Stress Management/Meeting Goals

ElizabethMcCathern

On Jan 1 I was at 198lbs....today, 6 days later i'm at 191.

I'm currently dealing with my 3 year old's surgery coming up and am a complete wreck. I'm having a really hard time reaching my calorie goal. Even yesterday i only made it up to 600...and that was mostly the creamer in my coffee.

While i'm glad the numbers are going down, i know how unhealthy this is and really need to get control of this.

Does anyone have any tips or tricks on how to manage the anxiety and stress so I can get back to normal?

I can't believe i'm asking for tips on slowing my weight loss....but there it is. LOL

Amber030583

Have you talked to your doctor? You may need to get on something to treat the anxiety. I know I did. Also, when my anxiety was at its worst I literally had to make myself eat. I know it can be hard to do. But you got to have energy to take care of your little one. Message me if you want to talk.

muth3rluvx2

Elizabeth,

I'm like you - when excessively stressed or depressed, I can't eat. I mean - literally - can't. Its painful. Unless it's super super small stuff like crackers, plain bread/bagel or chicken broth. I can only imagine what you're going through right now and frankly, if we're as similar in this area as it sounds, you won't be able to eat something truly solid until you see your daughter post-surgery and feel like things went well and you have some sense of relief.

Just keep trying to eat something - even if it is just crackers and soup and try really hard to keep up on the water. That's going to be really important. You can get away with this for a little while without it causing serious damage, but not for too long. Don't worry about the loss right now. You've got enough on your plate. Some of it will come back after you start eating again.

I'll keep you and your daughter in my thoughts today.

ElizabethMcCathern

Thanks y'all.

Yeah, that's about right. My stomach is just in knots and i feel nauseated any time i look at food...i've managed saltines here and there and a half a bowl of chicken soup, that that's about it. Trouble is her surgery got pushed back to the 17th so that's a long time.

I *prefer* not to take any meds if possible as my body tends to have very strong reactions and i have 2 other children to care for....but if i have to....i have to.

Thanks for the reminder on the water....i have been slipping.

muth3rluvx2

May I ask what the surgery is for? The 17th is quite a ways away; I'd be a little concerned about such high stress levels lasting that long. Not just because of the eating problem but it can cause all kinds of other digestive problems that are longer term. Trust me... *because* I'm the same way, I have IBS & ulcers - I also happen to be lactose intolerant, I've gone through gastro-entronitis (or however its spelled), I'm friggin' shocked I don't have GERDs at this point!

11 days is quite a long time to be that tense.

Plus, depending on the ages of your other children, they're picking up on it and you'd better believe your daughter is! Be careful - she may or may not get what's going on but mommy's energy could scare her; she knows something is up. Everyone is different as far as what they need to help them cope and for that length of time, you've got to find a way to manage or you're going to be absolutely useless by the time the surgery actually rolls around and you don't want that, I'm sure!

Can you set up a conference with her surgeon, get some sort of reassurance?

ElizabethMcCathern

It's a dental surgery. She has to have several teeth removed because she inherited a genetic condition from her biological dad. And she fell and broke one of them off very close to the gum. They're doing it in a surgery center and sedating her with something called "versed" (which is a whole other issue since i've heard tons of horror stories) and because it's in an OR i can't be there with her.

Originally it was scheduled for the 10th but they double booked her appointment so she got bumped.

Yeah i'm a wreck...and she knows it. She's actually milking it for all it's worth. Cuddling and such much more than normal and wanting alot of "just mommy and me" time. The others are 2 and 4 months.

I actually can't speak with her surgeon until the day of as he does only surgeries and is never in the office and her dentist really can't give me any specifics because he's not doing the surgery.

I'm trying to be an informed parent, but the more informed I get, the more anxious i become.