need to vent..

mvedas

You have no need to apologize for your post here. This guy sounds like a total idiot. Stay on your journey and try not to let him bring you down. There are always going to be people in life who say hurtful, cruel things, intentional or not. You can only control how you react to those things, and you have to keep your head up and remind yourself what you're trying to accomplish.

Then come to MFP and tell us all what an *kitten* this guy is! He'll probably be single for the rest of life=)

mvedas

You have no need to apologize for your post here. This guy sounds like a total idiot. Stay on your journey and try not to let him bring you down. There are always going to be people in life who say hurtful, cruel things, intentional or not. You can only control how you react to those things, and you have to keep your head up and remind yourself what you're trying to accomplish.

Then come to MFP and tell us all what an *kitten* this guy is! He'll probably be single for the rest of life=)

NuclearGirl

can i ask if your brother's friends is single? because if he is, he'll never get a woman coming out with those ignorant comments. And if he isnt, just wait until his wife/girlfriend has children...he has a big ego shock coming!

Oh you took the words right out of my mouth. What a complete knobhead.
And I also agree - punch your brother on the nose for his total lack of judgement in friends.

We all think you're great. I know how it feels to have low esteem - it sickens you so much to be overweight. But I have turned my life around - and because you are here expressing yourself to a bunch of complete strangers just shows that you are also on the path to self-worth. Keep up the good work, we are all rooting for you.

And if you can let us know this guys address, a bunch of us will go round and pummell his face - it would be a terrific workout! :laugh:

gmom81158

To quote my favorite movie-"Stupid is as stupid does". First of all that is one stupid person's opinion. Don't lower yourself to his level-who wants to be with someone like THAT? My guess is he is single and will stay that way. SOme people are just cruel to cover their own insecurities. You just have to love yourself and believe in yourself. YOU are the only one that matters. My guess is no one else spoke up because they did not want to link themselves to such a moron. Head up girl-look ahead to the life you want-and don't spare him any pity. Never ever apologize for needing to vent-it's why we are all here.

Nailrep

Are you kidding??? And nobody said anything??

I suppose the guy that made these remarks was perfect physically in every way - so that he can be so judgemental. "A reformed fat girl"??? WTH.

He's gonna end up old and alone. Jerk.

CalorieNinja

1. You are not trash and you will NEVER be trash! I applaud you for trying to lose weight and be healthy.
2. Use it as motivation, prove to yourself he is wrong and even if he doesn't realize it because he is too ignorant - prove it to him
3. I am saddened that nobody stood up for you (like someone said maybe their jaws were on the floor and they weren't able to pick them back up)
4. He may be ignorant but realize this: people that put others down are usually so miserable with themselves that is how they make themselves feel better. So he is so unhappy with himself he had to say that and its sad... (I am not saying have sympathy for the town fool but just know he isn't happy either!)

Lastly, keep up the good work. You can do it!!!!

downtome

From what I read on the original post, I think he said it as more of a general comment towards overweight people and not so much towards you. What brought up the subject of fat people anyway since no one knows you are trying to lose weight? I find it funny because if he does meet someone and that's a big IF, how would he know if she used to be fat and lost it all and is now thin? He wouldn't, unless he asked and what moron would do that? Oh, maybe him, that's right, he's the moron! Lesson learned, it doesn't matter what we used to be, it's what we have changed into that counts. The past is the past and no one should be to concerned with it, it's done and over with. My ex-husband was somewhat like that, always making fun of overweight people and look who he ended up with for 20 years, me and I have always had a weight problem off and on. So, you reap what you sew, you get what you deserve, what goes around comes around! I'd like to see him after marriage, kids and life, he will probaly end up fat and disgusting! Don't even give someone like that the time of day, it's not worth your energy or thoughts. There is nothing you can do about ignorant people like that, they are just useless. Just keep your focus on your goals and worry about you, your what matters here!

SmartFunGorgeous

I am obese, and need to lose half my body weight. And when I get there, I imagine things aren't going to look as good as they did before I gained all this weight. But I'm not losing for anyone but me. So your brother's "friend" is thinking it is all about looking good, and of course, sex. Increased libido is a pleasant side effect of losing weight, but it is not the be-all, end-all of the journey. No, being healthy and feeling good about myself is the reason I'm putting forth all this work. It sounds like he needs to be educated, and probably hit with a two by four. Or something like that.

jkestens63

He's a a##hole, ignore him. Whether fat or thin, you will always run into people who say stupid crap & piss you off. You can choose whether or not you will let them affect you and how they will affect you. Chalk him up to being a loser who you would never want anything to do with anyway.

I also suggest that if you are serious about losing weight, let the people around you know.. the majority will be supportive. You will run into morons who will still try shoving cupcakes in your face but most people aren't like that. Accept the fact you are fat, you want to lose weight, and you are going to lose weight. Nothing to be ashamed of... be proud and strong of the steps that you are taking to improve your life.

Good luck!

modernfemme

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dude, how ignorant is he? Has he ever heard of Gwen Stefani - who btw, USED to be fat as a kid/teenager?

Who is married *gasp* to Gavin Rossdale?

How old is this kid? 12? It's at the very least the level of his maturity.

So sorry you had to sit through that. So many amazing people have reformed their bodies and their mind. Stay strong. You're doing this for you.

PS: It's possible no one said anything because they didn't want to embarrass you further, girly.