I can't do it!

TexasTKD9

Today, once again.... I totally BLEW IT!! I feel like I can't do this!! I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE!!! All I want to do is lose weight and be healthy and now I have strict orders from my doctor that I have to! But I can't seem to get into the grove of things! I need someone or something to kick my *kitten* into gear!!!! I just don't think I have what it takes to be healthy........ :sad:

rebeccaoneillcarter

No one can do it for you, if you say you can't then you can't! I hope you prove yourself wrong, though. *I* think you can.

thehobbyist

You didn't get here by one mistake. You got here by a series of them. If you make mostly good choices and only occasionally screw up, you'll see progress.

What was your mistake, if you don't mind sharing? What things do you have trouble with?

rnroadrunner

ok turn around bend over. one psycic butt kick sent out! lol but seriously pick yourself up and start over. Hopefully this is a lifestyle change and not a diet. you know you can do it. so do it. nuff said? good luck

JRIV60

I have woken up every day for the past 4 weeks saying to myself "I can do this" and have never looked back. I may not get it right every day but I keep jumping back on this wave.

It is up to you, you decide when you are ready. You cannot tell someone to get healthy no more than you can tell someone to quit smoking.

Good luck and we are here for you!!

sweetestthing

Stop thinking of each messup as ANOTHER FAILURE or another START! just think you allow yourself a few days of indulgence and go for it again!! if you keep doing this and not giving up, you'll see in a span of a year you have still lost weight if you are good most of the time!! We are all here for you. I just had a mess up on Tuesday! but all good now .

sweetestthing

Stop thinking of each messup as ANOTHER FAILURE or another START! just think you allow yourself a few days of indulgence and go for it again!! if you keep doing this and not giving up, you'll see in a span of a year you have still lost weight if you are good most of the time!! We are all here for you. I just had a mess up on Tuesday! but all good now .

ktndj82104

Yes You Can, everyone has those days. Start over tomorrow. Try not to cut out anything you really like just limit it to small portions. I find that if I try to cut something out completely I just crave it all the time which makes me fall back into my rut. And exercise as much as possible. Again you can do it, try not to be so hard on yourself.

chrish1981

Anyone can do it.

Look at some of those people on Biggest Loser.

If they can do it, SO CAN YOU!!!!!

I went over my calories today (by 7, but still!) IT'S OKAY!!!!!

Make better choices, if you screw up every once in awhile, who cares???

ADJulie

You can do this. If I can, anyone can. I have been big since I was a kid. I have always felt like I was sexy but I hid behind the whole phrase, "I look pretty hot for a fat chick." Then the scales hit 300 and it scared me to death. I am 34 with two little boys that I want to make sure I live a long life for. This time last year I decided enough was enough. I am a person who has always been in control of my life but for some reason I let my weight take control of me. That was enough to stop me in my tracks. I started on here in July 2010 after I had already lost 36 lbs. Today I weighed in at 225. I am doing this and you can too. Good luck on your journey and realize that not every day is going to be perfect.

milaxx

What seems to be the biggest problem? My rule is don't put anything in the house that you can't control how much you eat. There are foods that if they are in the house, I will binge on, so I just don't buy them.
Also plan for the munchies. I keep almonds by the computer and in my car. I like almonds but unlike other nuts like pistachios and macadamias, I won't eat them like crazy. So when the munchies hit, almonds are my go to. If I want a sweet flavour an handful of dried cranberries or a glass of vanilla almond milk hits the spot.

saravantil

How bad do you want to see your results? You shouldnt beat yourself up too bad - we all have bad days (I cheated with a bag of chips today) When you love yourself enough to want to lose the weight you will - and your friends will be there to cheer you on!
Do you find that journaling your eating habits helps? I always thought it was a pain in the butt... then I changed my perspective and realized rereading my entries, I was grossed out by what I was putting in my body... something had to change... I'm NOT saying I'm always good about it, but I am not so mean to myself anymore.
Also, dont deprive yourself of small treats once in a while... it might just be the motivation you need & deserve!!!

jkestens63

You are eeither going to make up your mind to do this or not. Honestly, if you tell yourself you can't do ssomeethibg you won't. Willpower is a muscle and you have to exercise it to make it stronger. That doesn't mean you will always be successful but if you don't try you will never succeed.

