Am I Wrong?

jboccio90

So last night I found out my Dad has stage four colon cancer. Our relationship has always been on and off. He would make effort then kind of disappear then he would try again and I wouldn't hear from him for months, years etc. This time it has been about 3 years since I've spoken to him.

This is how it has been since I was a small child, I don't harbor anger against him, I honestly am not even hurt anymore. I am just sad for him and that he missed out on an great relationship with me and my daughter. I still love him because he is my Dad, even if I don't have the same emotional connection to him as other kids to their parents. And I absolutely don't want him to be in pain.

His ex-girlfriend of at least 6 years posted on my wall on facebook to call her asap, I of course didn't and instead contacted my Aunt assuming it was about my Dad and she would have more accurate info.

When his ex made the post for me to call her also at the same time made a post publicly on her feed about the situation, naming him in it! Had I not of called my aunt and seen that post prior, that would of been how I found out my dad is dying. She obviously assumed I didn't know, since she ran to tell me to call her.

After much contemplation I posted a comment on her post saying " This is extremely insensitive. You should of waited until you knew I knew about my Father or deleted me from your friends list before posting about it. Also I talked to my family and he wants to keep this situation private."

And she blocks me! She hasn't been in a relationship with him for 6 or 7 years and even it was rocky. She also talks crap about my dad to her friends about how terrible her relationship was with him. But I am the bad guy? Am I wrong for saying something? Did I have a right to say something even though him and I aren't close?

MinnieInMaine

Sorry to hear about your Dad.

IMHO, you're not wrong to have said something to her but calling to talk about it might have been better than replying on FB.

The_WoIverine

I agree with you. Your dad's health is not something to be posted on social media, whether common friends are there or not. A serious illness like cancer shouldn't be treated the same way as any other things people post on Facebook. In fact, if there is a need to let others know (close people) about it, a phone call or direct message would be a better idea.

I'm sorry about your dad by the way. I can only hope for the best.

VeryKatie

I think you were very right in commenting on her post. She's completely in the wrong.