What made you decide to take back control?
bekdavis
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mine was the fact that I feel so damn heavy!!! I am a small 5 ft so any excess weight feels like a ton on me. I can feel that my small frame has a hard time with all of this weight. Rolling over in bed is not as easy as it use to be. My knees and joints hurt. My body needs to break free from this extra weight.
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I am tired of going places and not taking pictures because I hate the way I look. I love photography, but hate pictures of me. I want to document my life and the events I enjoy with pictures so I can create the photobooks I enjoy making for others to look back on these wonderful memories with my husband and my dogs!
We took pictures of my dog's graduation (okay, we don't have kids.. they ARE our kids!) from the advanced class for his Canine Good Citizenship test and I just hated it. I wanted to hide behind my cocker spaniel! I don't want that for my life anymore. I want to take pictures with my husband and look good and feel good about myself.
Thanks for posting this topic! Makes you look back on why you really want ths and why you need to put one foot in front of the other and keep working for this!0 -
I agree my legs feel so heavy I feel like I am lifting weights every time I go up the subway steps. I pray for it to be over as quickly as possible. :noway:0
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Yeah, I felt heavy, my feet hurt, I was so embarrassed about my FATNESS that I freaked out if anyone tried to take a picture of me, etc. But the *hello* moment for me was when a guy in my office, just 3 weeks younger than me, had a stroke at work. I put down the Taco Bell and picked up a granola bar that very day. Went out and got good walking shoes and started moving even though it hurt. My dogs were happy to encourage me to walk morning and night. I dropped from 215 pounds to 125 in 18 months, and have stayed between 125-130 ever since. It's worth it!!!0
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Well, my realization moment had two negatives involved! I was drinking 2 bottles of champagne every single night. Out of pure boredom! So, I gained 15 pounds AND had a drinking problem. I stopped this daily routine and switched to vodka on the weekends (and stressful evenings when I just need a drink!). :bigsmile:0
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BekDavis...I feel exactly the same way!! I am about 5'4 and i am at 178. It seems like such a long way down to 120, but i feel all the weight and on me and i'm pretty tired of it. i am huffing and puffing after walking a flight of stairs!0
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For me it was the size of my stomach. It was harder to bend and move and in bed I could actually feel a difference in ease of breathing. Also my legs got achy. The line was drawn there. Even just getting 6 pounds of has helped but I want to feel freeness of body like I did when I was thin. I can just imagin how 47 pounds is goin to be. Will I feel like a kid again?0
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Seeing old photos of yourself when you were thin!!0
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My medical insurance (like most of them now days) is requiring mandatory health screenings. When I went for mine back in November, I was really surprised at how far I'd let myself go. I knew I was big but good lord not that big. I'd passed a weight that I always told myself I'd never let myself get to. I realized that the whole "I know I'm fat but I'm not as bad as he is" mentality had to go. I'd been justifying my laziness and gluttony by comparing myself to bigger people, which is stupid. All that was doing was allowing me to inch closer and closer to the person I never wanted to be as big as.0
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i want to be able to paint my toe nails again with ease!!!!0
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For me it was the size of my stomach. It was harder to bend and move and in bed I could actually feel a difference in ease of breathing. Also my legs got achy. The line was drawn there. Even just getting 6 pounds of has helped but I want to feel freeness of body like I did when I was thin. I can just imagin how 47 pounds is goin to be. Will I feel like a kid again?
It makes a HUGE difference!!! After losing so much weight (over 90 pounds) I got downright bouncy, lol! I love to race up the stairs, and will jog or sprint with the dogs just for the joy of it. I feel so much younger and healthier now (almost 49) than I did at 45 years old. People don't even recognize me from 4-5 years ago. You will be amazed what a difference that 40-50 pounds makes. Good luck!0 -
I've been talking about doing something different in my life for a long time - but when I realized 30 was right around the corner I decided it had to be NOW! I knew I couldn't hope to lose weight by 30 if I didn't do something now, otherwise it was going to have to be something drastic, which I did not want to do.
It also helps (in a bad way) when I fly to see my family. They live 900 miles away, so flying is my only option. I've never had to ask for a seat belt extension, but some of the smaller commuter planes I fly on, I almost have to. I'm able to get the seat belt buckled, but it's humiliating. I watched someone else ask for a seat belt extension and thought to myself, "See, he can ask for one, it can't be all that bad." - UM - yes it can - just don't put yourself in a situation that you have to ask for one - THAT'S the better solution!0 -
Diabetes!0
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Getting tired doing small things and being out of breath
Being a good role model to my softball players (I coach)
Wanting my clothes to fit again, and feeling like I look good in them
Wanting to feel attractive again0 -
My kids! i want to be alive to watch the grow up, graduate, go to college, get married, and have families of their own. Like some of you I knew I was big but not "that big". I think part of it was denial. I never want to go back to where I was! I want to be able to enjoy life!0
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I hated being the fattest person in the room EVERYWHERE I went. At times I thought for sure I was the fattest person in my city!
