No hope...

emmab852012
emmab852012 Posts: 82 Member
in Motivation and Support
I have lost all hope of loosing weight.

I don't know how to stay motivated. I can't get my food addiction in check. I hate myself more and more...

any ideas on how to keep going. I have been on this journey way to long and am not seeing any results...

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  • AidensMommy051789
    AidensMommy051789 Posts: 3
    I know how you feel...I am there right now as we speak...Just keep working at it...if you are the slowest...still lapping those on the couch...
  • georgiagreeneyes
    georgiagreeneyes Posts: 69 Member
    I am sorry that you are feeling this way right now. One thing that I started trying when I felt especially down was to write down 5 things that I had done well that week or things about myself that I felt positive about. Doing this helped me change my state of mind from focusing on what I couldn't do or hadn't done to a more positive mindset.

    Also I am not sure if motivational quotes or images help, but I put up motivational quotes and pictures that are great pick me ups (Pinterest has some great examples: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/218635756884225278/). It's alright to feel frustrated, just try to channel it into something positive! Don't give up, you can and will reach your goals!
  • ThePhoenixIsRising
    ThePhoenixIsRising Posts: 781 Member
    Motivation doesn't get you through the hard times, habit does!
    Motivation doesn't last, habits do!

    Motivation is what gets you started, but if you don't make sustainable habits you won't be able to fight past the times you lose motivation. Do you need motivation to shower and go to work, or is it just what you do? This is the same thing. You don't have to always be excited or even want to do it, you just have to do it.
  • EmilyPersephone
    EmilyPersephone Posts: 77
    I literally know how you feel. I plateaued at the beginning of the summer, despite trying very hard to keep it up and it just sent me into an awful depression.

    What really made a difference for me was when I would start to feel upset and frustrated, instead of curling up and crying I put on my shoes and went for an epic walk. Especially in the middle of the night when I couldn't sleep. It really helped me clear my head, and after a few weeks I started to notice that I had been angry walking enough that I was seeing results again. I've always heard the quote "A bad day makes a great workout" but I never really believed it until I started doing my angry walks, haha.
    Sometimes we set goals and make plans and when it doesn't all happen as fast as we hoped, it messes us up.

    The last few weeks I haven't counted a single calorie or carb, and have had a few cheat days where I have sat on my couch with peanut butter and a Castle marathon, but I have also gone down another 2 inches in my waist, so it seems that I am more successful when I'm not stressing hardcore over exactly what I eat, and how many reps I do.

    Obviously things vary person to person, but this was my personal experience and what helped me. Maybe some of it will help you as well, and if it doesn't, I hope something does! Because I know how you feel and it sucks to feel that way. If you ever need someone to talk to or rant at about it, feel free to message/add me! =]
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    I have struggled with food addiction too, and have to be careful not to go to extremes. So I try to be good enough, not perfect. 80% is good enough. 100% is impossible.
  • Cheekies_
    Cheekies_ Posts: 319 Member
    I'm so sorry you are feeling hopeless.

    I have always done great for a week or two then crashed with a 3-day eating binge. This caused me to lose and gain the same 4-5 pounds for a really long time. For me, it turned around when I added friends as part of the MFP experience. It has made me look forward to logging in every day and seeing what everyone is up to. How are they getting their exercise in, what are they eating, etc. Very motivating! My MFP friends have made this a fun journey rather that a stressful one.

    Good luck to you.
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    You can't rely on motivation, it comes and goes.

    A few questions to ask yourself:

    Are you making this more difficult by being overly restrictive with too big of a deficit or by restricting foods?
    Are you logging and being honest with yourself?
    Why are you doing this?
    Are you ready to do this?
    Are you trying to be perfect and when you have a not perfect choice do you give up?

    Go for consistent over perfection 80% good choices/ 20% don't worry about.

    Here's some links to help:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide?hl=logging+step+guide

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
  • _Zardoz_
    _Zardoz_ Posts: 3,987 Member
    I have been on this journey way to long and am not seeing any results...
    According to your ticker you've lost 20 pounds. I'd count that as a result

    Have a look at the links posted above they will help. Motivation is fleeting it's habits that keep you going
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    You can't rely on motivation, it comes and goes.

    A few questions to ask yourself:

    Are you making this more difficult by being overly restrictive with too big of a deficit or by restricting foods?
    Are you logging and being honest with yourself?
    Why are you doing this?
    Are you ready to do this?
    Are you trying to be perfect and when you have a not perfect choice do you give up?

    Go for consistent over perfection 80% good choices/ 20% don't worry about.

    Here's some links to help:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide?hl=logging+step+guide

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    Seriously OP, this answer ^^^^
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    ^What everyone above me is telling you, and also, don't beat yourself up. You've lost 20 pounds according to your ticker. There's no time line. You don't have to do this quickly. You don't even have to stick with it 100% until you hit goal. Take it slowly. It's okay to have doubts. It's okay to stop losing for a short time then getting back to it.

    Just breathe and regroup.
  • radimage
    radimage Posts: 99
    The most important thing is to just keep trying.
  • Jaywalker_7
    Jaywalker_7 Posts: 68 Member
    I completely understand what you're feeling. I've been feeling that same way the past few weeks. I have struggled with food addiction for as long as I can remember. I feel like a whole week of doing well can be sabagoged so quickly, it can be very depressing. However, look at your ticker. You CAN lose weight because you already HAVE. I have been reminding myself of this DAILY lately because I've been really struggling. This is how I look at it...I just need to wake up everyday and TRY. Even if I do it all wrong. If I try everyday and screw up 75% of the time, maybe I'll lose 5 pounds by Christmas. Would I like to lose way more than that in that time frame? Absolutely. But I know if I don't try at all, I will be right back where I started in all this. What I've found by at least attempting to make an effort instead of totally throwing in the towel, is that my efforts do count. I am still eating way less than if I wasn't tracking and some days are actually good! There are so many people on here for support. I, along with others I'm sure, aren't pros at this and it's been a lifelong struggle. It is a slow learning process but you obviously can do it. Don't give up. You got this...
  • joanthemom8
    joanthemom8 Posts: 375 Member
    I would tell you take it one day at a time and maybe focus on one aspect at a time (like cutting back on soda, or logging food - even if you are eating poorly)... just take baby-steps until they start to accumulate.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    OP, I know you need more than motivational one-liners, so I just gonna leave this right here. These few threads are key (IMHO) to successful, sustainable weight loss without all the unnecessary misery.

    Read these:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1217573-so-you-want-to-start-running

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13

    TL:DR the link right above this one then ->http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/975025-in-place-of-a-road-map-short-n-sweet

    Excuses??? http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2014/06/02/the-no-excuses-play-like-a-champion-challenge/

    If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

    Want to lift heavy things?
    http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

    Stronglifts Summary
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/560459-stronglifts-5x5-summary

    Stronglifts Womens Group
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/4601-stronglifts-5x5-for-women

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