A whole pie?!?!?!?!?!?

LokiFae

My husband just brought home an entire just baked apple crumb pie from his mom's house.

AN ENTIRE PIE??????

How am I supposed to not eat a just baked apple crumb pie? Not even a piece? HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

Edit: Just a little vent here. I asked my husband why he would bring that home when he KNEW I would be tempted by it and feel bad if I ate some. He said that I'm getting too skinny and he thinks I don't need to lose any more weight. Aww...Very sweet, but he KNOWS that I want to do this for ME. I want to be healthier, etc. I told him that, and he went into this whole thing about how his friends already think I'm hot and that they've been commenting on how good I look. So that made me feel pretty good, but then I thought, he wants me to be fat forever so that his friends won't think I'm good looking? Don't most men want to be with good looking women? I don't understand. Has anyone had this happen to them?

LokiFae

My husband just brought home an entire just baked apple crumb pie from his mom's house.

AN ENTIRE PIE??????

How am I supposed to not eat a just baked apple crumb pie? Not even a piece? HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

Edit: Just a little vent here. I asked my husband why he would bring that home when he KNEW I would be tempted by it and feel bad if I ate some. He said that I'm getting too skinny and he thinks I don't need to lose any more weight. Aww...Very sweet, but he KNOWS that I want to do this for ME. I want to be healthier, etc. I told him that, and he went into this whole thing about how his friends already think I'm hot and that they've been commenting on how good I look. So that made me feel pretty good, but then I thought, he wants me to be fat forever so that his friends won't think I'm good looking? Don't most men want to be with good looking women? I don't understand. Has anyone had this happen to them?

5KNohno

I get my hubby to keep things like that in his desk cabinet in a tupperware container. Since I usually don't mess with his stuff its not there yelling at me to eat it. Good luck.

PrincessLaundry

Drop the @$%@#%$ thing on the floor...OOPS!

I've been known to toss out entire bags of chips, chocolate chips, cereal, and pizza's that my husband has brought into the house. I throw them in the garbage, send them to work with him, drop them in the sink, let the dog lick them...I know it sounds silly, but that way I KNOW I won't touch it, so I throw it out, and I'm basically taking control of my intake. If my husband was going to eat it, then he should have already!

Friggin pie...Throw it at him. LOL

Let me know who wins. K?

PrincessLaundry

I just read your post to my husband...

He grinned and said, "Ahh...Sabotage Pie from the mother in law." He remembers that flavor...LOL

LokiFae

I just read your post to my husband...

He grinned and said, "Ahh...Sabotage Pie from the mother in law." He remembers that flavor...LOL

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: That's hilarious.

janellybelly

HAHAHAHA...THAT IS TOO FUNNY!!! I AGREE...DROP IT OR THROW IT OUT!

kismetplayer

When my husband senses that I am trying to lose weight, he will bring home everything that he knows I like. I don't think he wants me to lose weight.

plantlady99

My husband would never bring sweets home. He knows I will eat it. lol

barracudamuscle

HAHAHAHA...THAT IS TOO FUNNY!!! I AGREE...DROP IT OR THROW IT OUT!

You guys are the devil, I'd be pissed if my fiance did that to me, I'd make her get back in the kitchen and make me another one! LOL:drinker:

yellow_pepper

Is it possible that your husband is worried that you're weight loss will eventually lead you to love him less? When you say "I'm doing this for me!" it can be frightening to the other half of "us." Especially if he has body image issues of his own, or if he thinks the two of you are just fine the way you are.

Of course, it's great that you're doing this for you ... but maybe you should sell it to him a little differently. Tell him of all the great new things you'll be able to do together - or feel comfortable doing together - after you lose the weight. Does he like the beach? Tell him about the dream vacation you'll take to celebrate. And don't forget any details that will get him excited about it.

Reassure him that you love him exactly the way he is, and that you won't feel differently when you do reach your fitness goal. And then, with irresistible eyes, suggest a way to get rid of that pie - maybe he could invite some of his friends over to devour it during a game? Or your children could have some friends over to have slivers with skim milk? Anything to make sure there isn't too much left for you.

janellybelly

HECK NO!!! WE ARE FAT CAUSE OF THE DECISSIONS WE MAKE...SO, IF IT WERE ME...I'D THROW IT OUT OR MAKE HIM EAT IT THAT NIGHT OR TAKE IT OUTTA THE HOUSE! LOL

I AM NOT THAT EVIL....

maverickyanda

Whaaatt?

