My Family is doubting my efforts

sweetsexy43

Im a bit dissapointed that my family doesnt believe im really serious this time around. Although i dont have to prove anything to them..how do i ignore their doubt and keep from being discouraged?

PokenStick

Turn it into something positive. Take their doubt and fuel your fire with it! Lose the weight and prove them wrong!

GorillaNJ

Exactly show them they are wrong..

baileyj33

You are doing this for yourself and not for them, so you go girl and prove them wrong!!!

mccorml

ive never lost this much weight the proof is in the system should work for you workout hard and lose that weight and show them

doramouse

Have you said you were going to do it before and not done it? That was me until I got tired of saying I was going to do it and I just did it - or am doing it I talk about it all the time to my husband and family. I tell them my goals, my food success during the day and point out each small triumph. After a couple months they got on board. Just stay strong and do it for YOU and they will see it and support you. It's mostly important to you so do it for you.

smuehlbauer

F 'em - prove them, and yourself that they're wrong!

JoniBologna

Wow, I am sad to hear your family is not supportive. Use all of us as your family. You've got lots of people here that will support you. You can do it. Make them eat their words.

LittleMissAngi

you CAN do it! We are all here for you!

sherylhs

I feel a bit differently... I do this for ME. I'm not concerned about what other people are thinking or feeling, I'm determined to make healthy changes for me.

The bonus? My hubby sees my progress and is trying to exercise more and make healthier food choices.

Good luck with your efforts!

~S

manleyzoo

I know it is hard when you hear things from the ones closest to you. Just as they have said in the above comments, do it anyway!! This site is so supportive and inspiring. Make every new friend here that you can. We will be your support system!! Friend me if you wish!!

debrnmedic

Hang in there and remember you're doing this for yourself and no one can keep you from reaching your goals but yourself.....proving you can do what you set your mind too is an awesome feeling....I promise

porcelain_doll

My mom would always tell me that "something must be wrong with me" since I was exercising so much and not losing weight. There was something wrong, but not with me. I just wasn't monitoring my calories properly. Anyway, usually what people dislike or comment negatively about regarding you is something they have a weakness in themselves. Do it to show them who was right all along, but most importantly, do it for yourself because that is what matters the most. They are just obstacles in your path that you can push out of your way and keep running.

funkyspunky871

Turn it into something positive. Take their doubt and fuel your fire with it! Lose the weight and prove them wrong!

I agree! My older brother said he wouldn't truly believe in me until I had lost 50 pounds. Look at me now! 108 pounds! Take that sucka!! Lol.

purplespeckle

i agree. start proving them wrong and eventually they'll shush up.

TaneeisFitforLife

Focus on yourself

thisis4me

I am sorry they are not supportive, hopefully they will come around. Prove them wrong.....this is about you and you can do it!! hang in there:)

tawny7

Hang in there and keep doing what you're doing!! You know you'll feel better once you lose weight, exercise regularly, and eat right!! And you can do it!!

Silky815

This is about you. You are going to lose the weight. Do not pay them any mind. We are all here for you on MFP. Make sure you have a lot of us on your friends list for support. Like they all said...Prove them all wrong. YOU CAN AND WILL DO THIS!!!!

NotAllWhoWanderAreLost

sometimes people feel threatened by changes THEY don't control... strange as it may seem, there is security in it for them when you stay status quo (or so it feels). But you go right ahead and just forge forward loving yourself enough to get thru the meantime until they snap their heads outta their a$$es and see what a great thing this truly is becoming for you!! Wishing you tons of luck on your journey!!!

nilisabel

yes, that is very difficult. family is family. people are very supportive on this site and I hope it makes you feel better. In my home life people are sometimes supportive and sometimes not. for example, my mom bought all the crap I can't eat and filled my house with it, and my husband just flat-out refused to go for a walk with me so now I have to friggin exercise alone, which i hate to do.

Review YOUR goals and why YOU want to be different, why YOU want to make this change. Sorry to use caps but i have to in order to kind of emphasize the part of the sentence that matters.

For me, there is only 3 reasons I am losing weight, and only 2 that really matter to me right now, today: 1) arthritis 2) pregnancy 3) be a hot wife for my sexy husband

What are your reasons?

If you care to read on, these are the reasons behind MY reasons:

The less weight I carry, the easier it is on my joints and nursing school is wicked stressful, and that makes me rheumy. I am not pregnant yet, but I am 27 and I wanna have kids. Having taken OB and pediatrics in nursing school, I realize that for me to feel comfortable and believe that I have done absolutely everything in order to give those kids the best shot at life, I have to be healthy a year in advance of the pregnancy, and for that entire year. A year of maintenance at a good starting weight (BMI 21-22), of good nutrition (folate, iron, calcium, vit. D, B vitamins),stable blood sugars, a year of core strength training. pregnancy is hard on the body and labor is work and it's good to have strong vasculature and ab muscles; I don't really want diastasis recti but if it happens or if I need a c-section, i want my ab muscles to recover well. that means starting off with a better hand of cards than I have right now, today. So, those are my goals.

Yes, I have tried and failed before, but every time I write 'em down and read 'em over again, I become more committed. Yes, I really hope I make it this time. Yes, I have been trying for 4 years to lose weight, and I lose and gain, lose and gain. This is the first year I have a genuinely good reasons all to myself that aren't really dependent on some vain or non-specific health related reason. And I'm gonna make it this time and maintain.

jhines6927

use it for motivation and show them!!

MelissaL582

I've been the type to say one thing (like diets) and not follow through. It would last maybe a couple day and then I was back to my regular eating habits. A friend from another site mentioned MFP, I signed up New Years Eve and I weighed myself. What I saw on the scale pissed me off but it made me so sad for myself. How did I get this big? Yes, I have 3 children but that was no excuse to still carry the extra weight. I have been on this site for a week now, logging in my calories and being under my goal. I feel great! My husband sees how determined I am. Tonight, he said "don't get too skinny on me". The word "skinny" and "me" have never been in the same sentence directed to me. I am going to prove everyone that I can do this and hopefully to inspire other people.

I wish you the best of luck on YOUR journey to losing the weight.

9virgo11

I have faith in you!!!! Miss you lady......

angela_wolsey

Dont worry 2 much about what others say. It's harder said than done, I know, but with every pound or inch u loose it will get easier! People will c u are serious about this and they will come around. They are ur family n they love u, so they will support u, u might just have 2 prove it 2 them! Stay possitive, n have fun with ur weight loss journey! U will do great!

sweetsexy43

Wow!! The support i am receiving from this site is OUTSTANDING!!! Im so blessed to have found it. I am truly motivated to keep moving on and not listen to the nay sayers!! Thanks Again for everyone's positive response..(Tear)

jmbender4

I agree with doramouse; don't talk about it, just do it! My husband and kids have no idea what I am doing. They see the food scale and measuring cups; and I confirm my bubbie can stay with the kids when I plan to work out. I will show them my loose pants; when they get loose

Find a diet and workout plan that works for you, and Do It ! Good luck !

Texsox

I didn't bother telling anyone, I just started counting calories and as the weight was coming off people started asking me. Then I linked to my fb profile and everyone knew.