affraid to be thin

Robyn1733

So here lately I have been doing well on my weight loss journey, only to be blindesided with the fact that I'm totally terrified of being thin. People pay me compliments on how well I have done and how good I look (this gets more ferquent the more weight I loose). I have never been an adult under 200lbs. I am affraid of what my body is going to look like. And I dont mean how bad, but how nice it looks in fitting clothes that show off my hard work.

If there is anyone else out there who has struggled with this or is currently, please give me some insight.

EbonyGemstoneHealth

Yes,YES! I know how you feel,its really strange though,I had this feeling last year,when I had lost a good 10 pounds,and was seeing things happening to my body I wasn't used to seeing,some sort of TONE....and I just relapsed...this time round I don't want it to happen and I am just going to have to accept that,I as an individual and I'm allowed to be thin,and feel and look healthy!
Don't worry,although this isn't really great advice,you'll pull through! keep pushing!

Mashisha

That makes sense. I went through it too...I just did not know how to explain it. I had lost 25 pounds about 5-6 years ago...felt great..looked great(still over weight according to the charts...but what do they know?) Then I lapsed and over the next 4 years gained everything back and then some. Now I am back full force. I've seen massive weight loss change people. How you look on the outside..should not chnage who you are on the inside. I know I will never be thin thin..I will always be built like a true New England woman..haha...but I need to be healthy. Best of luck to you!!!

Black_Swan

I am actually not overweight at all. I am just totally flabby and untoned and have been eating really badly, so Im trying to manage that and loose some fat to show that little tone Im building. I have two really sexy friends. One is sexy because she is super thin, other one is sexy because she is slim, but kind of curvy. They get lots of attention from the boys in the disco. It kind of scares me. I want the attention on one side, but on the other, Im like "you guys are so weird, its all surface, you dont care about ME, you care just about my BODY".
I really dont want to sabotage myself because of this, so I try to think about how healthier I will be. Already my immune system improved RAPIDLY since I started eating good a year ago. Its totally amazing. I thought nothing could help me. So its being fit - fit for my life, for my future family, for me when I get OLD so that my body keeps listening to me as long as possible. I remind myself that health is the most important thing.
Plus, even if I was overweight, and some guy talked to me at the disco, he probably wouldnt do it because he thought I know sci fi literature, he would do it because of my body (yes, some like it bigger;)) - so slim or not slim, its hard to look for someone who will want you for whats under your surface....
Thats my opinion:D

EDIT: mmm I have a feeling I went off topic, sorry!:D

beautyqueen1979

I am like you I was in the 200's throughout my teens (the lowest I got during my teens was 198 when I was 14, then by 19/20 I was at least 250lbs if not more). When I first started losing I was really worried about what I would look like, just because I had noooo idea. Its not like others who used to be thinner, where they have a goal picture of how they 'used' to look. I have no 'used' to look. Every 5-10lbs I look a little different. My face has really changed (my big nose is more pronounced, haha) and my body is really changing. I am now trying on lots of different styles of clothes because I don't know what suits me, I used to hide in jeans and gap jumpers....I am shocking my other half by wearing dresses, skirts, heels etc after 7 years of him seeing my dress like a tomboy! I am most definitely a pear-shape though, I have lost cup sizes and my tummy but have big thighs/hips still. Am learning what styles suit this body type! (And I've given up on certain styles that only suited me when I had boobs to show off, now I have nothng!)

It will feel strange at first getting used to your new body, especially if you have always been big. I find myself constantly touching my hip bones/collarbones/ribs because I have never felt them properly before now.

My advice is just keep on track, and try on lots of styles to figure out what suits your body type to best show off how smoking hot you are (now AND at your goal weight :flowerforyou: )

Well done on your amazing weight loss, you look great xox

LG61820

I think I understand what you are going thru. I had always been a big girl and apparently I found some power there. There is a certain freedom when men don't notice you and other women aren't jealous of you. You don't have as much drama in your life. Once I lost enough weight to be considered slim I noticed that other people totally treated me differently. Men wanted to talk to me who had never even looked my way before. Female coworkers started dropping some catty remarks my way. I also noticed that I felt more vulnerable in a crowd, as if my size had been my armor before. Kinda strange & hard to describe.

Take your time to get used to these new reactions you are getting from people. Don't freak out about it. How you handle it can make the difference between long term success and failure. I am a backslider who allowed some of the weight to creep back on.

Fgillies

I also noticed that I felt more vulnerable in a crowd, as if my size had been my armor before. Kinda strange & hard to describe.

Take your time to get used to these new reactions you are getting from people. Don't freak out about it. How you handle it can make the difference between long term success and failure. I am a backslider who allowed some of the weight to creep back on.

This is such an excellent response, over the past 5 years i have lost a lot of weight ( about 115 lbs) and I agree, your size ( altho it can hurt you in so many ways, health, self esteem etc) can totally be an armor. I know i was always the fat funny girl...am i the fat one now? no...am i still funny yes, but was the attention different when i was bigger compared to now? yes. I agree that it is how you handle it personally. I liked the attention at first, but then i started making me feel so insecure and vulnerable...i started questioning peoples motives..It was really hard. Altho i have had counseling for eating disorders in the past, i have gone thru a crazy journey of counseling and becoming okay with myself.

I think as long as you are aware that the attention may be heart felt, some may be fake, and some may be to use you..as long as you can seperate what is what, hold you head high and say " Thank YOU" when someone says your stunning, youll be okay

I have 20 lbs to lose, and on the same note as you, I am afraid once i reach that goal...what's next...ive never hit my goal, never been the weight i want...what if it's not good enough then?......(these are in the back of mind, but still) I know what you are going thru!!!

happy_vegan

i've almost always (with the exception of the last few months) been a healthy BMI but I was never smaller than a size 11, even in middle school. If i lose weight below that level I am a little nervous about how people who've known me forever might think I'm some sort of health freak or really desperate and needing attention? It sounds silly now that I write it down..I hope I'm right that it is silly!