So things haven't being going to great lately....

rozsbluejay

I need some support from my fellow MFP's. Things haven't been going so well here at my home, but that's not what I came to talk about. The situation is kind of affecting me in all areas and I wasn't prepared for it emotionally. I'm trying to do my best on my journey to a better me, but things just get in the way of my dream of being happier as a healthy being. At this point I don't feel that I can do anything. I'm stressing and I feel I'm putting tension on my self. I don't feel pretty and when I hear people say that I am, I only feel that they are saying it to feel better. I have battled with depression when I was younger and I know it wants to come back. I want to be proactive about it and do something, but I feel I am fighting something bigger because I don't want to let it get to me. I want to stay on track and be a strong minded person so no feelings get in the way of my journey. My question is to you guys: How do you keep yourself motivated? How do you make yourself feel pretty when no one else can or you just simply cant believe them? How do you keep your head up? How do you make your goal feel as if it were a realistic one? I feel its too much to ask from this community, but I feel comfortable in using MFP for help.


Please and Thank you.
ROZSBLUEJAY

Dom82

First off a big HUG to you! I'm having a few home troubles as well and i know a friendly hug makes me feel better.

I keep myself motivated because I'm doing this for me and no one else. I want to feel better so that keeps me going. I make myself feel pretty by either going and getting a hair cut or just dressing up and doing my hair and make up, I look like a totally different person when i do that and as vain as it sounds i take photos :smooched:

How do i keep my head up? I have no idea. my friends help and I have my animals which have always made me feel centered.

I know my goal is realistic but its taking longer to get there then i thought it would. But I'm ok with that at the moment. I will get there and I may have set backs along the way but at the end of the day I'm eating healthy and I'm exercising so I feel better.


I don't know if this helped you at all but this is how I deal.

lovesauburn

I was treated for depression in my early 20's after my younger brother died (motorcycle accident)...I was put on antidepressants and helped...I can remember when I started to feel a fog lift and could see in colors instead of shades of grey....I was able to get off meds cuz I wanted to have kids some day (which I did). The psychiatrist I saw said "Exercise, exercise, exercise" for keeping depression away. I also have a nurse friend who has to use the special lights for seasonal affective disorder (depression triggered by not enough sunlight). I would encourage you to reach out to professionals, if you have insurance or your church or this group. Prayers work!! Eating healthy definately helps too. I know how frustrating it is knowing what to do and not being able to do it...so I would suggest seeing your doctor if can't do it on your own and support of this forum.

clioandboy

I can only speak for me but I find my motivation to be a nebulous ever-changing beast, there are times when noone absolutely nothing could throw me off course...... Then at other times I do all I can to sabotage myself.... I class this as pretty normal for me- not for others but for me normal! Then there is life.... That can throw curve balls into the mix and regularly does!
Exercise healthy eating short term achievable goals all help with motivation and with management of an illness like depression , however it is an illness, an eminently treatable illness if it is treated proactively.
I don't have a history of depression but I would not hesitate to seek treatment if I or my nearest felt I was becoming depressed. I would aim to eat exercise n positively attack the illness I would get me some cbt or suchlike and if deemed nec I would get my chemicals rebalanced with antidepressants.... Then I would take on 2011 with a vengeance.... Really good luck

tross0924

Time.

My goal's a lot closer now so it's gotten much easier for me. In the beginning it was harder, harder to believe that I could do this, harder to feel better about my self. So I just took one day at a time. I KNEW that what I was doing was better for me than what I was doing, whether I lost weight or not, I committed to doing things to make my health better. And as time went on, I started to loose and it got easier to believe. Easier to feel better about myself, and easier to see myself actually reaching my goal. More time passed and I didn't believe anymore I knew. Knew that in time I'd be at my goal weight, and with that knowledge came a feeling of relief. This was going to happen, I've made the commitments to my health, now all I have to do is wait for time to pass and let my body catch up to my mind.

And now I wonder what I was worried about. The things I did to change my life were tiny little steps, First one thing, then another, and another, until I looked back and saw the distance I'd come. Don't focus on being perfect, focus on doing the best that you can. That's all anyone can ask of themselves. Do the best that you can tomorrow, and the next day do the best that you can for that day. If you do that I will lay down my iron clad guarantee that in 6 months you will be well on your way to your goals, and that they won't look nearly as far away as they do today.

Everyone that tries, falls. Those that fail are the ones that give up on themselves and stop doing the best the can. They settle for was, and stop reaching for what could be. All you have to do to win is get up from your falls, and do the best you can.

You WILL do this. You WILL reach your goal. And you will stop listening to the people that tell you otherwise, because you know better.

As for how to feel pretty, that one's up to you too. All you have to do is stop believing the wrong people. Some people tell you you're pretty, but instead of believing them, the people that love and care for you, you choose to believe the jerks, and classless who tell you you're not. Believe in yourself, and believe that people can find you beautiful and they will, but more importantly so will you.