So think long and hard. What do you want and what are you prepared to sacrifice?

wcvarner

I have been struggling with getting it right as well. I am trying to totally change the way that I have been eating for 44 years. Every time I make a mistake and go over on fat, or calories, or carbs, I chalk it up as a learning experience and press on. It is getting a little easier every day and I am starting to get used to eating this way. Keep yourself in a nice positive attitude and keep going forward. If you make a mistake, forgive yourself and move on. We will be better for it in the end. : )

SLIMCEAUXMUA

YES U CAN ! U CAN DO IT!

MarriedMama

Try this: figure out what is easiest to change. Maybe it's going to light dressing and guaranteeing yourself a healthy breakfast every morning (like hearty oatmeal or something else that is super healthy). Also, try starting with 15 minutes of exercise every other day.

My husband starts every day with oatmeal. It's his small step toward getting healthy. Analyze your habits, and see what you can change. In a few months you'll start seeing a noticeable difference.

I couldn't do 1200 calories (suggested by my doctor) a day. I can't exercise every day. But, I can eat about 1580 calories a day exercise 1-4 times a week, weigh myself once a month, and lose small amounts of weight. I started in May and I've lost 33 lbs.

My suggestion is to start with small goals instead of giving up. You CAN do it :flowerforyou:

jcolbrook

Sweetie pie, you can do it! If I can do it, you can do it. Have Patience and give yourself a break! You don't have to be perfect, you just have to be more aware - that's really it! Everyone has days that aren't as great as others. My trainer tells me all the time just think about right now - not the future, not the past, not an hour ago. Just right now and take it slow. the more you get on this website, the more good advice, motivation and great meal ideas you'll find. It happens slowly and surely and you'll be posting this same stuff to someone else who's had a bad day before you know it!

Katbaran

You CAN do this! Just pick yourself up, straighten your shoulders, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself (out loud) "You are one strong, sexy woman and can do whatever you set out to do!" Then do it. Trust me. I was a military wife for 20 yrs and there were times when I was faced with things I didn't think I could handle. Terrorist threats, earthquake, blizzards, foreign countries and much time that hubby was gone and we had a small son. Square your shoulders and move on.

"After all, tomorrow is another day." Scarlett O'Hara

ajbeans

Of course you can do it! So you made a mistake today. So what? Starting right this minute, you can make better choices. If you get hungry later tonight, legitimately hungry, then eat something good for you. And tomorrow morning, wake up, have a filling, healthy, non-sugary breakfast, and get on with making good choices for the day.

You can't fail at this thing. It's not like there's some magic finish line that you have to reach. It's like taking a walk -- you go where you want, at the speed you want, and once in a while there's a tree branch stuck up in the sidewalk that trips you up and you fall down. But you don't lie there in the sidewalk for the rest of your life, right? No way! You get up, dust off your knees, and walk some more. That's all this is. It's a process, not a race. Nobody says you have to be perfect.

Don't beat yourself up over this. You CAN do anything you set your mind to. Please love yourself enough to know that. Tonight (or whenever you see this) I want you to get a Post-It note (or if you don't have one, a piece of paper with some tape) and write on it "I am worth it!" and tape it to your bathroom mirror. Or your front door, or wherever you will see it multiple times through the day. Every time you see it, SAY IT out loud to yourself. Because you are worth it. You are beautiful, you are worthwhile, and you are valuable. You need to know that. *hugs* for you.

schpanks

I've been going over my calories pretty consistently. Which had me depressed for a while. Then I started thinking about how much my eating habits have changed. Okay. I did eat 2 oreos. But I did not eat half a bag of oreos, which I would have done before. Any victory is a small victory. Any improvement, no matter how small, is still improvement. Don't get discouraged by your "failures." The only true failure would be giving up now!

Spitfirex007

People treat eating healthy as this big challenge. They make it so important and put some much empathize on the things you can and can't do. That is a wrong habit to get into! Nobody is perfect. And If you "slip up" and eat McDonalds, so what. It doesn't mean you failed. It's not the end of the world! It means you had a unhealthy meal. Take it out on the weights or the punching bag in your workout. Work just a little bit harder. Nobody eats healthy 24/7. Nobody works out every single day. Everyone takes days off. Sooner or later you will natural go for the apple instead of chips. Your body will get use to exercise. You will have so much energy, you will want to work out. You just have to train your mind and body to think that way. Which won't happen over night.

