holidays suck...HELP

jhebert87

Not only does this time of year suck dieting wise but I also have more problems this year. It's my first Christmas single in 5 years.... I feel like nothing I have done since August has been right at all.... I've moved 5 times in the past month and a half and I lost 3 really great jobs.... my whole world is falling apart... my friends are all getting married right and left and I have an $800 wedding gown sitting in my closet and wedding invitations written out that were never sent... I just feel so lost and confused and just done with everything... my diet is beyond help at this point.... I went from going to the gym or at least a run everyday to not really caring anymore... I'm starting to think that people were right when they said I just wasn't good enough.... I really need help getting out of this slump... Any suggestions?

HealthyChanges2010

Not only does this time of year suck dieting wise but I also have more problems this year. It's my first Christmas single in 5 years.... I feel like nothing I have done since August has been right at all.... I've moved 5 times in the past month and a half and I lost 3 really great jobs.... my whole world is falling apart... my friends are all getting married right and left and I have an $800 wedding gown sitting in my closet and wedding invitations written out that were never sent... I just feel so lost and confused and just done with everything... my diet is beyond help at this point.... I went from going to the gym or at least a run everyday to not really caring anymore... I'm starting to think that people were right when they said I just wasn't good enough.... I really need help getting out of this slump... Any suggestions?

Just do anyway! If ppl said you couldn't do it, what a great motivator to get out and do it! Pick yourself up and start walking, empty out the cupboards of junk, the fridge of crappy foods, take out that trash. Fill the fridge with healthy choices. Set a workout time for tomorrow morning and keep to the same workout schedule and eating schedule each day to build a routine back. Love to run, start running again, enjoy a good walk (if you're living in a warmer climate) head out for a nice Sunday a.m walk, hit the gym, buy a punch card for a Zumba class if you don't belong to a gym, check Zumba, pole fitness, kickboxing, etc. etc. videos out on You tube at no cost. Got Netflix? Lots of instant workout vids on there that are all levels of fitness.

It can be done and YOU CAN DO IT. How bad do you want it? You sound sad and in a slump, though we can help you by inspiring and giving you a push, motivation comes from within. You have to WANT it BAD. Prove to yourself that you can change where you are now to where you wanna be. You've gone through some sad and tough things but doesn't mean you should give up Hon. All of us have had our pain and we have to keep going because really? What's the alternative? Giving up? Nah....that's not much fun....

Jump on one of the threads and join in and get accountable...you'll see it makes a world of difference if you do this with others and keep accountable. Start off simple, join the water thread, the fast food thread...

Wishing you well:drinker:

ucaminax

I don't really have a good suggestion because I'm in a bit of a slump myself. I just want to lend some support and prayers that someting turns around for you soon. Try not to give up on the weigt loss and exercise-it seems that with all of themoving and job loss and ending of a relationship, it may be one of the few things right now that you can control to some extent. By sticking with it, it will give you some routine, more energy, and help combat depression. You already have a very good start. And the fact that you are only 23 in itself is great, it's a lot to be happy for-and I know that sounds condescending but I don't mean it that way. I would LOVE to be 23 again (only I'd want to go back knowing what I know now, lol)-it seems like I was just there yesterday, and now I'm almost 40! What I miss about 23-much nicer skin; lots of time ahead of me to go back to school/travel/move/try different jobs; being responsible only for me and my cat; being able to go to the gym whenever the mood caught me, without having to arrange childcare, waking up with no aches and pains; being single and flirting and getting flirted with; having my dad alive; more friendships, and the list could go on. Hugs to you!

marniehodges

What people said that you weren't really good enough?! Whoever they are, I strongly suggest that you kick them to the curb! Gonna use some "tough love" here, but you need to snap out of it! You are good enough and you do have worth! I don't even know you and I can say that. We all have something to offer and give in this world. Go to the mirror right now, look in, and see you! Really see you! And there is no rule that says you have to be married just because your friends are getting married. Celebrate with them, but know that you are just as much valued with or without a spouse. Jeez, you probably think I'm a psycho, but you need to love yourself before anybody else can, friends included. I wish you luck and hugs in finding your way, and if you need a friend, look me up :flowerforyou:

Starlyte123

Can't say I haven't been where you are but now that i'm past that time I can truly say...tell them all to suck it! You are good enough and you can do it! One of these days you're gonna look back on all this and just shake your head. Everyone on here seems to be behind you as am I. Keep your head up!

robynrae_1

Not only does this time of year suck dieting wise but I also have more problems this year. It's my first Christmas single in 5 years.... I feel like nothing I have done since August has been right at all.... I've moved 5 times in the past month and a half and I lost 3 really great jobs.... my whole world is falling apart... my friends are all getting married right and left and I have an $800 wedding gown sitting in my closet and wedding invitations written out that were never sent... I just feel so lost and confused and just done with everything... my diet is beyond help at this point.... I went from going to the gym or at least a run everyday to not really caring anymore... I'm starting to think that people were right when they said I just wasn't good enough.... I really need help getting out of this slump... Any suggestions?

