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jprewitt1

Hey everyone. I've currently lost approximately 60lbs as of right now, but I have recently begun gaining back. I was so close to being under 400lbs for the first time in a decade and it's getting away from me. The problem I seem to have is a lack of support from my wife at home. She is not dieting with me, and we have always been a "food centered" couple. A lot of stress at home, coupled with the fact that every chance we get to just lay together and "get a snack" has got me secretly hating myself. I have always been an emotional eater and I seem to always find a justification to eat more than I need to. My question for you all is how do I break this habit and how do I change my own way of thinking? I want to be healthy, and I don't want to be overweight anymore. Any advice?

psuLemon

You can try to make smarter food choices while shopping. If you do have emotional issues with foods, a therapist is a good start. My wife isn't dieting either, but I cook, so I make foods that fit into my profile and if she doesn't like it, she can do her on thing after. Getting a bunch of friends online who are success that you can turn to helps.

Like this guy - http://www.myfitnesspal.com/profile/cybered312

He lost 302 lbs.

Railr0aderTony

You can try to make smarter food choices while shopping. If you do have emotional issues with foods, a therapist is a good start. My wife isn't dieting either, but I cook, so I make foods that fit into my profile and if she doesn't like it, she can do her on thing after. Getting a bunch of friends online who are success that you can turn to helps.

Like this guy - http://www.myfitnesspal.com/profile/cybered312

He lost 302 lbs.

Or this guy http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1459435-3-years-of-dedication-and-315-pounds-lost

It can be done without surgery. Both these men were at death's door and have changed their lives forever. You can do it also.

Jazz_2014

My question for you all is how do I break this habit and how do I change my own way of thinking? I want to be healthy, and I don't want to be overweight anymore. Any advice?

Ten years ago, I lost 70 lbs and was amidst a bad spot in my marriage. I needed to lose much more, I was no where close my goal weight. I was oblivious to the bad marriage part until I had lost the weight. The marriage issue wasn't about the weight loss, but some major communication issues, but it came to a head at my 70lb weight loss total.
In the attempt to rebuild our marriage, It seemed the only thing in common was food. We needed a function that kept us in one spot where we could talk. Going out to eat seemed to be the answer at the time. Eating at home was with our couple comfort food. In retrospect I feel like I basically sacrificed myself to rebuild the marriage. I knew I would regain the weight but could not wrap my head around I could do both (lose weight and rebuild marriage). I so wish I had reached out like you did in your post for help. I suppose my desire to keep my struggles with the problems in the marriage private extended into putting on a bright face about my struggles in losing weight.

So advice? keep posting on MyFitnessPal. Lots of people, with lots of advice. Not all will fit your needs, some might even be mean . . . . but like a diamond in the rough . . . there are others that will just be SO helpful to your cause.

How do you break the habits? For me it was taking baby steps. I chose one bad habit and replaced it with a good habit. So if I drank sweet tea, I switched to tea with artificial sweetner, then I switched to just ice tea, then I switched to water with lemon.
I liked chips. I found a better choice in humus chips. I drank International coffees (high calorie), I swapped to herbal teas.
The list is huge now. But the biggest thing for me was I didn't make a DRASTIC change. I formed good habits out of bad slowly.

We are all different in our likes and dislikes of food. Pick your worst choices and come up with alternatives. Make the new improved choices readily available. I took to freezing portions of chicken and fish/shrimp.

To this day I cannot keep sweets in the house. If sweets are in the house I'll eat it all, whatever it is in a few sittings. I don't deprived myself of a sweet item. Same goes with breads, I love bread. So I don't deprive myself of either, I just buy one of whatever sweet I want and enjoy that one helping on occasion.

Reach out to those that can help you. I'm on a new lifestyle journey. The ticker will show at the time of my writing that I lost 48lbs so far. My hubby is very overweight, he is not losing. For whatever reason, he is not ready to commit to a healthier lifestyle. I can't say I am pleased with that, but I will not let that be the excuse for me not to improve my being. I hope you will not let anyone be the excuse for you striving for your new lifestyle.

jprewitt1

Thank you. It seems our marriage and lifestyle parallel each other. My wife and I share a love for food, and sometimes after an argument the only thing we can do to make it better is eat. Like last night: my wife and I got into an argument about the kids and before I knew it we were talking about what we wanted for dinner at 12:00 AM! I ended up way overeating and now I regret it. Even now, here I am thinking about what I can eat when I get home because I'm so hungry and tired after work. I know I have to make small changes to start, but it seems so difficult to keep up with the changes for more than a day or two for me when I have outside sources helping me justify my poor decisions. I know that it all ultimately rests on my shoulders and whether I can commit to changing for myself, but self doubt is a *****.

Thanks for the advice. I will definitely keep it in mind.