When did I become such a picky, egotistical A-hole?

mr_ashley

I don't know what happened. I guess I get some of it after my dad, who was a pretty big ego-maniac. But I always thought I'd be grateful and show humility through anything. I mean, it's not like I have a whole lot to be egotistic about. I don't drive an expensive car, don't have a huge house, don't make huge amounts of money (though I'm comfortable and am grateful to even have a job!)

So what the heck happened? Is this just part of becoming an American man in his 30's? Are we all like this?

KellieR56

it's the weight loss! I notice a lot of people who lose weight get a bit of an ego inside of them. just don't let it get too big haha

FrenchMob

My wife told me the same thing when I loss the weight; "You're too cocky now!" My response: "Excuse me if I feel good about myself. That guy was always there, just had no reason to bring it out, now I do." :bigsmile:

pammbroo

There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness....just stay on the confidence side and don't be an A-hole! :happy:

catesalim

It's never too late to work at humility and gratitude. I've found that if I focus on gratitude, the egotistical a-hole in me diminishes. Of course, it is ok to be proud of your accomplishments, especially when it comes to weight loss.

anubis609

I know I am. It stems from a self-confidence boost. I've been a d-baggin' a-hole since I was big, so it's even a little more prevalent now. I know it and embrace it. I just apply it accordingly when it's necessary. Everything else I treat neutrally.

Celo24

I think there is a difference between being an egomaniac and being proud of your accomplishments. I am very proud of what I have accomplished in my life (although I still have PLENTY to do). With some people, I talk about it and they talk about their accomplishments. I can see how that can be seen as bragging or ego, but that's why I limit it to certain people who won't look at it that way.

I am a bigger a-hole though. Damn kids won't stay off my lawn!!

sexygenius

I'm already kinda an a-hole, I try really really hard not to be, but I do it without realizing I am...
I hope I dont get worse when I lose weight, that would be aweful...

RoadDog

I don't know what happened. I guess I get some of it after my dad, who was a pretty big ego-maniac. But I always thought I'd be grateful and show humility through anything. I mean, it's not like I have a whole lot to be egotistic about. I don't drive an expensive car, don't have a huge house, don't make huge amounts of money (though I'm comfortable and am grateful to even have a job!)

So what the heck happened? Is this just part of becoming an American man in his 30's? Are we all like this?

So, you recognize it. Knock it off.

nehtaeh

There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness....just stay on the confidence side and don't be an A-hole! :happy:

Perfect!

JulsDiane

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Roaddog's got it; only you can change something you don't like about yourself. There is nothing wrong with being proud of your accomplishments but humility is an art you have to define and refine for yourself. I always believe if I wake up every morning grateful for the good and bad things in my life I stay grounded. Doing good things for others without any benefit, other than the great feeling of doing good, helps as well. Just my personal opinion.

red01angel

There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness....just stay on the confidence side and don't be an A-hole! :happy:

This. :-)

mrmarius

Im confident. I make outlandish statements but only jokingly. Im no better than anyone else and cant stand when folks act like they are

mr_ashley

Good call there, hoss. There is a very fine line between being so full of yourself that no else can stand in the same room. I try not to come off that way, but I certainly have to remind myself to get off the high horse. Again, I don't know what caused it or where it came from, because there is NO real justification for it.

I am, however, shopping for a sports or sporty type car. HELP!!! I'M ON A HEADLONG SLIDE INTO BECOMING A PRICK!!!!

madijo41

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You so Rock! RoadDog

Mrs_McFadden

This is HILARIOUS.

Of course RoadDog has it right..to an extent.

I would be glib and say a 'real' man doesn't need to pat himself on the back..that's what we women like to do for our men?
But I guess the hilarious thing is, you're sort of sidling up to Alpha man territory..but you're not one. I suggest you look into being a Gamma man and find yourself a woman if you don't have one. You're obviously attractive enough.

So finesse it properly, get a woman, so we don't have to stroke your ego for you.