Haters of V-day

DJH3

Anyone else absolutely despise Valentines Day? Between the angst, the chocolate, and the pollen allergies I can't really think of a more miserable holiday. Wonder if there are people out there that genuinely like v-day...

A fun fact I found online: "The National Retail Federation says the average man will drop more than $158 dollars for Valentine's Day, while the average woman will only spend about $75 dollars."

Clew

I really don't give a crap either way. My hubby and I both have birthdays right around V Day, so we pretty much just skip it.

schpanks

That's because we deserve it! And home depot doesn't do enough advertising. Maybe you'd like a table saw for Valentine's Day, but no one told us to get you one.

♥Faerie♥

I wouldn't exhaust that much energy into actually hating the day...but to me...its just another day....have always thought it silly in a way.....

00trayn

I don't see the need to spend tons of money. My boyfriend and I are having a home cooked meal, he's doing the cooking, I bought dessert and beer... haha. And I baked him cookies since he loves sweets. I told him i don't expect flowers or anything, I just like spending time over a nice dinner he made me. I suspect I'm not in the majority of how women feel about the holiday tho... lol. Neither of us are spending anywhere near the average, I think I've spent $20 total between the beer and cheesecake and cookie dough.

annie_p

Just like any other day...

That being said, I randomly buy things for my husband or my son. The only "out-of-the-ordinary" thing I've done today was bought him a card.

kittytrix

I don't hate it but I also don't think it's very romantic to be a love lemming and jump off that cliff into having to buy flowers, candy, dinner and the likes. I would rather have floers justs because.

leavinglasvegas

I don't believe in any holiday. I make everyday a celebration. I don't need some overpaid corporation to tell me what "things" I need to make me feel good. I'm awesome and it costs me nothing.:drinker:

TK266

I'll be working out tonight like all other Monday nights. Just another day, but I do make bits of effort to acknowledge the day.

Kityngirl

I would much rather be given a gift just because, not out of obligation. Plus, I'm not terribly into what most people consider "romance". :laugh:

DJH3

*headshake at schpanks* Killing me...

I'm TRYING not to get pummelled by the females here but why do a lot of women think they "deserve it" more than men do? If your man is a complete DB or you are a stay at home mom raising the little ones, then I can see the justification here.

dars069

I hate Valentines Day. I think it's a holiday thought up by the greeting card industry to boost sales, especially after Christmas is over and there isn't another "card holiday" until Mother's Day.

♥Faerie♥

I don't really get the whole thing if you ask me.....If you are treated well by your other half the other days of the year, then why do you also need a "special" day just to prove that you are loved? and if I want something, whether it be jewelry, flowers, or a new pair of Docs...I am certainly not going to expect a guy to get them for me, I will do it myself, I'm kinda independent like that....

Lyadeia

I treat it like Mother's Day or Father's Day. It's great that your sig. other is wonderful year round, but this is just one day that we remember it. I have a cool mom 365 days a year, but I don't buy her a card 365 days a year. Just once to tell her she's a great mom. I love my fiance, but we're not going to have romantic dinners 365 times a year, but just once to celebrate what we have without letting other things get in the way is kinda nice.

mckval

I don't hate it. But I do think it's nothing more than a pissing contest.

We don't celebrate/acknowledge it at all. My husband's sentiment is that no one's going it tell HIM when to get his wife something... and I feel the same way. We do plenty for one another on other days.

DJH3

Okay, how many of you have gotten the question from family/coworkers the day of or the day after "What are you (did you) do for your spouse for Valentines day?" and when you said "not a darn thing" you get berated for it or get the look like you're a terrible person?

Kityngirl

Unfortunately, that is pretty much reserved for men. Women get a shot of the "oh, you poor poor thing" sympathetic look with a mild "i'm here for you sister" man bashing chaser. No matter how many times you tell them that you don't celebrate it. *shrug* Just because it's true, doesn't make it fair.

AmberElaine84

My husband and I don't really celebrate it, either. I mean, we buy each other a small gift, but that's about it...no fancy dinner or anything. We buy the kids cutesy little things since my daughter is 6 and thinks EVERYTHING is a huge deal.

mamagooskie

I don`t hate it.....but I don`t celebrate it. My husband I don`t do anything special, no chocolate, no flowers etc.

I buy valentines cards so my daughter can take them to school but really I think of it a completely useless day for stores to try and make more money.

sillygoose1977

*headshake at schpanks* Killing me...

I'm TRYING not to get pummelled by the females here but why do a lot of women think they "deserve it" more than men do? If your man is a complete DB or you are a stay at home mom raising the little ones, then I can see the justification here.

My favorite thing about V Day is surprising my man. We don't do much but I like doing things to make him smile. Hid his valentine in the bathroom so when he got up at the crack of dawn to go to work, he would find it first thing. I'm going home after work to make him some brownies. It's always the thought that counts. Today and every day.

hamiltonba

Wild sex......

DJH3

Wild sex......

If you're only getting that on v-day then there is something seriously wrong.

DJH3

I don`t hate it.....but I don`t celebrate it. My husband I don`t do anything special, no chocolate, no flowers etc.

I buy valentines cards so my daughter can take them to school but really I think of it a completely useless day for stores to try and make more money.

Another holiday where commercialism trumps the original spirit of the holiday... much like Christmas.

