How do you eat unhealthy after you are healthy? (I know con

silhouettes

I know this may be a weird topic, but I need to know if there is anything I can do in this situation that I haven’t already done.

I go to my parents once a week for dinner on Sunday and even though they know I am on a diet they don’t always cook the most healthy food. They cook what they think is healthy and nothing I say can change their mind.. you know those type of people that think they are always right and get mad if you try to correct them?

Well, I don’t want to get into details but my mother is also… emotional to say the least and if I don’t eat or say something about the food she gets so upset she cries and it affects other aspects of her life, so I try to be kind.

What I have been doing about it so far is just getting a small portion and calling it my cheat day and weight wise it’s been working fine.. I’m loosing weight despite Sundays.

The problem though is on days like today when she makes something like Taco’s… Now don’t get me wrong I LOVE taco’s and we eat them at home to.. but she doesn’t make them the same way and her taco’s give me a bad stomach sometimes and make me run to the bathroom (sorry TMI I know), I think because she doesn’t drain the grease right.

I used to eat her taco’s all the time even when I started dieting with no problem (It’s weird not being able to eat things I used to love and eat all the time!), but the longer I diet and the healthier I get the more they make me feel sick afterwards.

So my question is, is there anything I can do to prevent this?? I tried taking heartburn medicine and even some tums after that and it helps my stomach somewhat but I still am forced to use the bathroom quickly upon getting home.

Is there anything I can do to prepare my body for this other than hope she never makes taco’s again?

I know some of you are going to lecture me on “eating” right and just don’t eat it.. but I don’t see that as an option with my unstable mother.. I would rather feel pain than see her feel pain I love her! I guess I AM a good daughter!

So anyone, is there anything I can do?

luv2ash

hmmm, that is a tough situation....can you grab a napkin and soak up some grease from the meat before you eat it? can you bring a small tupperware container of your own ground turkey with you and then heat it up in the mike and use the rest of her ingredients for everything else.

It really is a shame that your mother is not a supporter and not wiliing to make just a few changes for not just you but everyone else at the table. Good luck with this one.

LoveMy3Boys

Does she offer any other fillings? Can you dab the meat it a napkin? Maybe only use a small scoop and fill the rest with the other fillings. I guess this is all based on if its serve yourself.

What a bummer. I understand you don't want to hurt her feelings.

NoAdditives

Once your body adjusts to eating healthy foods it often will reject unhealthy/junk foods. I tried to eat some Popeyes fast food yesterday and thought I was going to throw up. I've heard similar stories from other people here. Unfortunately, there isn't really anything you can do about this but avoid the foods that make you sick.

Is it possible for you to make dinner with your mother? Maybe you could bring some healthier foods along with you to incorporate into the meal. And you can show her healthier ways to cook.

JulsDiane

Well, if it makes you physically sick you should really tell her. She's your mom, she doesn't want to make you ill just for the sake of her feelings. No matter how emotional she is I just can't imagine any mother who wouldn't make a change to keep their child from being ill.
I think you have to be very gentle when you tell her about it but none-the-less you have to tell her, not continue to be ill from eating dinner with your family. It should be an evening of enjoyment.

OLP76

No it's true - your stomach gets use to not havin' any grease in its self. I always have troubles eatin' at my Mum In Laws place - but I do eat small portions, she's learnin' now to make me lean meats, steamed veggies, & salad.

I don't see a problem of bringin' your type of meat along with you, just be honest with your Mom - that last time it made you sick. She may get upset - but try to tell her ahead of time, maybe she will be more willin' to accept that you aren't really eatin' her 'meat' cooked choice.

best wishes - keep your head up. xo

silhouettes

Yes I do serve myself I was trying to eat as less of the hamburger as possible, but it still didn't help that much (It did help some.. but not completely).. I didn't think about attempting to dab it.. that's a good idea.. she's usually busy in the kitchen when I start to make them so next time I will bring some paper towels and try to drain it myself before putting it on the shell.

I really wish I could figure out a way to get her to cook better without hurting her feelings, but I have tried in the past and so has my husband with no luck I continue the quest.. but no luck yet.

winneau

Maybe you could just skip the meat? You could tell your mother that as part of your diet you are skipping all red meat for the day/week or just tell her that all red meat is making you ill at the moment. No need to tell her that it's her cooking, and you'll still be eating everything else that she prepared.

That_Girl

Don't eat the meat. I'm a veg-head and just put beans in my tacos

MissAnjy

I'm the same way. My body can NOT handle greasy foods anymore. I suggest telling your mother that you've had bad reactions to the food. If she doesn't understand that, then it's really her own issue to deal with. YOU shouldn't have to deal with a stomach ache & running to the bathroom just to save her some tears. It's nothing against her. It physically makes you sick. I would express that. Tell her you LOVE tacos but that you've been having bad reactions to them and you just can NOT eat it. I would take a stand if it meant that it would save me a gut ache & running to the bathroom. Nobody wants/needs to feel like that.

