Will i reach my goal on time?

tooty12345

I am 178.9lbs-182.5lbs (14-16 in clothing)

I need to be size 12 in clothing before my bday (4th november)

so in about 2 months, will i be able to lose that much by that time?


(tips and advice welcome)
Thank you

( everyone keeps asking why i need to lose weight... i didn't think i HAD to give an explanation... so here it is in full

i have had an awesomely **** life, i have been immensely depressed hiding in my flat doing nothing but eating and drinking myself to death. i had no friends, my ex who i was madly in love with a month after our breakup, he is engaged and due to be a dad. I look in the mirror and i just want to cry every time because i feel disgusted by myself.)

I want to lose weight to fit into a beautiful size 12 dress for my bday. i just want to get myself heavily motivated before my bday. I find it very very hard to get motivation and my depression makes it worse. I don't care if people find it stupid.. its my goal.. i just need a rough estimate.

emdeesea

I am 178.9lbs-182.5lbs (14-16 in clothing)

I need to be size 12 in clothing before my bday (4th november)

Why?

malibu927

Is something going to happen to you if you aren't in a 12?

Truthfully, it's hard to say. Everyone drops sizes at different rates due to body types.

cwolfman13

maybe...maybe not...who knows.

arditarose

For real. That's a size or 2. Maybe 20 pounds? I don't know about that. Just do as much as you can, healthily.

shexy16

What happens if youre not a 12?

simplydelish2

The best way is to tighten and tone your body...and eat balanced. You should be able to drop 4-7 pounds in the next five weeks. That probably will get you in a larger 12, but should get you in most any 14.

tooty12345

I am 178.9lbs-182.5lbs (14-16 in clothing)

I need to be size 12 in clothing before my bday (4th november)

Why?

Like any good reason, to fit into a size 12 dress (it was the last one in the store and i had to get it despite it not being my size) I want to look great and feel great on my bday

PrizePopple

More like 6 weeks, and I'm going to venture a guess that a size 12 is somewhere in the 165 pound ranging depending on your height and body type. Based on my sizing at 5'6" I know that I'm size 12 at about 165. That means you'd need to drop 15 pounds in 6 weeks, which is 2.5 pounds per week ... it's possible, but it's likely not going to be sustainable in the long run. The max recommended to even consider losing is 2 pounds per week, and that's usually for people with a lot to lose.

Also, why exactly do you *need* to be a certain size by a certain date?

PrizePopple

I am 178.9lbs-182.5lbs (14-16 in clothing)

I need to be size 12 in clothing before my bday (4th november)

Why?

Like any good reason, to fit into a size 12 dress (it was the last one in the store and i had to get it despite it not being my size) I want to look great and feel great on my bday

Not a good reason.



ETA: Looking great and feeling great doesn't always have to be based off a number on a scale or the specific size of your clothes. It should come from knowing you're treating your body the way it deserves to be treated.

shexy16

I don't mean to sound mean, I don't mean it that way, but why wouldn't you just buy a dress that's in your size and fits you? I mean, having a goal is fine, but be careful with timed goals. If you don't get into the dress by your birthday, what will you do?

tinu19

Definitely It can happen if you give your 100 %. Do weight lifting along with Cardio, Toning helps you. Try loosing atleast 3+ lb bi weekly. All the Best

leggup

If we all say "No, you won't reach your goal on time," will it make a difference? Will you decide to just stay at a heavier weight?

Cortneyrenee04

There's no harm in trying to meet your goal (as long as you're safe about it). You'll be closer than if you hadn't tried. Good luck

tooty12345

I don't mean to sound mean, I don't mean it that way, but why wouldn't you just buy a dress that's in your size and fits you? I mean, having a goal is fine, but be careful with timed goals. If you don't get into the dress by your birthday, what will you do?

I know you never meant it to be mean don't worry Like i said it was the only dress left on the sale and i fell in love with it. i am planning on losing weight and keeping fit in the long run so i would of fit into it eventually, however i saw an opportunity when i saw 2 months before my bday.

