Others upset by my progress...
barberella
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Yesterday, someone just asked me how much weight I just lost. So I told them. And when they thought I had left, that person was tearing me down saying they hate people like me because me being proud of my weight loss apparently is letting everyone around me know they're fat. I don't know where that logic came from because i certainly don't go around bragging about my progress. To me, 11 pounds is not enough to brag about! I am proud that I'm finally in the mental state to do what I'm doing because I yo yoed so much, but it just goes back to what I've expressed on here before. People around me or wherever I go (except here!) seem to want us weight losers to fail. And I don't understand it.
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Jealousy is a terrible emotion and sadly many suffer from it .. you`ve taken control , they haven`t.
This problem is theirs not yours so please don`t stress over it, be proud of yourself x0 -
Oh wow, I've never encountered anyone who was that brash to say it that way! I'm sure that people feel that way, but yikes. Be proud of what you've accomplished, it's not an easy feat to lose anything at all, much less 11 lbs! And if having pride in being healthy and happy with yourself is a problem to someone else, well that's not your fault.0
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Well perhaps this is just the New Jersey in me, but * _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ * em. (Feel free to fill in the blanks as you see fit. If they don't like it, well then it is just too bad for them. You have to do what you need to do for you. No one else will!!!0
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WOW. That is terrible! What is wrong with some people some times? Personally 11 pounds is totally great and brag worthy, I bragged to my friends when I lost 5 hahaha.0
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Keep your head up! You should be able to celebrate every pound lost! Just celebrate and be proud of yourself. Do worry about haters, YOU RULE!!0
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11lbs is more than most people who need ot lose weight ever manage. be proud!0
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Because if you don't fail....they no longer have an excuse not to try. As long as "everyone" is overweight it's the acceptable norm. Ignore them. Actually don't. Next time walk back up...in mid sentence and reply "I'm sorry. I didn't realize answering questions was bragging. The next time you ask me a question, I'll be sure not to answer it." THEN walk off and ignore them!0
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Number one...if they didn't want to know, they shouldn't have asked!
Number two...11 lbs is AWESOME and plenty to be proud of! You're doing great! I totally get the mindset thing...I've been fighting my wait my whole life and think I'm ready to tackle this.
GOOD FOR YOU!! Keep it up!0 -
It's not you, it's them. They obviously have low self-esteem and you losing weight is making it even lower. Keep doing what you're doing and congrats on the 11 pounds.0
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I totally agree with Orchid. Its much easier to tear someone down than to look in the mirror and admit what you are NOT doing.
Don't let people like this get you down. Your hard work and positive attitude are paying off for you.
Wear it proud!!0 -
sounds like a lazy *kitten* jerk to me! You go girl! let her "hate" on you some more when you keep on loosing!:laugh:0
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Be proud. **** 'em.0
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Oh man, I've experienced this myself, but not to the extreme you have. It was a comment my old childhood best friend made on a MySpace picture many years ago when I lost 40lbs. She said I looked too skinny. THAT was her comment. I still weighed about 159lbs, (I'm tall, so I can see where that may have come from).. but still, that is not skinny. I lost the weight through practicing yoga for so many years, it was gradual, and I had good muscle tone. But, I can see she was jealous and instead of paying me a compliment like others did, she said I wasn't healthy looking. That seriously hurt my feelings, but I didn't allow her remarks to impact me in anyway. I still ran and did my yoga!
Sadly, people will gossip.. especially the jealous ones. It's a shame, but that's how society works sometimes, especially in the workplace or shaky friendships.
However, I think it's fantastic you've dropped 11 lbs already! Way to go! Don't let them bring you down, you're doing a wonderful job!0 -
I'm usually a pretty nice person but I gotta say I agree with ufasupa New Jersey up there! That is just blatantly rude. Ignore them; they are obviously not happy with themselves so they have to bring others down. Be proud and shout it from the roof tops if you feel like it! :drinker:0
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Wow. It's amazing the way people will express their insecurities. The fact is... you getting in shape DOES make them realize how out of shape they are. And they can either look at that positively, commend you and maybe do something for themselves or feel insecure and blame you for THEIR overweight body. But you just keep right on keepin on. Are you going to be worried about what he/she said when you're slipping into those smaller jeans yet again? I don't think so!!
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Ignore it, I tell everyone about every lb lost
Im proud and I can not be shut up. 0 -
If they're smart, and ready to make a change themselves, they'll look at your success as inspiration. If they're not, then let them be jealous. Your increased self-esteem and confidence from losing is worth way more than their opinions. Keep at it.0
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A I know is a "skinny" person would'nt be saying that stuff..... Let em rot!
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JEALOUSLY a really bad emotion. Don't take it to heart and turn your emotions around to being happy and proud of yourself. This is the only way you are gonna get rid of them and their opinions. Attract like minded people in your life and discard the ones that don't fit. They are mad at themselves that's why they act that way. Keep up the good work and concentrate on YOU not them!!0
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I just have to say OMG. You are doing this for yourself and not them. Do not let their comments tear you down. You have made tremendous progress to a new you. I have never witnessed comments like this in my workplace, but I am sure there are some out there. I am not out there to please other people so I agree with several of the other posters. They need to not ask the question if they really do not want to know. :noway:0
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It all comes from their insecurity. I mean, if someone gets a promotion that's deserved, do you tear them down? No! It's usually those who fail to do it themselves that get upset when someone else succeeds.
I will admit, it used to drive me crazy to see people stop drinking soda and drop 50 pounds when I have been struggling for several months just to make it to where I am. But I never tear them down. I say great for them. I know my frustration does not ly with the person making it. It lies with me.0 -
I don't know why people have to be haters. Why can't they respect someones efferts and encourage their success. You know your able to reach your goal and your the only one that can achieve it. So let the haters hate your success and you just laugh at them every time you lose another pound. CONGRADULATIONS and keep losing.0
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You'll be surprised at who your real friends are when you stop doing the idiocy that they are still inspired by. I had a "friend" ask me how much weight I've lost when I replied 6 lbs she told me I could really tell in your face.....seriously? Same friend today says that wow those pants used to be really tight. I looked @ her & laughed. Dont let haters steal your joy. This is about you and not them!!!0
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Dont let them tear you down just because you have decided to do something positive and healthy!!! If you want to loose the weight its up to you...If they want to stay unfit and risk their health its up to them!
They're just talking absolute s**t out of their bottoms as they are GREEN with envy!!!
You keep doing what you're doing with pride and dont listen to foolish muppets!!!
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Obviously their reaction is a reflection on their own struggles and insecurities, don't sweat it! Just keep doing what you're doing and pay people like that no mind.
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Wow! Sometimes people are just cruel! Keep up the good work!! You've worked hard to loose weight and the goals you set for yourself are your own.0
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Forget what others are saying and remember this:
What other people think of you is NONE of your business. YOU know the truth and THAT is all that matters.
Don't let those people take up space in your head without paying you any rent !!
Excellent that you have decided to change your life and too bad that they haven't, yet.0 -
Keep doing what you do. Whatever works for you. We can't always worry what other people think, appparently their esteem problems are getting the best of them. I have a friend like that, says I'm always bragging about my lost weight, but really she's swallowing in her defeat and esteem problems just trying to find other reasons to give up and not do what she needs to do. I will pray for those people because they need help. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK !!!!
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Don't bother. I can't stand negative people. Be happy with what you accomplished and keep going. People will always be haters.
Quoting a wise man - "If you have one person hating on you right now then you need to figure out how to get to five by christmas!"0
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