BStayer

My wife and I just skip it. It was her idea as well. We feel it's another holiday for businesses to make an extra buck by guilting people into buying stuff that will end up in the trash in about a week. Waste of money. Before you rebuttal with the whole "You don't need to spend money to show your love". Let me ask this, if you love your special someone, do you really need a holiday to remind you to show that and should you show your love only once a year? I hope not. I concur with the OP, hate this holiday. It's crooked.

JeanK56

Okay, how many of you have gotten the question from family/coworkers the day of or the day after "What are you (did you) do for your spouse for Valentines day?" and when you said "not a darn thing" you get berated for it or get the look like you're a terrible person?

I got the looks last week when asked what we do for Valentine's day. And you know what it doesn't matter to me one way or the other. When the kids were little it was about them. I don't expect anything as it is just another day for me. And he doesn't expect anything from me either.

tater8589

This is probably the first year that I have had a significant other willing to celebrate with me and we have the money to do it. I must add for any guys grumbling- I spent more than my husband for today (but he out did me at Christmas). I agree with one of the above posters, Valentines day is like Mothers Day or Fathers Day. Since my husband and I aren't parents this is a day to remember eachother and show appreciation, that sometimes gets forgotten in the craziness of every day life.

Also, I'd rather be single on VD than be with (my ex) a guy who wont celebrate it. I used to work at a jewelry store and had to endure my customers (who saw my ring) and my friends wanting to know what I got, then why I didn't. It sucks when you expect at least a little something and get nothing, atleast if your single you still might get something your not expecting and you don't have to stress about buying that "perfect" gift -- just sayin

Regardless I hope every one has a good day :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

jtgill

*headshake at schpanks* Killing me...

I'm TRYING not to get pummelled by the females here but why do a lot of women think they "deserve it" more than men do? If your man is a complete DB or you are a stay at home mom raising the little ones, then I can see the justification here.

I am a stay at home mom with a 2 year old going through chemotherapy (VERY CRABBY!!!) and a 7 month old (teething) It was SOOOO nice to have my hubby take me out and pamper me a little! I just like to take the day to remind those I love how very much I do love them....no need to spend tons of money doing that though. I got my hubby a couple baseball caps and he got my nails done and took me out to dinner I didn't have to cook, clean up from or listen to kids during...He is bringing the kids home a surprise after work....It is FUN to have a special day here and there...Especially for us right now. But I totally see why people hate Valentine's Day...I used to and then I met my husband and he has made it so special for me every year, now adding the kids in it has been such a fun day for the past 7 years!

mrb_9110

I don't really get the whole thing if you ask me.....If you are treated well by your other half the other days of the year, then why do you also need a "special" day just to prove that you are loved? and if I want something, whether it be jewelry, flowers, or a new pair of Docs...I am certainly not going to expect a guy to get them for me, I will do it myself, I'm kinda independent like that....

Speaking from the point of my relationship, my boyfriend is a WONDERFUL man. He shows he loves me everyday in little ways that make me feel special. However, I think it's nice to be pampered a little bit and since I like flowers, it's an excuse for me to ask for them, even though it's kind of expensive. I don't expect chocolates and wine, but a day to remind each other how much we mean to each other is nice. But then again, I'm a romantic, not a skeptic

PJilly

We don't celebrate Valentine's Day, but I don't hate it either. My husband isn't much of a romantic, but I'm not complaining. I knew what I was signing up for, and I love him as much today as I did when I met him 22 years ago. I'm not very high maintenance — at least not most of the time. He is my rock, and can count on him being here for me and giving me what I need every single day. If Valentine's Day was important to me, he would make an effort to do something for me, but it makes ME uncomfortable to put those expectations on him when it's just not who he is, if that makes any sense. I told him many years ago that I didn't need him to do anything for me, and he was so relieved and so appreciative. Our anniversary is in March, and that IS important to both of us, so that's our special day we go above and beyond to celebrate our love for each other. But for those who enjoy celebrating today, more power to you!

♥Faerie♥

I don't really get the whole thing if you ask me.....If you are treated well by your other half the other days of the year, then why do you also need a "special" day just to prove that you are loved? and if I want something, whether it be jewelry, flowers, or a new pair of Docs...I am certainly not going to expect a guy to get them for me, I will do it myself, I'm kinda independent like that....

Speaking from the point of my relationship, my boyfriend is a WONDERFUL man. He shows he loves me everyday in little ways that make me feel special. However, I think it's nice to be pampered a little bit and since I like flowers, it's an excuse for me to ask for them, even though it's kind of expensive. I don't expect chocolates and wine, but a day to remind each other how much we mean to each other is nice. But then again, I'm a romantic, not a skeptic

Not sure where skepticism would fall into my response....but whatever......still think its a silly marketed holiday like many others....
that is all.................

MissKim

I guess I'll be in the minority! I love love love Valentine's Day!! Like all other holiday's it's meant to celebrate something, and love is my favorite whether i'm single or taken, it doesn't matter, I've always loved valentines day. I think of it as a day to celebrate Love! which to me is the most important thing! I celebrate God's love, the love I have for my precious child, the love I have for family and friends, and even the love I have for people I don't know! Without Love this world would be nothing. It's the only good thing we have going for us so yes, i'm a sucker for it. and I'm also a hopeless romantic, so I'm sure that doesn't help!