It is a 12+ dress so i would realistically only need to lose 10 pounds (it almost fits) which is very tedious lol

Christine_72

I totally understand that you want to look and feel great on your birthday. Look into the 5:2 diet. If you stick to a good eating plan and log your calories daily, there's no reason why you can't fit into your size 12 dress in a couple months. Wishing you the best of luck xx

emdeesea

If you want to lose weight, fine, that's great. But I'll be blunt, you're going about it the wrong way. You think that something is magically going to change when you are able to fit into a certain size dress and you're totally wrong.

You need to work on yourself and not worry about some arbitrary dress size. A smaller dress size will not change the fact that your ex is engaged and soon to be a dad, that you feel you have had a crappy life, blah, blah, blah. NONE of that is going to change no matter what size you are or what number happens to come up on a scale on any given day.

You know why? Because what happens if you DON'T reach that goal? How is that going to make you feel? I would wager a bet that it will make you feel even worse.

So if you want to lose some weight, fantastic, but get your priorities in order because fitting into a dress on your birthday is a very poor reason because that dress is not the cure all to your misery.

shexy16

OP, are you really young? Like 24 or under?

Peloton73

I hear you about finding an article of clothing that is awesome but is one size down. It can be a great motivator. I found a slim fit button down shirt that was on sale and 1 size under. I'm soooo close to rocking it on a night out.

My advice: buy it. If it doesn't fit on your birthday, it'll fit at Thanksgiving, or Christmas, or NYE. Get yourself on a sustainable food and exercise plan. That dress will make you feel so much sexier and better when you've done it the right way. Trust me....I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night.

tooty12345

If you want to lose weight, fine, that's great. But I'll be blunt, you're going about it the wrong way. You think that something is magically going to change when you are able to fit into a certain size dress and you're totally wrong.

You need to work on yourself and not worry about some arbitrary dress size. A smaller dress size will not change the fact that your ex is engaged and soon to be a dad, that you feel you have had a crappy life, blah, blah, blah. NONE of that is going to change no matter what size you are or what number happens to come up on a scale on any given day.

You know why? Because what happens if you DON'T reach that goal? How is that going to make you feel? I would wager a bet that it will make you feel even worse.

So if you want to lose some weight, fantastic, but get your priorities in order because fitting into a dress on your birthday is a very poor reason because that dress is not the cure all to your misery.

My weight is what causes my depression... I HATE myself.. i suffer with a lot of mental trauma because of my weight. people with small minds and hearts will not understand that.

I don't think what i am doing is stupid considering you make it sound that way. My priorities are in the right place thank you. I want to lose weight to feel good about myself, feeling disgusted and ashamed to go outside because of weight is not just something small. it effects me mentally not just physically. that is why i need to lose it.. I didn't come here to be treated like an immature kid. i came here for guidance, nice guidance at that.

So i would say a size 12 dress is the perfect motivation.
All i wanted and needed was to know the probability of how much weight i will have lost by 4th of nov if i start (dieting and exercising everyday (rowing machine, exercise bike, walking, dancing)

emdeesea

My weight is what causes my depression... I HATE myself.. i suffer with a lot of mental trauma because of my weight. people with small minds and hearts will not understand that.

I don't think what i am doing is stupid considering you make me sound that way. My priorities are in the right place thank you. I want to lose weight to feel good about myself, feeling disgusted and ashamed to go outside because of weight is not just something small. it effects me mentally not just physically. that is why i need to lose it.. I didn't come here to be treated like an immature kid. i came here for guidance, nice guidance at that.

Well when you start out a post with a statement like this - "I want to lose weight to fit into a beautiful size 12 dress for my bday..." that is going to cause something of a stir and make people question your motives.

And if you think that others haven't had a crap life because of their weight, you might want to check yourself.

I don't mean to be blunt or rude, but when you say things like you hate yourself or you find yourself disgusting, that's a huge red flag that should be addressed up front. Especially when you then say that you only want to lose weight for a dress on your birthday that's six weeks away.

