Help choosing wedding present for sleeved couple

JulieGirl58

Cash is always a welcome gift.

Galatea_Stone

The great thing about a registry is you can't go wrong buying anything on it because they're giving you instructions on what to buy.

If they don't have a registry, buy them bath and bedding items because these are necessities.

rml_16

Just have to say I am totally against the whole registry thing. No offense to anyone that has had one, or plans to have one. Just my opinion. If I am invited to an event I dont even acknowledge the registry, I give what I want. It offends me to go to a wedding for example, which already may cost me money if I have to buy something to wear, pay for a sitter, gas to get there and its usually far away. Someone I know had one at crate and barrel. To me its just snooty, its like throwing a party and having eveyone else bring a dish. Hate that too! If your having a thing, do the thing, dont put the thing off on everyone else.
Bring what you want, give what you want, or can, and be done with it.

Please don't listen to this person. I don't know what you already have or what you need. I love the registry. I wish people registered for birthdays, too. It would make my life so much easier.

WillLift4Tats

Just have to say I am totally against the whole registry thing. No offense to anyone that has had one, or plans to have one. Just my opinion. If I am invited to an event I dont even acknowledge the registry, I give what I want. It offends me to go to a wedding for example, which already may cost me money if I have to buy something to wear, pay for a sitter, gas to get there and its usually far away. Someone I know had one at crate and barrel. To me its just snooty, its like throwing a party and having eveyone else bring a dish. Hate that too! If your having a thing, do the thing, dont put the thing off on everyone else.
Bring what you want, give what you want, or can, and be done with it.

Please don't listen to this person. I don't know what you already have or what you need. I love the registry. I wish people registered for birthdays, too. It would make my life so much easier.

Seriously. There's a reason behind registries beyond being "snooty" :noway: . Crazy person.

Buy off the registry. Couple is happy. Done.

ETA: I am also one of those who clicked on the thread thinking it was a question for a tattoo-sleeved couple lol

wolfstlkr

I didn't know which forum to put this in, so I hope it's okay here.

A relative we've never met but want to send a gift to is getting married. She and her groom have both had weight loss surgery. I've looked at their registries and it seems their needs run the gamut when it comes to kitchen tools. We like to give nice pots and pans and the like. Is there something specific that would be good? I'm wondering about a nice enameled cast iron grill pan but since none of us (the family members going in on the gift) have had surgery we don't know.

We want to spend about $100. Ideas?

And advice is greatly appreciated.

I think your idea of a enameled cast iron grill pan is a great idea. I have 2 different size le creuset enamled cast iron pots and a pan by them that is a standard cast iron cooking surface but enameled everywhere else. Since I started dieting I have noticed I cook a lot more and pay way more attention to the quality of food both in taste and nutrition. It is much easier to maintain a even cooking surface with these than normal pans. They are also not suspectable to warping. I have warped 3 calphon pans before switching to enamled cast iron. They are harder to clean but well worth it in the end. I highly recommend the le creuset brand. Finnaly if they do not appreciate it right now they will later.

Missjulesdid

I'm sleeved and the only thing I use differently is I eat my food from salad or dessert plates. I still use all the same kitchen tools as before I was sleeved. I can't speak for ALL types of weight loss surgery, but with getting sleeved, the only thing that changes is that you eat smaller portions. You of course want to eat healthy foods but you don't have to eat anything "special" just because you're sleeved. All of the weird foods are only during the first 6-12 weeks while your stomach is healing. During this time you need to eat purees or soft foods, etc, but once your stomach is healed you should eat a normal balanced healthy diet.

Markdjones83

Why would whether they have had surgery affect what you would give them as a wedding gift?
They still need kitchen tools, they still cook, they still eat - just smaller quantities.

so much of this. What!?

I thought you meant they had tons of tattoos, on first reading. haha

I thought same thing lolz

SonicDeathMonkey80

I thought this was for tatted up folks, but I stand corrected.

Throw a dart at the registry like everyone else who is socially pressured into buying wedding gifts for people.

MostlyWater

I'd just choose something from their registry for that approx. amount. I wouldn't agonize over it.

summertime_girl

I was thinking sleeved, as in tattoos.

Zerodette

I was going to say, loads of sleeveless shirts so they can show off their tattoos.

I don't know anything about this kind of sleeve.

Calliope610

I was going to say, loads of sleeveless shirts so they can show off their tattoos.

I don't know anything about this kind of sleeve.

That was my thought also.

malibu927

Give what you normally do. My brother's fiancee had surgery a year ago, they're marrying in two and a half weeks, and my mom is putting together a bunch of recipes for her as she still cooks and eats.

(Ditto everyone with the tattoos!)

Kalikel

I didn't know people with tattoos all over were called "sleeved", so I learned something new.

Williams Sonoma has nice kitchen stuff. I only go there because it's in the mall and don't know about better pots and pans.

I can't see what having surgery would have to do with pots and pans.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

I'd recommend using their registry since they theoretically put the things they need on it.



I also thought this was about tattoos.

AliceDark

I also thought you meant tattoos. My first thought was "sunscreen. Lots of sunscreen."

pawoodhull

Why would whether they have had surgery affect what you would give them as a wedding gift?
They still need kitchen tools, they still cook, they still eat - just smaller quantities.

