Feeling Bad About Myself

liberty741

Hello everyone -

So, I don't mean to be a negative source of energy here, but I am feeling really bad about myself and guilty. Yesterday was my second day of "eating healthy" and "dieting" and I failed miserably. I ended up having this huge midnight snack (binge) of triscuits, cheese and nutella and i ate alot of it.

My total calories for the day were about 2800, and I am trying to limit myself to only 1400. I am over 200 LBS and I need to lose 60 lbs!

I feel really guilty and embarrassed. I don't even eat like that when I'm not dieting. What helps everyone?

Thanks

Does anyone else go through these episodes? Does anyone have any advice?

skinnyclothes

Don't feel guilty don't dwell just move forward. You may have just been stressing too much and it caused you to have the late night munchies. Today is a new day forget about yesterday.

jmgoodwin1997

This is what I say to myself when I do this to myself, "get up...you can do this...it's one bad day, why make it more?" Sometimes this works, and sometimes it doesn't. If we dwell on the past there can't be anything good that comes out of the future.

mrsewert

If your just starting out I would recommend allowing yourself like 1800 calories a day. This way you don't feel guilty plus you won't get those binge urges. Also add some more protein and fiber to your diet it will help you feel full longer.

Best of luck honey we are all there with you from time to time. Today is a new day.

Kate_2011

what did you have for dinner?

mrsewert

Can you make your diary 'public' so we can see what it is your eating and maybe what's missing?

kimmie0627

Your body has to get use to eatting differently. We all have "fallen" of the wagon a time or two. i am coming back after fallin off a few months ago. It takes time to learn to eat healthy. It is not going to be an over night change. It is just a bump in a long road to being healthy. Don't give up on yourself. Remember what your goal or mini-gaols are. Look to the future. See a healther and better you. Good luck.

Kimmie

NightOwl1

Hey Diana,

Don't be ashamed of yourself! If this was easy, everyone would be healthy. But it's not, it's a struggle. It's a long war that you're only in the beginning of fighting. The thing about it being a war, is that sometimes, you're going to lose battles. You're going to have good days, not so good days, and just plain terrible days. The key is that when a terrible day happens, to just understand that they happen sometimes, and that tomorrow is another day, and to never stop fighting. If you never stop fighting, no matter how many bad days you have, you will eventually win.

This gets easier with time. The longer you try at it, the more good days you will have, and the less bad days. We're all here to support you through your successes and your trials.

laydeedancer

Sweetie, I think we've all been there before. Dont beat yourself up. Just start fresh today. You're human.

The biggest thing for me is to think of this whole adventure not as a diet but as a lifestyle change. I cant focus on what I'm restricting or giving up because then I become obsessed with it. Instead, I try to focus on all the things I can have, like fruits and veggies and such.

I always think that I am my own worst enemy. I need to change that thinking and become my own best ally.

Hang in there! :flowerforyou:

ksnj2

:flowerforyou: Don't feel bad. Everything you do good for yourself is better than not doing good. So, you were good all day!

As far as you calorie intake I think that is way too low, are you exercising? If you up your exercise you can up your calorie intake and then you won't feel like you are starving yourself!

skygoddess86

Can you get some of that stuff out of the house? Like the Nutella (yum)? Make sure you have some good and yummy choices...skinny cow bars, South Beach Diet granola bars, almonds.....and you may need more protein if your just so hungry.

sunshine79

I think we all have up days and down days - try not to beat yourself up about it. One trick is not to have any snack foods in your house to start off with, that way the likely hood of you bingeing is almost zero.

Dust yourself off and try again, you can do this :-):happy: :happy: :happy:

lovetowrite73

First off, I would suggest you don't think of what happened as a failure. Look at it as a minor setback, something you can correct the next day. The toughest time when you drastically change your eating habits are usually the first 3-5 days. Once you get over that hump (the cravings can be KILLER), you should see a change in your attitude. The next time you feel like binging, maybe try grabbing a fruit (apples with natural peanut butter are the best) or drink some water!

We all have our missteps but that doesn't make any of us failures! So, pick yourself up and start all over again. This board is a great place for the support you need to get through the tough times! :-)

pftjill

Keep it out of your house. I have kids so I have had to learn self control and trust me-it is hard for me. So the things I really love I keep out of my house.
When you start losing you start wanting the stuff less, because-it is much better to feel good about yourself then the way any food taste.

jewelzz

It's a new day with new beginnings,you'll do better today!:bigsmile:

jbars11

I can totally relate to the late night binge. It's a struggle...but today is new. Forget yesterday and move forward!! Stick with it and in the end you'll win not the late night cravings...or slip ups

It's a new day!

Sheriemae

I know that it doesn't always work, but try chewing gum. I chew about a half a pack a day so that I'm not doing mindless snacking. Or next time when you feel like snacking trying putting a serving size on a small plate and eat it. Wait about 10-15 after eating and decide if you REALLY want more, or are you just eating out of boredom.
Don't beat yourself up! We ALL have days like that!!! Just have to get back into it the next day. Best Wishes!

melissashparago89

Don't beat yourself up. What happened yesterday is over. And out of your control now. What is in control is: today. Make sure you get back on track and get a good workout in. I've had days like that as well. We all have.

Good luck to you!! I know you can do it!

-Melissa

NanBar

Did you log it in? If you didn't go do it NOW! The only way you will change is if you have some accountability- the minute you stop logging- you make it harder to lose!

