No one noticed

geeky1
geeky1 Posts: 142
edited September 23 in Health and Weight Loss
Just want to have a little teary...

I have lost 10 kg and no one has noticed. I thought that if people hadn't seen me for a bit, they would see that I was getting smaller, but alas no. I had been away from work for 3 weeks over Xmas.
I can see little changes; some of my clothes are looser.
Boo hoo hoo :sad:

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  • Paulsonlauri
    Paulsonlauri Posts: 2
    Other people will notice eventually. People don't like to say anything in fear of making you feel bad because of your previous weight. The same has happened to me,only a few people have noticed. Keep up the good work.
  • hjy319
    hjy319 Posts: 269 Member
    Keep up the good work! Sometimes people do notice, but are afriad to say something, or they are just have no clue. I usually get the most comments from family.
  • diamond419
    diamond419 Posts: 23 Member
    The most important thing is that you notice and you feel better...the others will catch on in time...No worries...just keep doing what you're doing...
  • geeky1
    geeky1 Posts: 142
    You guys are great. I shall wipe my tears and get on with it.
  • lewoo
    lewoo Posts: 2 Member
    I find a lot of ppl are scared to give compliments. And especially with weight loss. Don't be disheartened. Someone will be brave enough to say it one day. And until then, you just keep celebrating yourself :D
  • SandraMay1982
    SandraMay1982 Posts: 328
    all the people who KNOW that I have been going to the gym have said they notice the difference.

    I know it's mainly a confidence boost and a "keep going" encouragement, but I have to learn to say thank you.

    I have noticed little things like. I just bought size 18-20 undies that fit. I usually go for the 22-24. my belly looks more like cottage cheese (a little off putting). my shoulders are squarer from lifting weight and gaining a better posture. aaand. my arms. although I have bingo wings I can see muscles when i flex my biceps.

    Size 22 jeans are about 5 kgs away from annoying me a lot and needing new ones *L*
  • TrailRunner
    TrailRunner Posts: 140 Member
    My friends don't notice when I get smaller and my friends don't notice when I get bigger. That's why they are still my friends. :-)
  • Zumbalady808
    Zumbalady808 Posts: 47
    This is my response to that, who cares that no one notice's.. You did and thats all that matters.. You lose weight for yourself!!! When you do that, if reflects inside and then it radiates out to everyone else..!!!!

    Don't feel bad!!! Your doing great!!!
  • JDizzIe
    JDizzIe Posts: 23
    I know that if I don't know if a certain person is actively trying to lose weight and they look smaller, I am afraid to say anything because I don't want to make someone feel bad by saying it. My thoughts on this are that if they are not trying to lose weight they may think that I am hinting something when I'm not! But if I know they are working out and eating right and it looks like they have lost weight, I'll say something! Hope this helps, cheer up you're doing great :)
  • markysan
    markysan Posts: 33
    As a guy I have to admit, that unless the change is pretty big I tend not to notice - but thats just me (blind lol!). I notice more things like hairstyles, makeup and stuff like that (strangely) - as thats usually a sign people are feeling good about themselves.

    Also, I have to admit - whilst I quite openly supportive and complimentary of people, it can be taken the wrong way like people have mentioned in previous posts - if they werent trying, then am I hinting something. Fortunately, people know I'm like that - I like happy people :-)

    10Kg is a fantastic loss i have to say. Well done! Do if for yourself first and foremost - if you feel good that radiates outwardly and people pick up on that - the compiments and praise will come.
  • keepitoff99
    keepitoff99 Posts: 117
    Just want to have a little teary...

    I have lost 10 kg and no one has noticed. I thought that if people hadn't seen me for a bit, they would see that I was getting smaller, but alas no. I had been away from work for 3 weeks over Xmas.
    I can see little changes; some of my clothes are looser.
    Boo hoo hoo :sad:

    I notice the same thing happens to me.
    Like someone else posted, friends may not notice because you are who you are no matter how much you weigh and that's a good thing.
    Again, as someone posted, do it for yourself, not others. Feel good about what you've done. People will notice how much more confident you are. YOU will feel good and positive!! Congrats - way to go!
  • Wolfena
    Wolfena Posts: 1,570 Member
    From what I experienced and what I've read about others... most people start getting their weight loss noticed at about 30 pounds lost- before that, maybe people do notice too- but it's just not enough to say anything (unless it's someone close who knows you're trying to lose)

    It'll happen soon :flowerforyou:
  • MegJo
    MegJo Posts: 398 Member
    Thats a real bummer, but try not to let it discourage you. YOU know and WE know. Your clothes are getting loose and I'm sure your confidence is growing a smidge too! If you've been working out in a gym or taking walks around your neighborhood those people notice as well! There is this gal that walks by my house EVERY damn day, no matter how cold or nasty it is outside. I notice her, her dedication is amazing to me, but I've never said anything. I bet many people are noticing but just keeping it to themselves. Maybe I'll go talk to her one day and tell her how much she inspires me :)

    10kg is fantastic. Keep it up!
  • LauraMcGanity
    LauraMcGanity Posts: 112
    10kg is an amazing loss and so what if no-one has commented that you're getting smaller. There may be an element of jealousy involved, you never know. Keep it up and soon those compliments will be coming thick and fast - along with faux concern where people advise you not to lose any more weight. I'm looking forward to that one, for myself!

    At the moment I'm getting the usual "but Laura, you look fine as you are, you wouldn't look right any smaller":grumble:
  • markysan
    markysan Posts: 33
    At the moment I'm getting the usual "but Laura, you look fine as you are, you wouldn't look right any smaller":grumble:

    Thats the comment that drives me mad. People know I'm but still say it as if to try make you stop. Weird, how we all get the same things?

