annoyed at the gym ?

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  • cclala
    cclala Posts: 190 Member
    I am the leggy thin girl in my class. (Not blonde though if that helps!)

    Here's some stuff that might help you:

    1. I work out because if I don't, I gain weight. It's important to me to feel good about my body. I've spent many years not taking care of it (and yes, gaining weight) and finally I got fed up and decided to dedicate myself to my own self confidence. My body would not look like it does if I didn't kill myself at the gym. It doesn't come easy.

    2. Another reason I bother working out is because of the mental high it gives me, and for the sake of my boyfriend's head. He'd prefer it remain in tact at the end of the day and me blowing off steam helps with this.

    3. #2 is largely the reason for my smile. The endorphins are my one escape They bring me such happiness I can't help myself. I deal with a ****ty commute, stressful job, family issues, and normal day to day hassles. Dance is my one hour during the day when I feel completely joyful and free.

    4. I hide behind my towel in the locker room and steal glances at the tight, toned, perfect breasted 22 year olds all around me and feel unsexy. In fact I went to the beach a few weeks ago with my boyfriend and another couple, the girl had the world's most perfect *kitten* and was parading it in a thong (yes, a thong) swimsuit in front of my boyfriend and I. It made me so insecure and uneasy I had to sneak away and call my mom and freak out about how hard I work and how I'll never look like her. So, I do not regard myself as perfect by a long stretch. I am riddled with self doubt, just like you.

    5. There was a super overweight woman behind me in zumba today and I kid you not, I smiled to myself thinking "that badass lady is so inspiring. If she can keep doing this every day, so can I. I'm so impressed with her dedication, I wish I could talk to her."

    So there you have it. I don't fault you for being jealous or angry, I get that way too and we all have our rough days.

    But, I just wanted to turn her into a person for you, if possible. I hope tomorrow is easier for you, you'll be in my thoughts.
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
    Well if she's skinny and at the gym, then maybe it's just because she wouldn't be skinny anymore if she weren't at the gym.
  • javamom
    javamom Posts: 309
    It's unfair to assume her life is "perfect" and care-free just because she is skinny. If I've learned one thing, you never know what's going on inside someone else's life, no matter how perfect they appear to be.

    We all get annoyed by people, but it may be more about us than it is about them.
  • bosanka
    bosanka Posts: 336 Member
    Thank you for pointing out your view- cclala- it makes sense when you put it out that way :) appreciate you taking the time to explain that

    javamom- i'm pretty much sure it's more of a -my-problem-bad-day thingy - than her just beeing happy with her self :) i'm sure that's a fact.. and maybe exactly that was the reason why it bothered me ..

    any other " annoying " things at the gym ? maybe i'm doing something and i'm not aware of it- and if people list it here.. it could make me aware of it :)
  • VezNo1
    VezNo1 Posts: 83
    Why don't you get postitive and focus on that percfect *kitten* in front as a goal to be achieved. There are loads of different sizes in my Zumba class - because its fun, not because anyone is there to show off. I am definatley the biggest girl in the front row and I just don't care, I'm there to sweat and have a laugh. As should you be, just concentrate on your own game because that is what everyone else is doing.
    As for the girl with the great figure, well unless she has superhuman genetics I'm sure she is there looking after it and enjoying herself - my advice, take a leaf, get over it and get on with your own life.
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    You say skinny blonde girl teaches pilates? Well then she's got to ensure that her body looks in tip-top shape because EVERYONE in her own class will be watching her. Plus, fitness instructors usually have a smile on their faces to radiate warmth and welcome to their class participants - it's most likely her "gym" face that she's either learned or which comes naturally to her.

    I dont get annoyed with either skinny or "bit to lose" types at the gym - everyone has their own reasons for going there. As someone else said above, I admire those who have a lot to lose, who are obviously trying hard and doing the right thing.

    The ones who annoy me are those who dont concentrate on their technique, even when the class instructor is pointing out exactly what they should be doing.....
  • sophieshaped
    sophieshaped Posts: 228 Member

    Honestly, I'd rather have people who are polite, happy, and always smiling at the gym than grumpy people who pass judgment on others just because of the way they look.

    Well said :o)
  • backinthenines
    backinthenines Posts: 1,083 Member
    I see skinny people at the gym all the time too and im thinking if i was as thin as you i wouldnt bother being here

    You know... some people actually ENJOY exercising and being active, and it makes them feel good, and God forbid... they smile sometimes.

    I don't know how the original poster can feel she can pass judgement on whether an individual ever had to cope with any level of adversity in her life only because she is attractive, fit and smiles in Zumba.
  • backinthenines
    backinthenines Posts: 1,083 Member

    Honestly, I'd rather have people who are polite, happy, and always smiling at the gym than grumpy people who pass judgment on others just because of the way they look.

    Well said :o)

    +1000
  • Pressly
    Pressly Posts: 3
    Remember this is a lifestyle change! You don't just get skinny, or just get in shape! Is it a lifestyle change. The gym is for EVERYONE! Short, tall, skinny, fat, muscled up and crippled. Everyone has a goal and guess what ,the goal is the SAME! To get and STAY in shape.
    I am 5'1 and 125lbs. I have every right to be in that Zumba Class as you do. And I will be smiling the entire time because it is fun and you shoud be smiling too. Be proud of yourself because you are there doing something positive for your body.
    WE have the same goal and WE both need to be happy for one another. Judging someone by their looks whether their big or small is sad. I hope we have all helped you. I pray you introduce yourself to this nice young lady and give her a compliment. She derserves it just as much as you do. And one day, you will be that person that GOD intended you to be. You will be the size HE intended you to be. You can and will be a wlaking example. A testimony to many who may be struggling. You will be their motivation! Don't give up and keep your eye's on why YOU are there...because....it is the same reason you are there. Take care and I am VERY PROUD OF YOU. Venting is the right thing to do! I pray we were all instrumental in giving you a new outlokk on this situation. Let us know how it goes with meeting this young lady. You may have a new friend!
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