Unsupportive Family/Friends?

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  • cherrilovee
    cherrilovee Posts: 194 Member
    "Accept the way you are"
    Umm, there's a difference between accepting it and staying that way or accepting it and wanting to change.
    If you feel like you can lose some weight in a healthy fashion, DO IT. Forget about what family and friends think about it.
    It's YOUR life, not THEIRS.
    If they're jealous that you're reaching a healthy lifestyle and they're not even close, that's their problem.
    You can't help them if they don't want the help.
    You do you. Let her do her.
    You've done a great job with cutting calories and that's your journey.
    A lot of people may not accept it or agree with it, but you always have your MFP family to lean back on.
    At least you know that we'll always support you no matter what.
  • JordanMK_
    JordanMK_ Posts: 54 Member
    I find more motivation in all my MFP friends than all my family together!
  • Brooklyn703
    Brooklyn703 Posts: 18 Member
    For pushy food people---there's always at least one in your life---it's best not to bring up the reason why you are not eating. It only gives them the opportunity to challenge you. It's a difficult balancing act that I still find challenging at times. I have a few things I do.

    1. Make a joke out of it. There is a girl I know who pushes food and drinks on you and will not take no for an answer. I normally say to her 'boy--you should consider being a drug dealer with the way you are pushing that food" or " you really get bothered if people don't eat food" (make them aware of their behavior. It's worked for me to get them to get them to stop)
    2. Lie - for the BBQ invite or similar event, I would have said that I can't make it, I have plans.
    3. Ways to respond to pushy food people - just ate and I'm stuffed. I don't like [insert food here]. I'm feeling a bit nauseous and I'm staying away from spicy food... I'm on antibiotics and I can't drink.

    Since she is your godmother, it's trickier because it's hard to avoid her. The most important thing is to not mention diet, calories. It only gives her a opening to react.
  • NH_1970
    NH_1970 Posts: 544 Member
    Don't bother explaining yourself next time. It will fall on deaf ears and you will just end up as frustrated as you were writing this post ha. Sad that she thinks it's about finding a man. Those mentalities..
    This :heart:

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