Food addicts 12 steps

Last2bfirst

You don't know the steps unless you have done them and if you haven't worked the steps with someone who has worked the steps then you are merely giving your opinion on something you know nothing about.

I am finding this thread quite entertaining.

I'm an opinionated person too. Don't get me wrong. But it worries me when something as delicate as a recovery program which so many people need, is slandered by people who know nothing about it. Your inaccurate views may change the opinion of someone who's life depends on it.

Just food for thought. No pun intended

DebbieLyn63

I like your version, its much more realistic. However, in both versions I don't see how 8 and 9 are applicable. We hurt ourselves with our addiction. Not others. Whoever made up the 12 step program figured it would work for all addictions, but it doesnt. There aren't 12 steps for everything.

Whenever something in our lives becomes an addiction, then it quite often takes the place of other important things and people in our lives. We don't realize just how our choices affect our loved ones.
If a mother is 100 lbs overweight and doesn't have the energy to play with your children and interact with her family, then her family suffers.
If a person's health is affected by their diet and life choices, then money will need to be spent on medical issues that could be used for college funds, or household expenses, or retirement, etc. Added food expense due to overeating, can also be a problem.
If a person is considerably overweight, then they may become less desirable to their spouse. This can cause problems in the marriage, and can cause the spouse to carry guilt because of their lack of desire.

My mother died in June 2012, just 3 weeks before my first grandchild was born. For 20 years, she was unwilling to change her eating and exercise habits to control her Diabetes. Her desire to eat as she willed, and be sedentary, was more important than seeing her grandchildren and great-grandchildren grow up. The day my granddaughter was born was very bittersweet. The joy of helping my daughter bring her daughter into this world, was saddened when I desperately wanted to call my mom with the news, then realized that I couldn't.

So yes, altho drug and alcohol addictions may cause more obvious damage to others, food addictions can cause a lot of damage to family relationships, and affect more than the individual. Realizing this fact in my mom's case, was a great motivation for me to finally get my weight off as well, so I will be here to watch my grandchildren and future great-grandchildren grow up and participate more fully in the lives of my loved ones.

ChaplainHeavin

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I want to read this book! Thank you! Anyone who has not worked the steps can't understand and anyone who has won't usually comment.
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I fully concur

LINIA

Dear OP,

REWRITING and "owning" the 12 steps you are taking may just be what will work for you.

You're brilliant for using that approach---please let us know if this helps you--all the best!!!! ????????????

ChaplainHeavin

The first step bothers me

"We admitted we were powerless over our food addiction"

We aren't powerless at all. The point of it existing in the original 12 steps is because by admitting you are powerless you put everything in gods hands. I think the first non-christian step should be admitting that we have COMPLETE control over our food addiction. By taking responsibility we seize the right to make our own decisions

Wait a minute! The first step bothers you because you have to admit you’re powerless, um, over the addiction that you can’t control?