's all cool though.
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