QueenofCups

This is a tough situation. I would not say anything either, but just make the taco without the meat, personally. If she says anything, just say you don't feel well and are trying to cut back on red meat. In the end, none of us are truly responsible for other people's feelings or reactions. If you are kind and come from a place of love, whatever she chooses to think/do is her business, not yours.

I agree, eating unhealthy is really hard on the body once you start changing your eating habits. I get an upset stomach every time I eat ice cream, grease, fast food. Anything like that. Doesn't always stop me :embarassed: but oh well. I am trying.

Keep true to yourself and what you are trying to do to make your life better, and hopefully your Mom and the rest of your family will get with the program that none of this is about them - its about you and only you.

NoAdditives

Yes I do serve myself I was trying to eat as less of the hamburger as possible, but it still didn't help that much (It did help some.. but not completely).. I didn't think about attempting to dab it.. that's a good idea.. she's usually busy in the kitchen when I start to make them so next time I will bring some paper towels and try to drain it myself before putting it on the shell.

I really wish I could figure out a way to get her to cook better without hurting her feelings, but I have tried in the past and so has my husband with no luck I continue the quest.. but no luck yet.

Like I said above, can you cook with her? I'm sure she'd enjoy the help and you can show her how to substitute in some healthier choices and how to cook a little healthier (draining hamburger grease, etc.).

callipygianchronicle

Food can be such a minefield, can’t it? So much *stuff* tied to what we eat. I totally understand not wanting to take on a full-blown momma meltdown and just wanting to muscle your way through dinner no matter how sick you get afterwards. I don’t know how well this will work long term. Meaning, as long as you can’t have ownership of your food choices 52 days out of every year—15%—you’re going to have trouble meeting and maintaining your goal. But in the mean time, you’r looking for a way to deal. And I get that. My first instinct says combat it with fiber. Maybe eat a bowl of brown rice or oatmeal before you head over to mom’s house each week, so that your colon is full with fluffy fiber and can maybe react more “smoothly” when it’s socked with her food.

silhouettes

Yes I do serve myself I was trying to eat as less of the hamburger as possible, but it still didn't help that much (It did help some.. but not completely).. I didn't think about attempting to dab it.. that's a good idea.. she's usually busy in the kitchen when I start to make them so next time I will bring some paper towels and try to drain it myself before putting it on the shell.

I really wish I could figure out a way to get her to cook better without hurting her feelings, but I have tried in the past and so has my husband with no luck I continue the quest.. but no luck yet.

Like I said above, can you cook with her? I'm sure she'd enjoy the help and you can show her how to substitute in some healthier choices and how to cook a little healthier (draining hamburger grease, etc.).

I am not sure if I can cook with her.. she might take it the wrong way as I don't even cook at home much.. my husband does most of the cooking for me, since he loves to cook and I'm not to great at it... He has tried to offer to help her in the past, but she always declines and he's not the pushy type so he stays out of the way.

I think she might be a tad insulted if someone who barely cooks tries to take over the kitchen or try to help, lol... I have though in the past invited her to eat taco's with us that WE make and hint to her out to make them.. I don't think it had much of an effect .

silhouettes

Food can be such a minefield, can’t it? So much *stuff* tied to what we eat. I totally understand not wanting to take on a full-blown momma meltdown and just wanting to muscle your way through dinner no matter how sick you get afterwards. I don’t know how well this will work long term. Meaning, as long as you can’t have ownership of your food choices 52 days out of every year—15%—you’re going to have trouble meeting and maintaining your goal. But in the mean time, you’r looking for a way to deal. And I get that. My first instinct says combat it with fiber. Maybe eat a bowl of brown rice or oatmeal before you head over to mom’s house each week, so that your colon is full with fluffy fiber and can maybe react more “smoothly” when it’s socked with her food.

This is what I was looking for.. would fiber help deal with it? I do try to eat less at her house and if I eat something before I go that would help me not be hungry and have an excuse and if it helps it go down smoother that would help 100 percent! I am not a fan of rice, but I do like oatmeal so that's a good suggestion, I will try this.

As for not eating the meat, I may try that to, but not sure how well that would go over, since she seems to base the whole meal off the meat and a shell with just sour cream, green onions, salsa and cheese might not taste so good lol.

I am going to suggest she buy leaner meat that she does.. but not sure if she will buy the better stuff. Maybe I could buy some and she could make some especially for me.. as long as I let her cook it, it would make her food good right? Not sure what to do about the grease factor besides attempt to drain it myself, still thinking on that.