does anyone NOT weigh themselves at all

GretaGirl8

My husband thought my weighing was getting out of hand so he hid my scale. Yes, I could buy another and hide it...but I don't want to be lying to him or have this issue be a point of argument between us. I no longer have a gym membership, so I can't weigh there. I guess I will have to go by how my clothes fit and/or tape measurer. He thinks this will make me less obsessed with weight...but I think it will make me more obsessed. He doesn't understand.

Spencerport

I try to limit weighing myself to two or three times a week. Your weight can fluctuate quite a bit day to day, so I just limit myself.

SlimMe37

I've considered not weighing myself, but I need to see those numbers going down. I weigh in the morning every few days just to check how I'm doing.

violasmith85

measuring is a better indicator of weight loss. I lost 2 inches without dropping a pound last week.

stacyjh1979

I personally don't think it's his place to decide for you whether you can/should weigh yourself. It's ok to voice his opinion but he isn't your boss, that's just ridiculous. At any rate if you are ok with him treating you like a child my suggestion would be to see if you can make an agreement that he will get your scale out of it's hiding place once a week or at least once a month so you know where you are at in your efforts. If he won't do that I guess you can always go with a scale at a truck stop or a friend's house but he really doesn't have the right to say no. Best of luck to you.

bigsistruck

I stopped weighing myself about a month ago, it seemed like every time I didn't have a loss I would get so discouraged and then binge. As long as my clothes continue to fit better, I don't need to weigh myself. I plan on only doing it when I get back into my goal size jeans.

luvmydawgs

Only at the doctor do I step on a scale. I go by how I feel and how my clothes feel...

prettychelly

I try to weigh myself once a month or once every two months. Take pictures, look in the mirror, take note of how your clothes are fitting. Above all try to be consistent with food intake and exercise and you'll be fine.

DawnieB1977

I used to weigh myself every 4 weeks, but then I stopped weighing myself when I was pregnant because I didn't want to obsess over it and I knew I would gain, because I always do when I'm pregnant, no matter what (I mean, aside from the obvious gain lol). I finally weighed myself yesterday, at 19 weeks post partum, and now wish I hadn't, as I'm getting hung up on the number. Before that I could tell I was slimmer and my clothes fit better, but now I'm going to stress about my weight.

maz2469

To be honest i don't really weigh my self anymore - as long as I know i'm on the right tracks I'm okay with it, although I can also avoid them when I'm not behaving myself... I weight train too so I have mixed feelings about actual weight loss (so long as clothes that fit now continue to fit) I guess it depends on your goals and where you're at in your journey?

lmr0528

I used to weigh myself everyday but then was getting so obsessed over it. I'm down to getting on the scale about every other week.

walterm852

I stopped weighing myself, I think I am going to weigh myself next 1/1/15. Its buy clothes and how I feel

JenniDaisy

I weigh myself about once a month, just to make sure everything is moving in the right direction.

I have other fitness goals to concentrate on.

shaythep

I personally don't think it's his place to decide for you whether you can/should weigh yourself. It's ok to voice his opinion but he isn't your boss, that's just ridiculous. At any rate if you are ok with him treating you like a child my suggestion would be to see if you can make an agreement that he will get your scale out of it's hiding place once a week or at least once a month so you know where you are at in your efforts. If he won't do that I guess you can always go with a scale at a truck stop or a friend's house but he really doesn't have the right to say no. Best of luck to you.

I'm just taking a shot in the dark but I don't think you are married.

Sithu13

I only weigh myself once or twice a month. I used to be ruled and owned by the scale. I finally had to throw mine out. For two reasons. 1) It was no longer working after I smashed it. 2) It was ruining my life and efforts.
Now that I have let go of that scale, I've dropped 22lbs. I'm a lot happier and now my self worth is no longer guided by that all rotten scale.

fougamou

I personally don't think it's his place to decide for you whether you can/should weigh yourself. It's ok to voice his opinion but he isn't your boss, that's just ridiculous. At any rate if you are ok with him treating you like a child my suggestion would be to see if you can make an agreement that he will get your scale out of it's hiding place once a week or at least once a month so you know where you are at in your efforts. If he won't do that I guess you can always go with a scale at a truck stop or a friend's house but he really doesn't have the right to say no. Best of luck to you.