    Hang in there, whatever ;-)
  • jocelyne2
    jocelyne2 Posts: 271 Member
    Had the same thing happen at x-mas I lost like over 20 lbs and the fisrt words that come out of my mothers mouth was to my hubby wow you lost weight grrrrrr and he wasn't even trying to ....really pissed me off ...and I was like hey what about me I lost like 25 sice last x-mas and 10 lbs in just the last 2 months and she says well your *kitten* is still there , so I had to lift up the bulky shirt i was wearing for her to say ok well I guess you did .....But on the plus side she gained quite a bit hehehe :laugh:
  • deandp371
    deandp371 Posts: 63
    Maybe make another change for fun - like a hairstyle! Then when someone notices that you can say "oh, and I lost 10 kg too!"
  • yanicka
    yanicka Posts: 1,004 Member
    It might depend of your clothing. When I wear lose clothing, you tend to look bigger. Time to buy a few pants that are a bit too small....they will notice!!! Anyway, you are doing a great job!!!!
  • yanicka
    yanicka Posts: 1,004 Member
    oh and I do not know if you work with men or women, but I work with men and it took them 2 weeks to notice I've cut 8 inches of my hairs LOL
  • traceytoo
    traceytoo Posts: 163
    I lost 6 stone .. and no-one really started to notice until I had lost about 3 of that .. then suddenly everyone noticed all at once, and that's a fantastic feeling .. you'll see, it will take one person to notice and then suddenly the whole world will realise what you are doing .. you just keep at it, looking and feeling fab and it will shine from inside you, cos confidence comes back as well .. it'll happen, just imagine how exciting it's going to be .. and sit and wait for it, it's all coming to you :bigsmile:
  • LadyKatie2010
    LadyKatie2010 Posts: 115
    My friends don't notice when I get smaller and my friends don't notice when I get bigger. That's why they are still my friends. :-)

    love it!
  • ummommyme
    ummommyme Posts: 362 Member
    Enjoy it for yourself and be thankful no one asked if you were pregnant, i have heard that many times in the past year it kind of sux. But i know for myself that i am trying to make it better so i don't let it bother me. I am apple shaped so my belly always sticks out-at my wedding recently when my husband and i renewed our vows a little boy asked if i was pregnant. Which i already have three children and am done. Then i told my cousin about it-a woman a little older than me and never had a weight problem in her life, about it and she said no you just didn't wear your girdle. Uh yes i did wear my girdle i told her and i am just fat. You would think by now she would know better what to say or not. but no and she is family. So don't be discouraged.
  • Serenitytoo
    Serenitytoo Posts: 449 Member
    I found people didn't notice on me until I had lost 30lbs or so. But as someone else mentioned loose clothes can sometimes mask your progress. A new outfit that fits properly would highlight what you have accomplished.

    Don't get discouraged though, People will notice (maybe already have) and will eventually tell you :flowerforyou:
  • marathonrev
    marathonrev Posts: 10
    The important thing is that YOU noticed. People may not know that you are trying to lose weight. Don't worry. When the next 10Kg comes off, they will realize you are serious and will offer words of support and encouragement. Until then, enjoy getting into the clothes in your closet that you could not fit before! Congratulations!
  • That_Girl
    That_Girl Posts: 1,324 Member
    Had the same thing happen at x-mas I lost like over 20 lbs and the fisrt words that come out of my mothers mouth was to my hubby wow you lost weight grrrrrr and he wasn't even trying to ....really pissed me off ...and I was like hey what about me I lost like 25 sice last x-mas and 10 lbs in just the last 2 months and she says well your *kitten* is still there , so I had to lift up the bulky shirt i was wearing for her to say ok well I guess you did .....But on the plus side she gained quite a bit hehehe :laugh:

    How rude of your mom! I think we have the same one...

    My husband loves my *kitten* lol...so...whatever to mean moms!
  • jocelyne2
    jocelyne2 Posts: 271 Member
    Had the same thing happen at x-mas I lost like over 20 lbs and the fisrt words that come out of my mothers mouth was to my hubby wow you lost weight grrrrrr and he wasn't even trying to ....really pissed me off ...and I was like hey what about me I lost like 25 sice last x-mas and 10 lbs in just the last 2 months and she says well your *kitten* is still there , so I had to lift up the bulky shirt i was wearing for her to say ok well I guess you did .....But on the plus side she gained quite a bit hehehe :laugh:

    How rude of your mom! I think we have the same one...

    My husband loves my *kitten* lol...so...whatever to mean moms!

    :laugh: Don't they just suck !!!! Think we should ask for a divorce :drinker:
  • cupajoe
    cupajoe Posts: 155
    I was living away from my husband last year (not separated-just living in different places) when I made this life change. I never said a word to him about, but thought I would wait until he said something to me. I had lost approximately 45lbs before it even came up!!!!! I could not believe it! He finally mentioned one afternoon that I looked "pretty good" and when I told him that "I HOPE I at least look pretty good...I'm about 45lbs smaller than I was!" He about had heart failure and was trying to convince me that he had noticed and just didn't want to mention anything about WEIGHT to me. Men are so observant. My in-laws also didn't say a word until shortly after my hubby "noticed" and mil said something about me looking nice-my husband spoke right up and says, "Well yeah she looks great...she has lost like 45 lbs ya know!" LOL...

    Great job with the weight loss. People probably don't want to bring up anything to do with weight because they don't want to offend you. Keep it up.
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