Lifting up from being down

Basilin

I couldn't see a thread like this, so I'll start one. I apologize if it's duplicating.

I feel like crap. The past couple days haven't gone very well and I feel worthless, like I'm not good enough, that I'm stupid, etc. Of course this also leads to intense cravings for fatty/sweet comfort foods. I don't want to take that way out with these feelings.

So I wanted to start a thread for giving people who, for whatever reason, are down and feeling some self-loathing to get some support here to help them through their days and feel better. If you are frustrated about something, post your situation and I and I hope other posters as well will try to give some honest but positive support.

Right now I'm in the dumps because I feel stuck at work and like I'm not doing a good job even when I'm trying hard. I'm worried I'll be seen as stupid and not capable, and I feel overwhelmed. I just had a review of some of my work and made some mistakes, and found out how much I don't understand about a lot of processes that I should understand (although the reason for that is that wasn't specifically trained for them, but I don't like to make excuses; I hate when you're at that point when you don't understand what you don't understand). I think I've been overconfident in my abilities and now it's biting me. But I think that I was almost overconfident on purpose to knock myself down. I don't know.

It sucks and I just want eat a donut and be that stereotype that eats their feelings away like usual. Thanks for reading and again if there is already a thread like this please point me to it!

Glass_11

Hey Basilin;

I think it's a really good idea for a thread that you've got going here. We all have tough days, weeks or months and sometimes it can be helpful to unload a bit.

Your situation kind of struck me. I spent time leading teams and training in a corporate environment with a good amount of turnaround, so I've definitely seen a lot of people going through these feelings. Lately I've started taking some courses myself so I got a nice reminder about what those feelings really feel like inside, when you feel like you're not succeeding, or not doing well. I've always hated that feeling, and it's twice as hard when you think you're great and get a wake-up call.

Remember to give yourself a break Basilin... if you don't know as much as you need to about your work, that doesn't mean you're stupid or inadequate. That's terribly unfair and it makes me sad to see you think those things about yourself. What it means is that you need to be conscientious in completing your work to ensure accuracy, and be honest about reaching out for whatever help or support your leaders or colleagues can offer. But give yourself a break, we've all been there. Give yourself a chance.

Congratulations on your dedication to your nutrition. This is the kind of trigger that could lead one to give up, but you're right when you say that McDoubles won't make you feel better about what you're dealing with. Keep that up! And if you slip, don't give up.

Keep positive and be cool with yourself!

Basilin

Hey Basilin;

I think it's a really good idea for a thread that you've got going here. We all have tough days, weeks or months and sometimes it can be helpful to unload a bit.

Your situation kind of struck me. I spent time leading teams and training in a corporate environment with a good amount of turnaround, so I've definitely seen a lot of people going through these feelings. Lately I've started taking some courses myself so I got a nice reminder about what those feelings really feel like inside, when you feel like you're not succeeding, or not doing well. I've always hated that feeling, and it's twice as hard when you think you're great and get a wake-up call.

Remember to give yourself a break Basilin... if you don't know as much as you need to about your work, that doesn't mean you're stupid or inadequate. That's terribly unfair and it makes me sad to see you think those things about yourself. What it means is that you need to be conscientious in completing your work to ensure accuracy, and be honest about reaching out for whatever help or support your leaders or colleagues can offer. But give yourself a break, we've all been there. Give yourself a chance.

Congratulations on your dedication to your nutrition. This is the kind of trigger that could lead one to give up, but you're right when you say that McDoubles won't make you feel better about what you're dealing with. Keep that up! And if you slip, don't give up.

Keep positive and be cool with yourself!

To be honest that bolded part made be cry a little. I don't know why that was something so important for me to hear, even from a stranger, but thank you for saying it, and for your wonderful response in general that was exactly what I needed. I hope this can be continued for others.

I feel a lot better now... I spent most the day trying to find ways to make sure I don't make those mistakes again and communicating directly with parties I needed to instead of passively waiting for my supervisor to do it. And that is extremely valuable for him and for me. There is just so much to know and learn at my job, and I'm almost completely alone in it with a lot of expectations placed on me despite not having previous experience... so making mistakes is a huge deal (especially since it's in a regulated industry).

But reading your post really helped me get back on track and start trying to take control again despite feeling overwhelmed. So thanks for that. I didn't eat a donut (I did have takeout... but had relatively healthy takeout and also still under my calorie goal so there!).

Anyway, I cede the floor to the next person who may be feeling down.