First I think you need to come to terms with the ended relationship. You have move 5 time and you are still holding on to the wedding invitations, they need to go. I you can't let go keep ONE for yourself, and toss the rest. The dress will take longer to come to terms with getting rid of.

The people who think the you aren't good enough, need to be kicked in the head. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Those people where trying to hurt you and bring you down. Don't let them. Those people don't belong in your life, the people who love you would never say those things. Kick them to the curb. (If it family I am sorry but you don't need that, and you might just limit your time with them.)

There is no shame in getting professinal help, even if it is for a short period of time. Just talking to someone will help. You are in a slump and you need help.

jhebert87

Not only does this time of year suck dieting wise but I also have more problems this year. It's my first Christmas single in 5 years.... I feel like nothing I have done since August has been right at all.... I've moved 5 times in the past month and a half and I lost 3 really great jobs.... my whole world is falling apart... my friends are all getting married right and left and I have an $800 wedding gown sitting in my closet and wedding invitations written out that were never sent... I just feel so lost and confused and just done with everything... my diet is beyond help at this point.... I went from going to the gym or at least a run everyday to not really caring anymore... I'm starting to think that people were right when they said I just wasn't good enough.... I really need help getting out of this slump... Any suggestions?

First I think you need to come to terms with the ended relationship. You have move 5 time and you are still holding on to the wedding invitations, they need to go. I you can't let go keep ONE for yourself, and toss the rest. The dress will take longer to come to terms with getting rid of.

The people who think the you aren't good enough, need to be kicked in the head. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Those people where trying to hurt you and bring you down. Don't let them. Those people don't belong in your life, the people who love you would never say those things. Kick them to the curb. (If it family I am sorry but you don't need that, and you might just limit your time with them.)

There is no shame in getting professinal help, even if it is for a short period of time. Just talking to someone will help. You are in a slump and you need help.

robynrae_1 you have my wedding gown

jhebert87

Thank you all for your support... to be completely honest I have never really been comfortable with my self and my ex fiance was really the only one that I thought was attracted to me... I never really saw myself like he did... I think it's just hard for me to accept it all

valmaebel

You're only 23! Now is the time to be enjoying the fact that you are unattached and able to go where you please! I know how hard it can be to be single, but this is a great time for you to start meeting some awesome girl (and guy) friends to just go have fun with! As for the diet and exercise. Find what motivates you. I had to go to a dietician for my cholesterol and liver count. She gave me some ideas of great healthy ways to have special treats. Skinny cow ice cream bars, nutrigrain waffles (kellogs frozen waffles, with tons of fiber). My trick, I scheduled a meal or snack every couple of hours. I had specific things I ate, that kept me in my calorie zone. This way when I really wanted to snack, it was never more than an hour or so until I got to eat next which was easier for me to hold off till. I always gave myself a skinny cow or a weight watchers ice cream snack at the end of the day as my reward. That, and I gave myself a day off here and there (every few months on the holidays) to just eat and not worry. Hope this helps! Go out and meet new people!

BTW.....first grade is awesome to teach! I taught first grade for 3-4 years before I had my first kiddo and I had a blast! Just bring your lunch, school lunches are super high in fat and cholesterol!

robynrae_1

sorry hun

I waited till I was 30 to get married. All of my friend and famil got married early in life 21, 22, 23.. They are all divorced, they have all told me that when they got married they had douts. I had non, I know I am with the person I am ment to be with BECAUSE I waited. If I married the guy I was with right out of high school, I would be divored to.

buck1994

Okay this may seem a little harsh, but...
Burn the invitations, sell the dress and get rid of EVERYTHING from your past "life". Write out a list of goals for the next six months and start working on them. It can be anything...diet, exercise, starting a new habit or stopping an old one...Pull up your boot straps, stand up and take a step FORWARD. If you need support, you can always come back here for a kind word or a kick in the *kitten*. :-)