TexasTKD9

You all are so amazing and supportive!!!

@ajweekley - I'm going to post that sign tonight!!!!

Thank you all for making me feel better and you guys are right I can do it, and maybe I do need to re-assess my goals a little bit. All in all I want this more than a anything and you guys have given me the strenght and the belief that I can do it!

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alw2007

You absolutely can do this! My first two weeks were rough also, but I picked myself up, dusted myself off and got back on the wagon so to speak. This will get easier it will get better and you will get healthy! I believe in you!

ajbeans

Go you! Glad to hear that renewed spirit!

Metalhead187

(P.P.M) = Patience, Perseverance, and Motivation is the key to success. I made up this small acronym to motivate myself and keep going on my weight loss journey everyday, If I can do it so can you! I know that it is hard, I screwed up so many times but I keep on getting back up and do everything I can to get back on track. Think of the sweet victory and reward once you accomplish your goal! Never back down you can do this!

phyllisjean58

My favorite saying is A journey of a thousand miles can only begin with a single step. I am just starting so can use support too. but i know you have to love and forgive yourself on this journey. You are worth it so just keep putting one step in front of the other. work on healthier choices, and like everyone said don't quit over a bad choice. just make the next one healthier. Luck to you

jmwolffyy

I was so motivated last year and I got my husband to agree to joining a gym and not buy so much unhealthy food... it didn't take long before we stopped going to the gym and he was bringing home entire boxes of donuts every weekend. I still decided to apply to be a contestant on our local Biggest Loser contest, but I was definitely not as excited about it this year. Until I actually got called to be one of the contestants. However, last weekend I got totally off track and didn't go exercise at all. My back hurt, my daughter got sick, I got a video so I can do it at home (but I didn't), etc. I had every excuse in the book this past week. I did keep eating within my calories and tried not to swing too far off on the carbs (something I am good at doing), and then today I HAD to go to the gym because we are disqualified if we don't go weigh in. I fully expected to show a gain for the week, but somehow, I still lost 2 pounds this week!
The reason I share this story with you is that it isn't always a bad day. Sometimes it's a bad week. Sometimes it's only a bad hour even. But while you are having that bad (day, week, hour), keep doing what you can that is positive. There are still good things happening as you are slowly making the positive changes that you need. When you can, add in the changes that you wanted to make and didn't quite get there before. After a while, you will convince yourself that it is worth it, and that is ultimately what this journey is all about. Finding out for ourselves that it is worth it to be healthy.
Hang in there, and definitely keep using MFP for support!

monica208

Don't get discouraged. Last week I yo-yoed all week. There will be good days and bad days. Just take it one day at a time and very meal is a new chance to eat healthy. Your only human and losing weight is hard work and stressful.

MaryBachert

This reminded me of how I felt last night, after having signed up on this web-site on Monday. Every day I started out okay and then by about noon I wiped out for the rest of the day. I felt like there was no use as I seemed to be a failure. However, this morning I got up and the thought came to me, "Today is a new day and you are starting out with a clean slate, with no mistakes." That motivated me to try again, and so today I finally had a better day. My biggest problem is that I let other things control me, and have always used that as an excuse. Today, I didn't let that happen. If I was hungry and feeling out of control, I drank a glass of water. Will I have all perfect days? Absolutely not, but I will get back up and brush myself off, and start again. Beating myself up will not help me in any way. I will keep going!

Mariposa187

LIES! you CAN do it! We have to get into that mindset... keep telling yourself that you can do it... say it out loud... it might take you an hour to get up in exercise (today it took me two hours) but you will start to believe it! Another thing is try to remember the good choices that you made today. If you are like me focusing on the bad things will make it even harder. We are working towards a goal. WE can do this! Getting on here to seeing the success of others makes me feel like i can do it too. you started this march challenge because you want to lose weight. that is the first step, which means you can do it! Look at all the motivation and advice you received from this post. it means you arent alone, we are here to help you along...

KhollerSA05

Don't feel bad I fall off the wagon at least once a week. let yourself have the small indulgences So you don't totally fall off and over do it. You can totally do it you justhave to tell yourself you can