I wanted to go on rides at amusement parks but when a 25,000 lb ride can't hold me that's pretty sad!!
I'd be out of breath rolling over in bed.
I hated what I had become.0 -
Other then my clothes being to tight...LoL? My Daughter is always trying to take pictures of me and I get mad (which isn't her fault). I truly HATE the way I look and feel embarrassed and scared if I go out of the house, might run into someone I know. So I have decided this is crazy and need to do something sooner then later.0
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My reasons are several-fold.
I don't want to die young. I've watched cancer and illness take almost my entire family away from me and I don't want to be at a higher risk for those things anymore. I promised my Dad I'd get healthy and I'm going to.
Also, I did and have gotten tired of not being able to do anything "normal". Before I lost what I have at this point, I got winded and tired...Taking a shower! I stopped being able to find clothes my size at Wal Mart, so I moved onto Lane Bryant and I even outgrew what they had in the store, so I had to start going to Catherines since they went to over a size 30. Can't lace my snowboots up past my ankles because my calves are so fat. I stopped going to movies because unless we went somewhere with armrests that moved, I could barely squeeze into a seat. I couldn't sit in a booth at an eating place anymore. I started to get scared about breaking chairs when I sat in one. Tons of simple things like that, that people at a normal weight never even consider.
I just want to be able to live without the restriction of worrying about whether I can fit into something or if I'll break it or whatever.0 -
My reasons are also, several-fold.
For one, My husband didn't marry a fat chick, why would he want to be married to one now?! I feel as though I've let him down to some extent. Yes, I know he truely loves me, weight and all, but I want to FEEL that he's proud to have me on his arm again...I want to see him puff his chest out like he did before I got pregnant and people would notice me. It made me feel good to see him so proud of me. He still does it, cause i'm one of those "pretty faced" fat girls, but it feels tainted by all my belly-fat and thunder-thighs.
Second, My son asked me the other day when I was going to look like I did in those other pictures...(we were looking through my high-school scrapbook.) I told him that mama was older now and would never actually look that young again and he said "No mama, I mean that skinny. When are you gonna be that skinny again?" I teared up and tried not to let him see it, and I told him "You know what? Mama's gonna start right now on getting skinny sweetheart." I don't want to be an embarrasment for my only child. That would break my heart absolutely in two. Other than my husband, he is my whole world.
Third, Honestly, i'm tired of being a fat-*kitten*. Really! I want to be able to play with my son and not get out of breath.....to go for a nice long walk with my family and our tea-cup chihuahua and make it more than a quarter mile before I feel like i'm going to collapse. I want to wear clothes that don't cost a fortune because there's so much extra material needed to make them! I want my clothes to be cute and stylish! I don't want the "belly overhang". I kid around all the time that I have so much extra belly fat that all I need is two tent poles and I could prop up my belly and it would resemble a fruit stand! HAHA! Also, i'm tired of having to make jokes to cover up the fact that i'm ashamed of myself and what I look like. I'm done with all of this....THATS why I decided to take back control!!!0 -
I have battled being overweight since I was a child. I have successfully lost weight over the decades to have it find me again shortly after I stopped dieting. I was convinced that I was a weight loss failure. I even went to an obesity specialist to get him to "fix" me. I followed WW and he lowered my points so low I was starving and all that did was cause me stress and I managed to gain more weight!
Fast forward to now and I have "end stage arthritis" which means that I qualify for knee replacement, but I am too young to have the surgery I was told... I was told that every pound I lose would me 4 less pounds of pressure on my knee. Great, I thought now I've got the motivation. Nope. It took my daughter talking to my husband and saying that I was fat! So today I am 10 lbs lighter, 50 more to go to make me in the healthy range for my height. And I have 40 lbs of pressure off my knee. I haven't felt any different but I know this a journey and not a destination.
Also seeing pictures of myself this Christmas solidified my resolve. I didn't recognize myself.
Because I am afraid of failing yet again I am taking it slowly and have broken the year into months. So far so good. I'll keep you posted.0 -
For me it was...I was out groing my clothes, the way my body looked (mainly my belly) and a challenge at work to see who can lose the most weight (its a biggest loser challenge)0
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Combination of a lot of things for me. I was outgrowing my clothes, and bought bigger jeans... and then they started to get too tight. Argh! I noticed that even though I look all right from the front, when I saw myself from the side I look 5 or 6 months pregnant. And then I noticed that I can't pull my knee up to my chest to put my socks on -- I have to cross my ankle over the opposite knee. Then when I took my son to the doctor and decided to weigh myself on a whim while we were waiting in the exam room, and I saw that the number was higher than it had been two weeks before, and I finally added it up and realized that I had gained over 30 lbs. in 2 years, I decided enough was enough.0
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I too have a "ton" of reasons I made that decision!