Lose weight for you, and definitely not for some ex-boyfriend or whatever.

shexy16

If you want to lose weight, fine, that's great. But I'll be blunt, you're going about it the wrong way. You think that something is magically going to change when you are able to fit into a certain size dress and you're totally wrong.

You need to work on yourself and not worry about some arbitrary dress size. A smaller dress size will not change the fact that your ex is engaged and soon to be a dad, that you feel you have had a crappy life, blah, blah, blah. NONE of that is going to change no matter what size you are or what number happens to come up on a scale on any given day.

You know why? Because what happens if you DON'T reach that goal? How is that going to make you feel? I would wager a bet that it will make you feel even worse.

So if you want to lose some weight, fantastic, but get your priorities in order because fitting into a dress on your birthday is a very poor reason because that dress is not the cure all to your misery.

My weight is what causes my depression... I HATE myself.. i suffer with a lot of mental trauma because of my weight. people with small minds and hearts will not understand that.

I don't think what i am doing is stupid considering you make me sound that way. My priorities are in the right place thank you. I want to lose weight to feel good about myself, feeling disgusted and ashamed to go outside because of weight is not just something small. it effects me mentally not just physically. that is why i need to lose it.. I didn't come here to be treated like an immature kid. i came here for guidance, nice guidance at that.

Honey, I'm sorry youre feeling bad, and trust me when I say, I know more about mental trauma than I care to. No one is trying to make you feel bad. We are trying to get you to see that the best thing you can do is lose weight in a healthy way, and not hang your entire happiness on a dress. You should learn to love yourself at size 16 or 14, because youre still the same person regardless of your size. I like how you assume no one else understands mental trauma...I don't care to discuss my entire life on a public board, but yeah, I know a thing or two about pain.

PrizePopple

If you want to lose weight, fine, that's great. But I'll be blunt, you're going about it the wrong way. You think that something is magically going to change when you are able to fit into a certain size dress and you're totally wrong.

You need to work on yourself and not worry about some arbitrary dress size. A smaller dress size will not change the fact that your ex is engaged and soon to be a dad, that you feel you have had a crappy life, blah, blah, blah. NONE of that is going to change no matter what size you are or what number happens to come up on a scale on any given day.

You know why? Because what happens if you DON'T reach that goal? How is that going to make you feel? I would wager a bet that it will make you feel even worse.

So if you want to lose some weight, fantastic, but get your priorities in order because fitting into a dress on your birthday is a very poor reason because that dress is not the cure all to your misery.

My weight is what causes my depression... I HATE myself.. i suffer with a lot of mental trauma because of my weight. people with small minds and hearts will not understand that.

I don't think what i am doing is stupid considering you make it sound that way. My priorities are in the right place thank you. I want to lose weight to feel good about myself, feeling disgusted and ashamed to go outside because of weight is not just something small. it effects me mentally not just physically. that is why i need to lose it.. I didn't come here to be treated like an immature kid. i came here for guidance, nice guidance at that.

So i would say a size 12 dress is the perfect motivation.
All i wanted and needed was to know the probability of how much weight i will have lost by 4th of nov if i start (dieting and exercising everyday (rowing machine, exercise bike, walking, dancing)

What I think you need is to talk to someone about your feelings, because it's not healthy. If you are depressed you need to seek help. Throwing yourself into daily exercise and dieting to attempt to correct self loathing isn't going to be the magical fix you're hoping it will be.

As Shexx said, there are many of us who know a lot about pain and suffering in our lives, if not all of us. We're offering advice, and questioning your reasoning because we have seen this a lot. It doesn't mean we have small minds and small hearts, but if you lash out at those offering up the truth you will not like it here I promise you that. So please, take a step back and realize that we are offering you truthful advice that we have been told ourselves and see handed out every single day to young girls who come in here seeking a quick fix for the wrong reasons.

tooty12345

I just wanted to clear some things up, i never said no one will ever understand mental trauma, i know a lot of people on this website and who are not on this site do. However there are a majority of people who find it pathetic for one to be depressed over their weight and have it cause trauma for them. (Those types are the small minded and hearted)

Last but not least, i am not a young girl i am a young woman. (22 soon to be 24)
I do appreciate the help,

I am upset that my bday is only 6 weeks away and not much can be done, if i had thought of doing this sooner, i would of had 2-3 months in the bag.


