I need some help

kitta3

I do not know whats wrong with me.. seriously... so I have to vent.
I did well eating all day yesterday.. I was so proud of myself.. I didnt exercise, but I did eat amazing.
Then my boyfriend gets home (who also is on a diet, but clearly not sticking to it well) and he goes and has a friend over and they get fastfood...
I ate some, only half a cheeseburger.. but nonetheless.. I caved.

I have the biggest day of my life coming up, and I cant motivate myself to do this. I NEED to do this, I WANT to do it.
but somehow, I always cave.
I keep telling myself its okay, do better tommorow, and then the same thing happens.

ughh,
how can i stay focused

luv2ash

set mini goals

put before pictures all over the place

COMMIT, COMMIT, COMMIT---and you will succeed. You have to be in control. PUt gum in your mouth, brush your teeth, but that hamburger had no control of you, only you have control over it.

robophobia

It actually does get easier, the healthy food becomes what you would rather eat. I also have a wedding coming up and need to lose the weight fast. It sounds ridiculous but just don't put the food in your mouth, then you don't have to deal with the cravings and having to refuse that second bite.

I read Allan Carr's easy weigh to lose weight which helped with the psychological side.

You will get there! Think of the photos that you are going to have to look at for the rest of your life.

HMKan

What's the biggest day of your life that's coming up (if I can ask)? Also, try not to let your environment affect your progress. I TOTALLY know that's practically impossible but you can do it. Maybe suggest politely to your bf that you'd really appreciate it if he wouldn't bring certain foods into the house or not eat them in front of you. Tell him you are there to be as supportive as he'd like in his weight loss endeavors but that you need him to back you up in yours too.

Plus, half a cheeseburger isn't too bad. If it happens again, just find a way to work it off. And don't deny yourself anything you really want because you'll never be able to stick with it. If you see yourself eating fast food for the rest of your life, then you need to find a way to do so in a healthy way. It's a lifestyle change.

Good luck!

2bFitNTrim

I see from your profile you're getting married. Congrats! Do you have a picture of the wedding gown you want to wear? Plaster it on your fridge or pantry....focus on how you want to look in your dress. Just a suggestion. I'm sure others will be offering great ideas too. Keep at it, don't give up :noway:

Nysie5

hhmm, my brother does the same thing.. he comes home with.. you name it... he eats it.. of course he is skinny and can eat whatever he wants.. ive been on MFP for a week and its been hard (ive never done anything liket his before) but i've learned that you have to remove yourself from situations like these.. If your BF brings home Fast food.. remove yourself.. step back! You have already come this far to stop.. thats what i tell myself...YOU CAN DO IT!!!

HMKan

I thought it might be a wedding. My other suggestion is to not let it control your wedding experience. If you're the bride, push yourself to meet your goals, but be prepared you might not have met them come wedding day.

My reason for saying this is, I was married in October and I wanted to lose all my weight before the wedding because I knew that otherwise I would HATE the pictures and I would be so insecure standing in front of my friends and family looking like that (plus, it was the first or second time I'd seen much of my husband's family - and I didn't want them to think he was marrying a big fatso). However, with the stress of the wedding I was only able to lose around 10 of the 50 or 60 lbs I would've liked to lose and as a result, I was super-sensitive and insecure much of the day. That's NOT how you want to spend your wedding day. Once I got some booze in me (fortunately that started early in the morning on the day), things were fine and I just had fun. But I really regretted letting it control me that much. Now that I'm done and married, I'm focused on getting my health on track with the support of a wonderful husband. I'm doing it for him, for my future kids, but mainly for me.

My point is, work as hard as you can, but make sure you allow yourself to praise your successes without lamenting too much if you don't meet your number. You will get there. Life goes on after the wedding.

Good luck!

kitta3

thanks sooo much everyone!

I know i can do this, I just gotta get it in my head.
now he ate junk alot this week,, and will still lose!

i lose slowww

BettyBeth14

I have the same probnlems as you, I always cave!! I used to stop recording my diary when I caved, but now my MFP friends will be shouting at me if I dont complete a day haha!!

Ill say the same all my pals said to me, just think about the reasons your doing this, set mini goals, dont complete rule out the odd treat of you'll never stick to it!! It will come in time :-) x

up2me2lose20

What I've learned is that I have to do this for me, not for anyone else, not for any single day in mind, not for any other reason than simply because this is me and I want to be the best me that I can possibly be. For me the choices are lifestyle choices, not diet choices.

We don't always make the best choices, but it's not about one choice. It's about a lifetime sum of choices.

kaits108

It's really just one day at a time. If this is something you want to stick with it really has a be a lifestyle adjustment. Which means, some days you will have unhealthy food. Which is where portion control comes into play. 1/2 a cheeseburger is better than a whole one, so you already did good there.

And like others said it actually does get easier to WANT to eat healthy. Or at least it has in my case. And I totally let myself have unhealthy stuff everyonce in awhile, just in moderation.

You can do it! One day at a time, accomplish one mini goal at a time!