1. I was diagnosed with a fatty liver and the technician had written on the report that because I was so big it was hard to get a clear picture of certain areas with the sonagram machine.
2. I had asthma, anxiety and depression and couldn't walk a set of stairs without being winded.
3. I weighed 148ish on my wedding day and 255 14 years later when I decided to pull myself together
4. I saw pictures of myself and couldn't begin to accept that that was me!
5. My belly was constantly in my way--everything was strenuous other than sitting
6. I went from being a fashion maven to a fashion disaster--I had three loose fitting outfits and refused to shop in the 2xl range
7. I was on all sorts of meds to control issues that ultimately had to do with obesity
8. I was cutting myself out of my family's life--avoiding outings and pictures and gatherings because I was so ashamed.
9. I kept getting sick--with all sorts of ailments
10. I wanted to be in control of my weight, not the other way around
So....I...
1. analyzed all the diets and yo-yoing I'd done over the years to determine why they hadn't worked.
2. made a commitment to get healthy, thin, off all meds and back into a normal family routine within one year
3. Did my research relative to weight loss, weight loss methods, weight loss surgeries, etc. and picked what was best for me
4. I didn't get anyone elses input into my decisions...I knew what I needed to do and everyone else be damned. The goal was for the improvement of not just me but my family and I was seeking long term, one last time, kind of change. Just because something did/didn't work for another person, didn't mean it was/wasn't good for me.
5. I respected myself enough to adhere to my committments and the rest is...success!
Good luck to one and all! You deserve to be the best you can be!0 -
I am so proud of ALL OF US for taking back control of our lives. Reading these stories is such an inspiration to me to stay focused.0
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I am taking control because I am tired of being stressed and nasty all the time. I needed to find a stress out so I would stop yelling at my family. It is not their fault! So I am starting slow with my workouts and know I can go to the gym to get stress free! Well at least for the most part. I also wanted to feel sexy as I think it will help the "love life". We all have different reason for taking control I am just glad we all started! Be good to yourself and have fun!!!
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I had a couple of different reasons but the catalyst was seeing a picture of me at a gathering and my stomach was stretching the XL shirt I was wearing. I knew I was heavier than I should be but that just kinda hit hard. It was right after my ex-fiance had left me and I was feeling like crap as it was and that picture kinda drove it home.
I made a choice then and there to change. I didn't want to be overweight, unhealthy and alone. As much as it can be self destructive to think that way I constantly thought no one would want me the way I was. I was determined to get healthy thin and be a better person so I wouldn't be alone.
I had a couple of false starts and slips in the process but a lot of us do but I started walking every other day and eating healthier. I got to the point where my walks were 6-7 miles. When I weighed myself after that summer I think the final tumbler clicked and I realized that I could change and be happy. That final click was just over a year ago and I will never go back to what I was. From now on I'm healthy, happy, lighter and the vain part of me says much better looking. ;-P
The bonus. I've found a tone of new hobbies that I love. Hiking, geo-caching, racquetball are my favs so far. :-)0 -
I am taking control because I am tired of being stressed and nasty all the time. I needed to find a stress out so I would stop yelling at my family. It is not their fault! So I am starting slow with my workouts and know I can go to the gym to get stress free! Well at least for the most part. I also wanted to feel sexy as I think it will help the "love life". We all have different reason for taking control I am just glad we all started! Be good to yourself and have fun!!!
YES! The stress and nastiness from being overweight and ashamed of it is powerful! I felt sorry for my family too! So glad we're riends now and can support each other here on all these sorts of issues!0 -
okay, one more thing...I'm really proud of everyone here for really opening up and saying some very, very powerful things. A couple of you have even caused me to tear up...and I'm not a crybaby! It's not easy being this raw and honest in writing so kudos to you all.
Know this too: we're all in it together and we can all do it! When you feel yourself sliding, come back and look at these posts for your motivation!
Go get 'em tigers!0 -
Take Pics Now Melly so you can see not only how beautiful you are now but how beautiful you will be and feel when you reach your goal..It will inspire you to keep losing..... Then you will realize you dont want to go back there ever again !!! Believe you are beautiful just as you are but keep your dreams alive and succeed at your goals....0
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Wow Chocolate you lost some amazing weight Congratulations to you .. You are beautiful....0
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Wow Chocolate you lost some amazing weight Congratulations to you .. You are beautiful....
:blushing: awww...thank you!0
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