That's actually kind of mean of him. One, he's clearly sabatoging you and not being respectful or helpful. Two, his comments on how you're too skinny etc can't be correct because if I'm reading your counter right, you're not too skinny (not saying you're fat but you are not malnourished) and even if you WERE thin, I am sorry, but eating a whole apple pie isn't good for anyone!

Now, if you did want to eat some version of an applie pie, use plain rolled oats for the topping, minimal butter and whole real apples (not canned) for the filling with some splenda. A tad of brown sugar (nomnom) and cinnamon and you're set. Even cinnamon extract added doesn't shoot your calories through the roof and WOWS the taste.

You'll have a decent apple crisp that yields about 110-150 calories a serving AND you can bake just one serving at a time using 1/4-1/2 cu rolled oats and a freshly cut apple and a muffin cup in a muffin pan at 350 degrees for about 15 minutes

maverickyanda

ps agreed, make him give it away or throw it away!

yellow_pepper

Trying to force him to do anything to that pie isn't going to help anything. It's better to get to the bottom of things and find out what's really driving him to bring home trigger foods against your wishes.

There's a great chapter about this in "How the Rich Get Thin." One executive's wife got jealous of his weight loss and started putting him in situations where he'd have trouble resisting his trigger foods. This behavior only stopped after they had a heart-to-heart. Maybe it's time you had yours.

LokiFae

Well, to update everyone...

I took yellow pepper's advice, and had a real long drawn out talk with him. Told him I don't want those kinds of things in the house because they ruin my day and make me act horribly. I also explained to him that I want to lose the weight because it will make me feel better about myself, but will not change the way I feel about him. He told me he understood and would not do it again. The situation is: When my mom lost 200+ pounds, she started cheating on my dad and they subsequently divorced. He knows all this. My mom and I are also very very close. So he let me know that he was afraid that I was going to cheat on him and leave him if I lost the weight and felt better about myself. I let him know that that was a different relationship, and a different situation, and that wasn't something I would do. So I guess we got to the bottom of it. And he, I think, will definitely change. The pie went in to the back of the refrigerator, covered in tin foil, and I can't even see it when I open the door anymore, so...ta-da!

Thank you all for your help.

Mags

Yeah, he's feeling insecure... and if he knows the history with your mum, his mum knows too and she's being a mom to him - though its no harm not allowing yourself to be taken for granted its wise to reassure him that you want to change your dissatisfaction with yourself and not your relationship with him

though the occasional slippage, etc. happen in life - lol

needs must and all that - he'll get the message sooner or later and sometimes you do need to take matters into your own hands

stick to your guns and guy sexy lingerie, his ambivalence to your health decision might just change sooner rather than later

Mags


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GravyGurl

Well, to update everyone...

I took yellow pepper's advice, and had a real long drawn out talk with him. Told him I don't want those kinds of things in the house because they ruin my day and make me act horribly. I also explained to him that I want to lose the weight because it will make me feel better about myself, but will not change the way I feel about him. He told me he understood and would not do it again. The situation is: When my mom lost 200+ pounds, she started cheating on my dad and they subsequently divorced. He knows all this. My mom and I are also very very close. So he let me know that he was afraid that I was going to cheat on him and leave him if I lost the weight and felt better about myself. I let him know that that was a different relationship, and a different situation, and that wasn't something I would do. So I guess we got to the bottom of it. And he, I think, will definitely change. The pie went in to the back of the refrigerator, covered in tin foil, and I can't even see it when I open the door anymore, so...ta-da!

Thank you all for your help.

So glad you sat down and talked through it and found out his feelings. :flowerforyou:

yellow_pepper

sculley

Mine will try to force feed me my favorite deserts say at like 9pm at night and then get mad at me and say I don't appreciate the gesture if I don't eat it.

beep

Bring it over............. I'll eat it.:laugh:

opatt23

Lol....If it makes you feel better, my hubby and I went to a Farmers Market this weekend and bought personal sized pies....and yeah...I ate it. :grumble: It was cherry. :ohwell:

And um....yeah some aka ALOT of carrot cake


and hmmm...today....french fries....which I never ever eat! Does it help that they were made from real potatos and cooked in peanut oil???? NO probably not...oh well....my husband is a sabotage and he knows it...:grumble:

maverickyanda

That's terribly abusive behavior.

SoupNazi

Good Lord...we have lots of tempting thing in my house but I don't freak about it. Are you feeding yourself enough? Self control man...self control....this is the real world and you must deal with that. If you don't have self control, by all means forbid it in your house...you are the boss applesauce.