I'm just taking a shot in the dark but I don't think you are married.

Not the person who wrote this, but I AM married and agree 100%.

Julieboolieaz

This is an encouraging thread! I've been frustrated at gaining and not losing for the past 2 months despite training hard and eating at a deficit. Clothes fit fine or better, body fat caliper shows loss of fat, and I've lost inches. Pictures even prove it. But I'm still unhappy because of the scale? How stupid of me!! I'm going to wean off of it, down to once a week. Likely going every other, then I'll do once a month. I'm tinkering around with my cal levels and macros though so I need some measure, and I wear workout clothes most of the time so the clothing measurement isn't consistent enough for me.

Thanks for emboldening me!!

kagenw

I think us husbands are just worried about our wives. For example, my wife dropped 4 pounds on the scale this week (super exciting), but it's not going to be very fun for her when she notices that at least two of the dropped pounds are due to water loss and will quickly come back if not watched. Since your measurements are not going to change as fast as your weight, you need some way to be aware of your progress. A combination of once weekly weigh ins and measurements would be a good compromise. The health and well being of our wives is so important to us husbands and it really does appear that he cares for you, he just should have discussed the scale issue with you before taking such drastic action.

onelovejenn

I used to be so obsessed with weighing myself, to the point where I weighed numerous times a day. I ended up throwing my scale away and now only weigh myself once a week. That even sometimes bothers me when I don't see a drop that I expect. Last week I lost 3 lbs, I started going to the gym, doing ONLY cardio and this week I only lost 1 lb, I know when doing strength training it's common to gain due to your muscles holding onto water to repair themselves, but I only did cardio, so what's up with that???? See my point? Sometimes I think weighing yourself can do more harm than good, depending on your perception.

juliaaandersen

I don't weigh myself. Then I was a teenager, I became obsessed with weighing myself everyday and if I had gained weight I would be really sad. Eventually I stopped doing it, mostly because I didn't want to end up with an eating disorder (I could feel that I was heading in the wrong direction). I might end up weighing myself occasionally, but I will never own a weight.

bkthandler

I don't, primarily because I currently don't have a scale (and for reasons that are boring, silly and complicated can't get one).

I have been going with how I feel and how my clothes fit.

sarahsmiles2013

My husband thought my weighing was getting out of hand so he hid my scale. Yes, I could buy another and hide it...but I don't want to be lying to him or have this issue be a point of argument between us. I no longer have a gym membership, so I can't weigh there. I guess I will have to go by how my clothes fit and/or tape measurer. He thinks this will make me less obsessed with weight...but I think it will make me more obsessed. He doesn't understand.

I weigh myself ever so often to see my progress, but I've learned that the number on the scale is least important in the grand scheme of things. Yes, it's good to drop the pounds; however, I have really toned friends that would be considered obese according to BMI charts because they are all muscle. Two people weighing 150 pounds can look completely different depending on what they have done to lose the weight. If you're just eating right and doing cardio exercises (or even solely limiting your calories with no exercises), you're not going to get that "toned" look that most people desire. That's why it's good to eat right, do cardio, and do some resistance training.

So all in all, yes, the scale does play a role, but it should not be the only means used to determine your progress. I would rather lose inches and tone than see a number on the scale. It's all in how you feel and your energy level! Weigh yourself once a week or even every other week. You do not need to weigh yourself every day because it will fluctuate depending on how much water you're holding. If you're up in weight, look at factors that could play into that.......like how much sodium you have had, that time of the month (for girls) , your calories, activity level, etc.......