When you are hungry drink water. I was a late night snacker and have to sometimes FIGHT the urge to get out of bed to go eat! And I am now successful! FIGHT!

Everyone cheats now and then. It isn't the END- unless you GIVE UP!

Seriously it's pretty simple, do you want to be over 200 pounds forever? If you DO- QUIT NOW- because you have reached your goal weight. If you DON'T- then keep moving!

Suzy12

It was your SECOND day! This is all new to you. Cut yourself some slack and go on from here. It gets easier, it really does. Start adopting the idea that this isn't a "diet" but a lifestyle change. Something you are doing "extra special" for YOU!!

thedeegan4

Don't beat yourself up or feel guilty about your slip up. We all have them. It's part of life. I'm betting that there is not one person on here that hasn't done that. Just tell yourself that tomorrow is a new day and that you can do this!

JakeNonne

This weight loss/health thing is a whole process and it took me months to change my mindset.

The good news is that you are starting to recognize what is beneficial to your health. It's like being broke allows you to know how to save and appreciate money in a bank account.

After I started this health process, I had to fail several times. For me, I had to go on my pizza binges to realize that it makes me feel bloated, heavy and kills my weight loss progress before I gave up pizza. Without that failure, I wouldn't know what success feels like.

Stay in the moment and take note of how it made you feel then move on. It's a process and you're making progress!

tkmedrano

I just started earlier this week and yesterday I ate 15 cookies . FIFTEEN! Goodness. Oh wait and then two more at a friends house....17:( We all have rough days. But let's look on the bright side I bet there are other things that you've done that were really good for yourself and you know what they are. For myself I've eaten way more vegetables and have had WAY MORE water than I've had in a long time. It might be the same for you. I'm going to try and repeat the good stuff today and leave the bad stuff behind me. You can do it too. Also, try reexamining your "healthy" foods. Maybe they were not providing enough nutrients and it helped cause a binge or if you had a rough day then maybe it was an emotional reaction. At the end of the day try writing out your emotions in the "note" section at the bottom of the Food Diary. You can do it!!

brendabuckeye

I go through that, too. I know where you are coming from. The fact is: You are human, you are going to makes mistakes, you are going to have a binge now and then. But I have been trying to plan ahead for these bumps in the road. I don't have much junk food available at my house, and I make sure any junk I do buy for the kids (and I'm trying to keep it healthier for them, too by buying granola bars, which I hate but they make decent snacks for them when they are sick of fruit) is stuff that is reasonably healthy and/or something I don't like. I also have learned that I can't tell myself that I can't have anything bad. I can have anything I want, I just have to work for it first. I can have a whole, real, sugar and caffeine loaded pop and even have a candy bar to go with it, but I had better be lovin' me some treadmill and bumping up the incline for a LONG time first. And by then I am usually too tired to leave the house and go get it (the perks of living in the middle of nowhere!). Throw out the junk, and be proud of yourself for making the effort to get better!

Good Luck and today is a new day. You will get there!

omarytorres

Step by step small changes make the diference. Do not buy them anymore and substitute them for something else like sugar free or fat free stuff but take it slow you'll get there. We are here to support each other ..count on us. God Luck

bordersvm

I agree with the others. Today is a NEW day! Don't look back on the past ever for anything! Just learn from your past. Don't beat yourself up. I also agree with your calorie intake goal, it may be too low for just starting out. But if you eat every 2 to 3 hours and count your calories, such as 300-400 for breakfast, 100 for snack #1, 400 for lunch, 100 calories for snack #2, and 500-600 calories for dinner and have 100 cal. snack with a warm cup of tea. Don't forget to workout! We have a saying in my house to not say the word 'can't'! You CAN DO THIS!! Take one day at a time...remember everyday is a new day and don't look back. Stay positive and focused! We are here for you!! :-D

Remember healthy foods to make you feel full, like lean protein and whole grains...fruits and veggies are always nice : )

:happy:

James501

Diana don't feel bad. I can speak for everyone i'm sure in saying we have all been there.

Dieting is never easy but it does get easier with time, the first few weeks are always the toughest but the good thing is you clearly want to do this. With that mind set i am sure you will lose every lb you want to.

Any help or advice you need feel free to message me.

James x

porcelain_doll

I think you dropped your calorie max too low. Going from 2800 to 1400 is a huge jump. I can't even eat 1400 or less per day, I get too hungry. I would suggest cutting out calories slowly, like going from 2800 to 2200 or 2000, something like that.

stamy6

Yesterday if OVER and can never be repeated. I agree with the others. Write down what happened.
Make a plan and stick to it.
We're all going to have challenges and temptations as we grow we will overcome them!

You can do this! Preparation is the key

sstewart36

Don't feel guilty. Of course eating healthy is not easy. If it was we would all be skinny. Just learn from your mistakes and plan your meals wisely where you don't need to biege. Stay focus and remember MFP is here to help. I am over 200 as well and it was hard for me to get into the routine. now that i am seeing reesults and knowing that other triumph is on it is way -- I am looking forward to onederland. BTW you are comng with me and you will be fine.

msdebg

Good Morning Diana!

I dont know what I could say that everyone else has not already said. All good advice and encouragement. We all have our challenges (those damned little powder donuts and peanut butter)..., so don't beat yourself up, be nice to you, it's a new day, you have new friends and we can hold your hand and help!:happy:

Deborah