This. If it's on their registry, they obviously either need it or believe they will. I am sleeved and still use all my normal pots and pans. If you are thinking something sleeve specific and they have it listed, a good quality food scale, measuring cups and spoons, a small sized blender like a Magic Bullet and even rubbermade or tupperware in the smaller container sizes.

Also, I think your sensistivity is wonderful! How thoughtful that you want to help them in their weight loss journey and lifelong success!

yellowlemoned

I agree with buying from their registry. Most people put a lot of effort into those and you know whatever you get will be something they actually want. If there isn't anything in your price range on the registry, or you really don't like anything on there, i'm sure some nice pots or pans would be nice, or a gift card so they can get something they really wanted from their registry and may not have got.

yo_andi

I didn't know which forum to put this in, so I hope it's okay here.

A relative we've never met but want to send a gift to is getting married. She and her groom have both had weight loss surgery. I've looked at their registries and it seems their needs run the gamut when it comes to kitchen tools. We like to give nice pots and pans and the like. Is there something specific that would be good? I'm wondering about a nice enameled cast iron grill pan but since none of us (the family members going in on the gift) have had surgery we don't know.

We want to spend about $100. Ideas?

And advice is greatly appreciated.

Totally thought you were asking about a tattooed couple.

And my response was going to be, um...

But now my response is... get them the grill pan. They still cook!

KrzyGal

Why would whether they have had surgery affect what you would give them as a wedding gift?
They still need kitchen tools, they still cook, they still eat - just smaller quantities.

so much of this. What!?

I thought you meant they had tons of tattoos, on first reading. haha

Going by the topic review, I thought the usual "sleeved" meaning too. That's why I peeked in on the convo. I see that there are a lot of us that thought after reading more.

HeidiCooksSupper

Gift card is out. My in-her-90s mom is the FOB's aunt and wants us to give them something to remember their absent family from this side does care from a distance (and I might add but mom wouldn't, in a desultory manner). Glad to know regular food gets eaten by gastric sleeve folks so a nice kitchen thing. Will look again at the registry but nothing there was "memorable" so might go the Le Creuset route for a grill pan or other unusual pot that doesn't take up much room and is nice and useful.

Thanx, you all, for the advice. I will peruse the registry again to make sure I don't see something that fits mom's something memorable dictum.

amcook4

Why would whether they have had surgery affect what you would give them as a wedding gift?
They still need kitchen tools, they still cook, they still eat - just smaller quantities.

This.

As a recently married person, buy off the registry or give cash/gift cards. My husband and I both lived on our own as adults, so when we combined our households we had a lot of extra stuff already. We ended up getting many off registry gifts that we had absolutely no use for and then we spent a lot of time hunting down how to return these items. Example, we each had very nice toasters, we were gifted a toaster that wasn't as nice as either of ours, what do we need 2, especially 3 toasters for, especially when we live in a tiny city apartment and hardly have room for 1? For non cash gifts stick to the registry unless you really know the couple, because we did get a couple of cool quirky things from close friends because they knew we had a use for it.

Edit to add: If you do buy off registry, for the love of God please get a gift receipt, just in case.

MississippiMama87

Why would whether they have had surgery affect what you would give them as a wedding gift?
They still need kitchen tools, they still cook, they still eat - just smaller quantities.

so much of this. What!?

I thought you meant they had tons of tattoos, on first reading. haha

hahaha I thought this too! I also don't understand what having surgery has to do with a wedding gift.

Archerychickge

Just have to say I am totally against the whole registry thing. No offense to anyone that has had one, or plans to have one. Just my opinion. If I am invited to an event I dont even acknowledge the registry, I give what I want. It offends me to go to a wedding for example, which already may cost me money if I have to buy something to wear, pay for a sitter, gas to get there and its usually far away. Someone I know had one at crate and barrel. To me its just snooty, its like throwing a party and having eveyone else bring a dish. Hate that too! If your having a thing, do the thing, dont put the thing off on everyone else.
Bring what you want, give what you want, or can, and be done with it.

Um... my wedding reception was a potluck... We had both been married before, and didn't need anything for our home. We just wanted people to come and enjoy our day with us. We also didn't have alot of funds for a catered affair, nor are we the snooty catered affair type people, so we just casually spread the word that we would have a potluck reception. Folks could bring a covered dish if they wanted to, but they shouldn't feel required in any way. Most people brought a covered dish and a recipe card for what they had prepared... which was REALLY cool because I had a bunch of new recipes to add to my collection. I still get all warm and fuzzy inside when I pull out one of those cards because I know the gift came from the heart rather than a wallet.

Oh and I would hardly call my wedding a snooty affair... the entire wedding cost less than $1000, and that included the cake, photographer, flowers, dresses, tuxes, etc... it was a beautiful wedding with LOTS of family and friends, and everyone had a grat time. It was a really special day for us.

Bottomline, I think it's ALOT more snooty to pass judgement on others... but that's just me.

MyOwnSunshine

As a sleever, I will recognize that your heart is in the right place, OP.

Protein and veggies are the mainstays of our post-op eating plan. A grill pan sounds wonderful!