I used to weigh myself all the time and got frustrated and obsessed with the numbers. Now that I don't focus so much on it, I'm happier and actually losing a lot more and toning up! Going by how I feel and how my clothes fit has been much more rewarding for me!

Best of luck to you with your fitness journey!

_lyndseybrooke_

I'm sorry, is this your husband or your father? See if daddy...I mean, your husband...will allow you access to the scale once a week in an attempt to teach you how to have a healthy relationship with it, and then he can hide it again until the next week. In the meantime, focus on how you look in the mirror, how your clothes fit, and body measurements. It's not the end of the world if you can't weigh yourself. There are other ways to track progress.

My guess is that, if your husband is treating you like an infant, you probably do have an "obsession" with the scale, whatever that means. How often were you weighing yourself? Daily? Multiple times a day? It's unnecessary and he's probably just annoyed by how much you talk about your weight. He could be a little more mature about it, but I have no clue what he's putting up with, so who's to say this isn't an appropriate response?

GretaGirl8

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I'm sorry to tell you this, hun...but I would have a very serious problem with my husband if he ever hid my scales/food scales or anything that's aiding my journey to a better lifestyle. Trust and Support does not come from trying to prohibit or manipulate people's habits, especially in a marriage. You might want to take sit down with him and have a talk. Blessings~
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I definitely see this point of view (as expressed by other posters as well). I also agree with the poster who talked about having concern for his wife. It is complicated because he does believe he is helping me and allowing me to have a better life. The scale was maddening and I did become obsessed with the number. The number on the scale really set the tone for my day. However, I believe it should still be my decision when and if I will weigh myself.

Docbanana2002

Wow, that very controlling.

But since your are tolerating this control, I agree with the suggestion that you work out an arrangement by which your prison warden... I mean husband... allows you access to the scale at intervals that he deems suitable, if you've been good. Like a weekly weigh-in time.

lacewitch

i weigh probably onece a quarter ( when i go to the docs)
I go on clothes - and just reently the scale seems to be going up even though size is still dropping
I did weigh earlier in life but it varied so much with hydration TOM, ad time of day i gave up.

Josie

stacyjh1979

I personally don't think it's his place to decide for you whether you can/should weigh yourself. It's ok to voice his opinion but he isn't your boss, that's just ridiculous. At any rate if you are ok with him treating you like a child my suggestion would be to see if you can make an agreement that he will get your scale out of it's hiding place once a week or at least once a month so you know where you are at in your efforts. If he won't do that I guess you can always go with a scale at a truck stop or a friend's house but he really doesn't have the right to say no. Best of luck to you.

I'm just taking a shot in the dark but I don't think you are married.

As a matter of fact I am. I'm not sure why you would say that? Because I expect respect and someone to not tell me what I can and can't do? If you want to let your husband make decisions for you more power to you (well less actually) but a partnership is about compromise and communication neither of which is happening in this scenario.

velocityc6

Wow, sorry you husband is so controlling. As others have stated the scale can be a friend one day and an enemy :devil: the next. I gave up the scales about 2 months ago and now weigh only at the Dr. My clothes fit and people tell me I'm looking great that is all I need. Good luck to you.

SingRunTing

Excuse me? He hid the scale on you? I would have a huge problem with that (and, yes, I am married).

It's one thing for him to voice his concern about your use of the scale if he sees it harming your mental/emotional health. But you are not a child. You are the one who should be making decisions about how often you weigh yourself. If you are overly obsessing, then maybe its time to step away for a while. But to hide the scale? That's ridiculous.

violasmith85

Before everyone jumps down her husbands throat lets remember 1. some people can develop serious issues with their weight and develop very serious issues and it sounds like he's worried and 2. Relationships are complicated and for all we know she may have shown controlling traits over other things. For example: it's common for a woman to control what her husband eats, even if he's against it, if the doctor tells him he has high cholesterol.

Chain_Ring

So he seriously hid your scale, not as a joke but to actually prevent you from using it? Lame.