sooo upset

jesse1117

I went to a yoga place yesterday to sign up for a month of classes and the lady behind the counter was telling me about rates and things and then she said "so when you give birth you can put your membership on hold." I said "excuse me but I am NOT PREGNANT." She said "oh I'm so sorry, here's a pass for a free class." I couldn't believe it. I am a size 12. I am not that big. I DO NOT LOOK PREGNANT. (At least, I don't think I do.) I cried half the way home. This comes on the heels of my husband essentially telling me that I look fat. (Okay, what he said was that I need to work out more, but I don't care what his exact words were, he called me fat.)

Could everyone please stop making me feel like a complete failure? Thanks, I appreciate it.

xxMsComptonxx

Here is a smile to you! I think you need it!

Naomi91

Oh goodness dear! I am so sorry :[ people need to be more sensitive i swear! keep your chin up :] you will prove to all them that you can do it!!!

I once got made fun of in highschool for eating veggies in the lockeroom in highschool

Some girl said "yea she needs to eat those veggies to get rid of that fat *kitten*" I swear i almost attacked her >.>

LadyBarb

Oh my, sorry that happen to you...

atlraine

Keep working at it, it will pay off. If you lose weight befor you sign up for the class, go back and say remember me! :laugh:

JulsDiane

I am so sorry you had to endure that People are so ridiculous. You are on the right path, and forget want anyone else thinks...it's all about what you think. As for your husband, you seriously should tell him that is not the way to encourage or motivate you. The best thing he can do is join in and support you physically as well as emotionally. Keep your chin up and smile :flowerforyou:

Harshberger24

So sorry that happened. Use that to fuel your drive to work out and lose that weight for YOU no one else.. I think your beautiful.. don't let one woman's stupid comments ruin your outlook

kitkat1781

I'm so sorry you had that experience! I had a similar experience when I went home for Christmas this year, except it was my own grandma asking me if I was expecting!!! I was devestated and cried for a good 5 minutes. But then I decided to use it as motivation instead of let it get me down. We're on this site because we have identified something about ourselves that we'd like to change--whether it's working out more, controlling our sugar intake, or losing weight. Know that your worth as a person ultimately comes from within and that what people say about you does not change that. But use statements like the one made by the lady at the yoga studio to motivate you to create the change that you want for YOU!

EmilyAnn89

aww i'm so sorry

if it makes you feel any better i feel like i look like i did when i was 6 months pregnant! lol. don't let it get to you in a bad way, let it be your motivation to show everyone that you can lose the weight you want to lose! FOR YOURSELF, because you deserve to feel good about yourself! some people are just rude, don't take it to heart.

my mom just told me the other day (i was getting close to 150 - i'm 5'2) that i better lose weight because she won't let her daughter weigh 150 lbs! so i know how it feels. i just took it into perspective and said she's right, i don't want to be this way and i don't want to weigh that much either! she pushed me to listen to myself and do something about it!

❤B☩❤

I would tell that "fitness" person to go SUCK IT! The fact that you have taken this step, and the fact that you are here on MFP is a clear sign that you are committed to making your life better and healthier!

I wish you much luck in your journey, and make sure you know that we are ALWAYS here beside you...whenever you need the support!

6Janelle13

i had that three times in th same weekend. i was a size 8 to 12 depending on the jeans i wore. and my hubby did the same thing. My advice laugh. I even got the pregnant thing when i was a size 2-4- yes i have a belly and sit ups don't work- my reply was always thank you. I'm not pregnant but since people say they are some of the most beautiful women, I'l take it. That tended to shut people up.
As for the hubby- men are idiots and women fail to hear the words coming out of thier mouths. My hubby says something dumb and discouraging at least once a week. If i want us to get through our rocky patch i just have to accept that he is a dumby that won't learn. i'm a size 6 and between135 to 140, but it's not toned so i jiggle. I can get hurt and mad or I can just make me happy and usually me being happy translates to the rest of my life. Keep your chin up, poeple are foolish and you can't control them. you can only control your responses

jesse1117

Thanks guys. I knew I could turn to you for some support

Sharont213

Just put it behind you.. she probably thought she was being helpful by letting you know all your options. It is easy to make a mistake, especially since you look young enough to be having children. At my age, no such mistake could be made.. she would just know I am fat !

As for your husband.. well .. only you know what his motivation was .. perhaps jealousy because he sees you making changes and he isn't?

You are in the right place and the right frame of mind know to begin your journey to healthier living. This is a tremendous place for support and friendship.. good luck to you !

ZebraHead

:flowerforyou: I thought women new better than to say that out loud?

Hang in there.