Hypothetical relationship question for the ladies...

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ChuckgM3
ChuckgM3 Posts: 302 Member
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if you're in a relationship with someone, would you log into your old match.com account and update your profile with new rather attractive pictures of yourself because you are bored and want to chat with people... not because you have any interest in dating someone else?
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  • thelassiemickyjames
    thelassiemickyjames Posts: 197
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    Absolutely would never do that, but if I did It would definitely be out of boredom.. boredom of the guy I was dating!... Either she's unfaithful and doesn't like the guy OR the man in the relationship doesn't give her enough attention or make her feel wanted enough.
  • Tennessee2019
    Tennessee2019 Posts: 676 Member
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    NO WAY!! match.com is part of the past, forget about it.
  • Lstrode
    Lstrode Posts: 51
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    I probably wouldn't use the site again, as long as I was in a relationship. If you are just bored and want to chat with no interest to date, you could do that here, or on other social networking sites. Going back to a match site is just going to be misleading someone possibly, or setting yourself up for failure in your relationship. But that is just my opinion.
  • CalorieNinja
    CalorieNinja Posts: 645 Member
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    No, I don't think I would... Sounds like someone is looking for something else (sorry)
  • NoAdditives
    NoAdditives Posts: 4,251 Member
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    No. Unless you're looking for a way out of the relationship, there's no reason to put yourself out there.

    Although, I will admit I have a weird curiosity with knowing who eharmony would match with me. But! I've never acted on it and my husband knows about this curiosity (and doesn't think it's weird).
  • shallo
    shallo Posts: 353 Member
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    I wouldn't go back to that site if I was in a relationship with someone. However, if by some chance I did just to chat I don't see why there would be a need to put up a more attractive picture.
  • thelassiemickyjames
    thelassiemickyjames Posts: 197
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    sometimes the ladies are happy in their relationships but miss having a guy make them feel special or flirt with them (like thier boyfriend used to), so they start looking for it elsewhere... even if completely innocent ego boosting is all they need.
  • britt_fit
    britt_fit Posts: 169
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    I agree with lilmissgenius200. That could be taken the wrong way by the girl you're dating and you shouldn't put yourself in situations where you might accidentally find someone else.
  • ErrataCorrige
    ErrataCorrige Posts: 649 Member
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    Maybe, but only if it was because I looked way better and wanted someone who would see it to be jealous or see what they missed. But really, that is a pretty bad excuse. Most likely she is doing some fishing to see what bites. :( Sorry.
  • CreativeRedhead
    CreativeRedhead Posts: 2,166
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    I'd do that if I was ready to move on to something (someone) new. Not just to chat people up...you can do that anywhere.
  • Lyadeia
    Lyadeia Posts: 4,603 Member
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    Not if I am happy in the relationship!

    When I was with the person that I was with BEFORE my fiance, I did all sorts of us stuff like that because he made me so miserable and I wanted to get as far away from him as possible (he was very mentally and emotionally abusive). Even though I would breka up with him first before going out with someone else, I was looking everywhere for that someone else that would have given me the excuse to dump him. Now if I wasn't an emotional trainwreck with no self-esteem, I would have just up and left no problem without bothering to look for others...

    If I wanted to just "chat" with people, I would go to Facebook or Myspace. Match.com and other such places are totally OFF LIMITS when you are dating someone that you aren't on the verge of breaking up with. If Justin even *thought* about doing that...well, we wouldn't be engaged anymore, and it probably works the other way too.
  • kelika71
    kelika71 Posts: 778 Member
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    Afraid I agree with all the posters. I'd say it's time to evaluate your relationship. Sorry.
  • xlacijeanx
    xlacijeanx Posts: 232 Member
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    You don't use a dating site to "chat" with people when you're already taken.... that's just looking for someone new.
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
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    This is the only "dating site" I've ever used. It's not working out well at all. Not one date in two years.
  • Mrs_McFadden
    Mrs_McFadden Posts: 1,139
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    If you're into cybering sure- or phone sex- or flirting. Or if you're an inconsiderate jerk to your SO.
  • Bigpelly8
    Bigpelly8 Posts: 504 Member
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    You don't use a dating site to "chat" with people when you're already taken.... that's just looking for someone new.

    I agree...there are other places to go chat with poeple. Dating sites are typically not for chit chat!
  • MOOOSEEE3
    MOOOSEEE3 Posts: 218 Member
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    absolutely not.
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
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    if you're in a relationship with someone, would you log into your old match.com account and update your profile with new rather attractive pictures of yourself because you are bored and want to chat with people... not because you have any interest in dating someone else?
    Your girlfriend is looking for someone else. And she's doing it right to your face. That is one of the lamest things I've ever heard. She must think the rest of the world is stupid.
  • wolf23
    wolf23 Posts: 4,178 Member
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    Appears to me that they're looking to see if "something better" is going to come along.
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
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    Appears to me that they're looking to see if "something better" is going to come along.
    Yup.

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