Ever felt guilty about your weight loss and results?

JackThriller23

I'm 22 (female) 5 ft 6 .... starting weight was 163 March 17, 2014 ... and today September 30, 2014 I am 147 pounds.

I lost inches more so than weight... which is what I had the most on me. I gained about 30 pounds over the years due to emotional eating and depression and plus, I didn't really get the chance to lose my baby fat from teen years.

Anyhow... this journey has been rough... although, I didn't eat clean... I pretty much ate what I wanted and just cut calories down to my budget and stayed away from soda and junk food... it was hard, but I adjusted after a while... I been through so much frustrations from wanting to give up, thinking the fat returned, thinking it's not leaving ... obsessing over fat on my back... and my worse enemy is BLOATING!!!!!!!! I told myself once I get to my goal... I will then work on toning and will eat clean. It's easier to eat clean to maintain the weight than while losing... in my opinion.

However, this morning I looked at myself in the mirror with no clothes on... and I see my body has gotten smaller and I still have a little more ways to go. I want to at least be 140-142 pounds. My six pack is forming (Standing up) sitting down it's still rolls there. My arms which were flabby and fat are going down, my color bone is appearing, and the back fat and bra fat is creeping away.
But I look at my thighs and they are getting smaller... I can see my muscle or bone whatever it is lol. I used to love my thighs when they had meat... I just wanted my upper fat gone... but can't target fat. I'm not sticks or anything.... but due to the fact that I have 5 or 6 more pounds to lose... I don't know where my body is going to decide to lose that fat. I don't want to lose anymore in my legs.

I never had a butt... but it seemed as if it was getting more round as I lost weight... I just don't want to be shapeless.

Anyhow. I just looked at myself and feel so guilty. I mean, I'm not going to gain the weight back. I'm going to work on toning and stuff now. Plus, I want to maintain the weight... that probably be hard. Since my body is in "weight loss" mode.

Anyone ever felt guilty like this?

parkscs

Feel guilty... for what exactly? Seems to me you would feel guilty for having done something wrong, but what exactly is wrong with losing weight. Yes it would be nice if we could spot reduce, but the inability to do so shouldn't make you feel guilty. I guess I don't get it, but guilty is not what comes to mind when I think of weight loss.

missh1967

Anyhow. I just looked at myself and feel so guilty.

Guilty of what? This makes zero sense.

Anyone ever felt guilty like this?

Nope. Not even a little bit.

BlueBombers

Guilty? Hell no. I've worked way too hard to lose the weight I did to feel guilty. I'm quite proud of myself actually. :bigsmile:

Edited for spelling.

seltzermint555

I don't know if guilty is the word you actually mean...? Honestly the post sounded like you have a lot of conflicting feelings about your body and weight change. That on the other hand is pretty normal and understandable.

Or maybe the conflicting feelings you have comes from seeing others go full-force with ambitious exercise, eating "all clean" and other things. Try not to compare yourself to others too much. Just take from their success whatever tips you might be able to use to make yourself look and feel your best. But don't feel like you don't deserve to be thinner, lighter, etc, because you "cheated" with chips or cookies or way more lazy days than some of your MFP pals. It's not cheating, it's just using a different approach. If you feel ashamed of how you handled it then do it differently in the future.

As for actual guilt related to weight loss/results, I haven't exactly felt that. The closest thing for me would be a little bit of anxiety about people noticing my loss and commenting on it. Generally speaking, I have no problem with it...but I admit that when I'm around certain friends or acquaintances who comment a lot on my weight loss, I feel sheepish about it and would rather they stop bringing it up so much. The worst for me is when I see a longtime friend who is around the size I was at my largest (134 lb ago) and I guess maybe then I do feel a displaced sense of "guilt" because I lost a lot of weight and she continues to gain while spending lots of money on shakes and fad diets. But I know that I shouldn't feel guilty or embarrassed for doing what is best for me!

Alassonde

I sometimes feel like I'm not trying hard enough.....maybe that's what you mean? Then I feel guilty when I skip a workout, because I know I would reach my fitness goals better if I didn't skip the workouts.

I'm about in the same spot as you, wanting to lose fat on only my stomach and nowhere else. Unfortunately I think this is the way my body is made. I have decided to accept myself the way I am but still not stop trying. Don't know if that makes any sense. Basically I'm going to ramp up the strength training and try to make some changes in my body but I'm not going to beat myself up if I don't get big changes.

I hope you can be proud of the progress you've made, and try not to beat yourself up over what you still think you need to do.

pirate_john_75

I suppose if anything I feel guilty over the fact that I'm just so darned good looking after losing the weight that it just isn't fair to all the other guys out there.

uconnwinsnc1

Do you mean guilty of what you did to your body to get you where you were before you started working out?