a bit discouraged.....

chelsey787

so, i don't need to lose any more weight - i'm more concerned with maintaining my current body shape/weight.

but my roomate confided (and by confided i mean yelled at me during a fight) about how she thinks i don't eat and that i'm basically anorexic... which is certainly not the case at all.

almost in tears, i explained to her (or argued.... whichever floats your boat... i was so mad i couldn't contain myself. and she was being hostile too so it's not like i was blowing up at her) that i DO eat ALOT (bc i do!) and that she's always working during the day so she has no idea what goes on when she's at work. i am so sick of ppl telling me i have lost too much weight or that i look "sickly" which id on't htink i do....i just don't think ppl are used to seeing me "thin" because i've always been on the upper end of the "thin" side all my life.

it just makes me so frustrated that I work so hard to be healthy and to eat right and work out for myself only for it to backfire on me.


did i mention the cheeseburger and fries i just ate to prove to her i was still eating? yeah... i feel nasty.

chelsey787

so, i don't need to lose any more weight - i'm more concerned with maintaining my current body shape/weight.

but my roomate confided (and by confided i mean yelled at me during a fight) about how she thinks i don't eat and that i'm basically anorexic... which is certainly not the case at all.

almost in tears, i explained to her (or argued.... whichever floats your boat... i was so mad i couldn't contain myself. and she was being hostile too so it's not like i was blowing up at her) that i DO eat ALOT (bc i do!) and that she's always working during the day so she has no idea what goes on when she's at work. i am so sick of ppl telling me i have lost too much weight or that i look "sickly" which id on't htink i do....i just don't think ppl are used to seeing me "thin" because i've always been on the upper end of the "thin" side all my life.

it just makes me so frustrated that I work so hard to be healthy and to eat right and work out for myself only for it to backfire on me.


did i mention the cheeseburger and fries i just ate to prove to her i was still eating? yeah... i feel nasty.

iojoi

u dont have to justfy to anyone ur lifestyle
so long as u r eatng heathily then take no notice

TNTPete

Just a quick question - how well does your roommate know you, how long have you been friends? The only reason I ask is sometimes it takes someone on the outside looking in to see something we don't/.

She could be sabotaging your efforts but I would heed a bit of caution and really watch yourself - people don't say things like that to hurt your feelings - most times they are genuinely looking out for you.

rheston

When I started putting on weight my roommate (wife) was on my case about not eating right and how I needed to have portion control, etc. Now that I've started to lose weight she's taken the opposite tact and telling me that I shouldn't cut out the things that I've been eating too much of like cheese, crackers, pate', caviar, etc.

I, like you, feel that I've used MFP to really understand a healthier eating style and have kept things in my eating plan that I always liked to eat but in much smaller proportions than I ever did in the past.

I've come to the conclusion that there's a bit of jealousy in some people, a need to criticize in others, and then there are those who have always seen us and become comfortable in what we were that it's hard for them to adjust to what we've become.

If you really believe you're doing the healthy things with your lifestyle and are just maintaining where you are at then I wouldn't let what your roommate said to you bother you. If it comes up again you may want to take your roommate to your MFP website and show them how you've accomplished what you have. I did this with my wife and that got her to change her opinion about my eating habits and she's touting my success to our friends instead of riding my case.

Hang in there and just double check that you're doing the right things for yourself.:flowerforyou:

deanea

:flowerforyou:

shannonbanana

I just read an article in Marie Claire that really hit home for me and I think it may be part of the problem... It was about a girl who lost her friends when she lost weight...Many of us, myself included, have those friends that, and i hate to say this b/c i love my friends, get very jealous when they see you taking control of a part of their life that they can't....but i have friends that tell me im way to thin, i looked better before (p.s. Im 5'2" and 128 pounds, HARDLY emaciated) I don't think they mean to be hurtful but I think it is hard to watch someone close to you thriving at something you may have failed at in the past. Just something to keep in mind as a possible motive behind your roomate's explosion.


Also I looked at your pics...you are beautiful and look to be in great shape so keep up the good work and ignore the haters :drinker:

JulieB21

I've come to the conclusion that there's a bit of jealousy in some people, a need to criticize in others, and then there are those who have always seen us and become comfortable in what we were that it's hard for them to adjust to what we've become.

I totally agree. Even my own mother has been critical in many ways since I changed my lifestyle. She has actually said "Please take care of yourself" making it sound as if I were on death's door and the truth is, I've NEVER been healthier. I think it makes her uncomfortable seeing me take charge of my health.

I don't think people say things like this to hurt your feelings as much as I think they say it to comfort themselves.

Mireille

I think she a "hater" and I completely agree with what Shannonbanana said. Although hard to admit for most of us, it is very true.

You are absolutely beautiful!

:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

douganl

uhmmm...can you say JEALOUS!!!! You look fabulous, don't listen to what other people say! Only what we say is important!

chelsey787

thanks for all your support guys! i posted really quick before i went to bed and i just signed on for the first time today and i am just overwhelmed by all your support.

i know she was probably doing it out of concern, because she is my best friend, and i have never been this thin before, but it just hit me hard to hear her say something like that.

thanks for all your love!