I just need to vent a little...

ragingtomato

I'm home for the summer from college, and I'm trying to eat healthy and lose all that extra weight I've gained at school over the past two years. My mom is well aware of this. She knows that I exercise almost every day and that I've been eating healthy and watching my portions. But sometimes I just feel like she's trying to sabotage me! Like tonight, for instance, I was working for a few hours and she said she would make me a Bertolli Skillet Meal for dinner. Those are two-person meals, and even a portion for one has a lot of calories/fat/etc in it. So I asked her to please not make it for me, because every time she does she tells me to eat the whole thing! And it's a dinner for two! I never eat the whole thing, but even just half is a lot. But she made the damn thing anyways! I appreciate that she cooks for me and my family, but a lot of the meals she makes are just not healthy and I'm forced to eat less to balance it out. I know that she knows she's doing this too, because she told me that when my dad goes away on business, THEN we can eat healthy for a week. Why can't we always? Everyone in my family could use some healthy eating habits.

Some of the food she buys is good, like yogurt and fruit, but she also keeps buying all this sugary cereal and cookies and junk and then gets mad if I don't eat them because they've "gone to waste." But I tell her when she's buying them that I won't/can't eat them! And she buys them anyways! And then some days when I'm leaving to go run or ride my bike she says, don't you think you've exercised enough? (I'm not overdoing it, by any means, I promise.) UGHHH!!!!! :mad:

Sorry, I hope I'm not being unreasonable...I just needed to get that out of my system.

ragingtomato

I'm home for the summer from college, and I'm trying to eat healthy and lose all that extra weight I've gained at school over the past two years. My mom is well aware of this. She knows that I exercise almost every day and that I've been eating healthy and watching my portions. But sometimes I just feel like she's trying to sabotage me! Like tonight, for instance, I was working for a few hours and she said she would make me a Bertolli Skillet Meal for dinner. Those are two-person meals, and even a portion for one has a lot of calories/fat/etc in it. So I asked her to please not make it for me, because every time she does she tells me to eat the whole thing! And it's a dinner for two! I never eat the whole thing, but even just half is a lot. But she made the damn thing anyways! I appreciate that she cooks for me and my family, but a lot of the meals she makes are just not healthy and I'm forced to eat less to balance it out. I know that she knows she's doing this too, because she told me that when my dad goes away on business, THEN we can eat healthy for a week. Why can't we always? Everyone in my family could use some healthy eating habits.

Some of the food she buys is good, like yogurt and fruit, but she also keeps buying all this sugary cereal and cookies and junk and then gets mad if I don't eat them because they've "gone to waste." But I tell her when she's buying them that I won't/can't eat them! And she buys them anyways! And then some days when I'm leaving to go run or ride my bike she says, don't you think you've exercised enough? (I'm not overdoing it, by any means, I promise.) UGHHH!!!!! :mad:

Sorry, I hope I'm not being unreasonable...I just needed to get that out of my system.

ohthatbambi

Well I am a mom...my kids are not college aged yet, but sometimes we just "mom" too much. Maybe you should go shop with your mom and help her buy things you will eat

songbyrdsweet

I feel you...my parents did that too when I first started. We actually got into a 'tiff' because I weighed the meat my stepmom would make each night LOL.At first they didn't understand why I was so diligent, and they thought I was just being obsessive and over-the-top, and I felt like I was under attack all the time. Then if I had a free-day, they'd say "Well why are you eating that now??" But after they saw what a difference I was making, they actually jumped on the bandwagon! They began to exercise and eat better and actually lost a lot of weight. Then they gained most of it back, but they are still supportive and never give me a hard time anymore. You don't *have* to eat what your mom cooks, and you don't *have* to justify your healthy ways. Just do your thing, maintain your independence, and your mom will back off eventually. She's just still trying to 'mom' you now that you're back home, and you have to show her that you mean business. :flowerforyou:

2Shoes

Well I am a mom...my kids are not college aged yet, but sometimes we just "mom" too much. Maybe you should go shop with your mom and help her buy things you will eat

I was just thinking the same thing! I was even curious if your mom is Italian?? My mom is still like that and I am in my mid thirties!!!

bayaderka

Why don't you eat your own separate meals? In my home, every one eats a slightly different meal based on our different health needs. Mind you, my mom isn't much of a cook so things are pretty basic and can allow flexibility.