Moving back in with family is hard

KameHameHaaaa

Having been obese my entire life I've had my fair share of insults thrown at me by people. But those were all strangers, people I was never going to see again or not see for long. But family... man. I just can't escape. They're my biggest demotivators. Even being almost 80 lbs down now. I started out at such a high weight, and I'm around them all the time now, I'm just going to assume they can't even tell I've lost any.

At first it was just depressing. I'd just smile and take it. But now that I'm "fighting back" when people comment, I'M singled out as the aggressor/troublemaker/b*tch.

Anyway... just needed an almost-late-night venting session. Everything from my dad saying (in front of company) "no offense but you throw up all the time", to my sister in a crowded grocery store going "uh you reeeeally don't need THAT" while I'm picking out food items, to my other sister laughing at me when I told her I had a fitness and diet IG... -_- I'm really starting to dislike these people, and feeling disconnected and no family type love for them at all anymore. Blaaah...

Well rant over. Thanks for listening.

Liftng4Lis

Congratulations on your loss, keep up the great work! You need to get away from these toxic people!

missh1967

I am sorry you have to deal with that. Your family should be your biggest cheerleaders! I'd bet my bottom dollar they have noticed, but they seem too stingy to say anything nice about it to you. You are a very strong person to have already lost nearly 80 pounds. Keep going! We will be your cheerleaders!

cheripugh1

Having been obese my entire life I've had my fair share of insults thrown at me by people. But those were all strangers, people I was never going to see again or not see for long. But family... man. I just can't escape. They're my biggest demotivators. Even being almost 80 lbs down now. I started out at such a high weight, and I'm around them all the time now, I'm just going to assume they can't even tell I've lost any.

At first it was just depressing. I'd just smile and take it. But now that I'm "fighting back" when people comment, I'M singled out as the aggressor/troublemaker/b*tch.

Anyway... just needed an almost-late-night venting session. Everything from my dad saying (in front of company) "no offense but you throw up all the time", to my sister in a crowded grocery store going "uh you reeeeally don't need THAT" while I'm picking out food items, to my other sister laughing at me when I told her I had a fitness and diet IG... -_- I'm really starting to dislike these people, and feeling disconnected and no family type love for them at all anymore. Blaaah...

Well rant over. Thanks for listening.

Sounds like your family isn't real good for you, maybe you can find a way to live away from them?

My bigger concern/question is why does your dad say: "no offense but you throw up all the time" are you throwing up to reduce calories?

If you are Bulimic you need to get some help and it is easy to fall into that condition when you are trying so hard to lose and nothing is working or not working as fast as you want it too but it is super unhealthy, it will destroy your teeth, it will destroy your heart and the hard the rest of your body, some of the damage is not reversible so please if this is a problem for you find someone professional to talk to about it. Just google it and go from there... you matter, so take all the steps you need to, to get healthy and feel good about the great job you are doing and to heck with those who don't see it, it is their loss!

KameHameHaaaa

My bigger concern/question is why does your dad say: "no offense but you throw up all the time" are you throwing up to reduce calories?

If you are Bulimic you need to get some help and it is easy to fall into that condition when you are trying so hard to lose and nothing is working or not working as fast as you want it too but it is super unhealthy, it will destroy your teeth, it will destroy your heart and the hard the rest of your body, some of the damage is not reversible so please if this is a problem for you find someone professional to talk to about it. Just google it and go from there... you matter, so take all the steps you need to, to get healthy and feel good about the great job you are doing and to heck with those who don't see it, it is their loss!

Nope, I'm not bulimic but re-reading my post I can see why you'd ask. I have a binge eating problem (which is how I got to be over 400 lbs in the first place), no purging. I still occasionally binge when I'm emotional which is why, even though I've lost a lot of weight, It's been a very slow progress.

I have extreme social anxiety. I currently have no insurance and recently quit my new job (because of the anxiety). This problem makes me feel like I'm dying, like my body is physically shutting down. When it's really bad sometimes I'll end up throwing up out of terror. It's happened four times since I've moved back in with my family (been with them 8 months), three times at home and once at my new job that I subsequently walked out of. I hadn't even eaten a couple of those times, it was mostly stomach acid and dry heaving. I did see a couple doctors about it, but both of them threw diet pills (apidex/phentermine) at me saying my self esteem problems and anxiety was because I was obese >_< I can barely afford the self pay options for a regular doctor, so seeing a specialist is gonna take awhile to achieve! heh.

Ah well, right now I'm just working on trying to find a job. With the job will come insurance and with the insurance will come doctors etc. What does help me is holing up in my room and browsing the forums sometimes. May not be the healthiest thing staying in my room alone for long periods of time but it keeps my mind clear enough to at least apply for jobs online.

Thanks for the replies and support guys.