I am going to diet and exercise as much as i can anyway, and if i don't reach the goal by my bday, not even a little, i will least know i am making some kind of progress. Thanks for all the advice despite some being bit too blunt, but least i know not to expect amazing results in 6 weeks. Maybe by a stretch of hope i might just lose couple of inches to tightly slide it on who knows lol

TheSatinPumpkin

Welcome and good luck.

AllOutof_Bubblegum

You're 22 soon to be 24? Is that a typo, or did you magically skip a year, or something?

Regardless, 24 is still extremely young and emotional. Stop trying to hitch your happiness to a clothing number, that's the easiest and fastest way to guarantee a crappy self esteem.

If you make the goal, great. But be prepared that you might not in time, and don't let that derail you from keeping going.

SherryTeach

If you want to lose weight, fine, that's great. But I'll be blunt, you're going about it the wrong way. You think that something is magically going to change when you are able to fit into a certain size dress and you're totally wrong.

You need to work on yourself and not worry about some arbitrary dress size. A smaller dress size will not change the fact that your ex is engaged and soon to be a dad, that you feel you have had a crappy life, blah, blah, blah. NONE of that is going to change no matter what size you are or what number happens to come up on a scale on any given day.

You know why? Because what happens if you DON'T reach that goal? How is that going to make you feel? I would wager a bet that it will make you feel even worse.

So if you want to lose some weight, fantastic, but get your priorities in order because fitting into a dress on your birthday is a very poor reason because that dress is not the cure all to your misery.

Absolutely best advice in this thread. I have never seen starry-eyed happiness result from conforming to a number. Re-examine your priorities and your attitude toward your body and your health. Buy clothes that fit and make you feel good.

tooty12345

You're 22 soon to be 24? Is that a typo, or did you magically skip a year, or something?

Regardless, 24 is still extremely young and emotional. Stop trying to hitch your happiness to a clothing number, that's the easiest and fastest way to guarantee a crappy self esteem.

If you make the goal, great. But be prepared that you might not in time, and don't let that derail you from keeping going.

Clearly people have attitude problems here because i see sarcasm flying everywhere.

It is obviously a typo. This thread is done with. thank you
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libbydoodle11

I just wanted to clear some things up, i never said no one will ever understand mental trauma, i know a lot of people on this website and who are not on this site do. However there are a majority of people who find it pathetic for one to be depressed over their weight and have it cause trauma for them. (Those types are the small minded and hearted)

Last but not least, i am not a young girl i am a young woman. (22 soon to be 24)
I do appreciate the help,

I am upset that my bday is only 6 weeks away and not much can be done, if i had thought of doing this sooner, i would of had 2-3 months in the bag.


I am going to diet and exercise as much as i can anyway, and if i don't reach the goal by my bday, not even a little, i will least know i am making some kind of progress. Thanks for all the advice despite some being bit too blunt, but least i know not to expect amazing results in 6 weeks. Maybe by a stretch of hope i might just lose couple of inches to tightly slide it on who knows lol

Whatever will be will be. I think the more you stress over it the less likely it will happen. Just keep truckin along and do what you can. You may surprise yourself with what you are able to accomplish. You will still be super stoked when you do reach your goal. Try not to be ultra bummed if you don't quite reach it by your bday. BTW: Happy birthday!!!!

:flowerforyou:

Camo_xxx

Is it possible ?

Break it down by day

Assuming 165 pounds is correct for a size 12

Current weight 180

Total loss in 6 weeks 15 pounds x 3500 calories = 52,500 calories / 6 weeks = 8750 calories per week / 7 days

You will need to sustain a 1250 calorie deficit every day for the next 6 weeks to loose 15 pounds in that time frame.

Is it possible ? Yes. Can or should you do it ? Only you know that answer.

jdecossas

Best of luck to you and I hope you reach your goal.:flowerforyou: