Worst doctors visit EVER! In tears

Belle_Fille

Maybe he was grouchy because he had only had one meal that day. :laugh:

I CANNOT stop...laughing!

All right, to the OP, you officially rock. I'm so happy to hear that you stood up for yourself and your children! I think you handled it perfectly and that man was obviously in medical school circa 1805! I mean he might as well have said that asbestos cures cancer wtf!!!
One meal a day? What a complete idiot!

I am sorry for laughing, my sense of humor..it gets me in trouble but when I read that he was eyeballing your children eating wheat thins and insinuating things I was LMAO because my children are super active, slender as a rail, very very healthy appetites! If my children are the slightest bit hungry they eat like ravenous animals that have been starving for eternity..it's hilarious and embarrassing! HAHA. The fact that he did not recognize even that one relatively often known behavior of children when they get a snack they enjoy he should really consider retiring and trying to solve word puzzles for fun instead of dispensing any kind of advise about anything and particularly medically!!

I would do as others have suggested re: reporting him to the authorities. I would also endeavor to find out if there is an online site that rates medical professionals in your area and writing your complaint there so people will know to avoid him!

yeah. my 3 year old is about 35-39 pounds (she teeters back and forth) and about 43 inches tall. my 1 year old is 17 pounds (though he is short for his age- his pedi says he is the perfect weight for his height). my son (1 year old) can eat and eat and eat! he is, as we joke, our garbage disposal! he will eat anything and everything you put in front of him- and he never gains an ounce! my daughter (3) is very picky with her food and doesnt eat well at meal time (lunch, dinner, etc) but does well with snacks (usually fruit but today wheat thins). it all balances out for my kiddos! if my kids are hungry i will feed them. whether or not they are "over weight" i will not deprive a child of food. (i wont purposely over feed them either- if i know they are just bored and wanting to eat- i find an active game to do outside) my point is even if my kids were over weight- i refuse to tell them "you cant eat". that causes eating disorders! if im worried about my childrens weight (which i am not) then i will get them more active and make sure they are getting healthy foods.

Belle_Fille

can you report him?

yes. we tried calling them about 10 minutes after i left but was told the office manager would call back. she never did so my step mother pointed out there is a contact us button on their website so i reported him there. and i will call back monday, and everyday until i can speak with someone over the phone and report him that way as well.

Belle_Fille

Maybe I watch too much House, and always think of the diagnosis, but I wonder with the bug bites (they love chomping on me, too) if you might have gotten a tick bite and have some kind of tick borne illness like Lyme Disease. That can start with painful joints and it can flare up long after you've had a bite.

we dont have ticks around here (oddly enough). i mean they are here in oklahoma, yes, but they dont seem to be around my house. its more fleas, chiggers, mosquitos, stuff like that.

Belle_Fille

oh my step mother (she drove me, my car is in the shop) just told me that while i was in the bathroom (he was taking forever i figured id have time before he finally came into the room) he was trying to talk to HER about why i was there. what my medical history is like, my weight, etc. This is AFTER i just filled out the HIPPA papers, and said that ONLY my boyfriend, and father can discuss my medical status with the doctor or nurses.

That_Girl

Report him.

Seriously.

You are nicer than I am. I would have walked out 2 minutes into that effed up conversation.

Do what you do, girl...most doctors, in my opinion, just google shet anyway.

Marcellus_08

Duuuude, what a ****!!!

It makes me want to hug you and give you my doctors number. haha. My doctor is such a sweetheart and it makes me mad that some doctors feel they have the right to be complete *kitten*!!

I say lose the weight at the pace YOU feel right for YOU. Poor thing:( No one deserves to be yelled at like that. How horrible.

Belle_Fille

Oh My Gosh! Im not sure if I would've kept my cool in that situation. Where did he get his degree from, suggesting one meal a day and losing 2 pounds a month? =/ I don't have my doctorates but you don't need one to know thats not right. SMDH. I am so sorry that happened to you. He needs to work on his bedside manner.

i have no clue! i lost over 3 pounds my first week just by cutting out Dr pepper! about 3+ pounds the next week by portion control! those are healthy things to change and do! these 8 pounds are probably just extra water weight and toxins leaving my system, but still!

Belle_Fille

OMG! that is horrible!!! Report him!! And I would call everyone papers and everything.... how dare he?? I think you were a lot calmer than I would have been.... f that. Stupid people!!! I had the same problem with my knees and the shred the first few days. I took a weeks break and started taking glucosamine chondroitin (sp? it's for joints), and walked. It worked, they still hurt a little if I do to much jumping, but no where's near as bad! They say it takes a bout a month for them to completely stop with the vitamins : )

thanks. ill call my midwife and look into the glucosamine chondroitin. everything now a days says "consult a physician if breadt feeding" so im so paranoid to take anything!

fireflyangel22

I'm a nurse and work frequently with orthopedic patients. Knee and hip replacements are our specialty. I don't know where you live but if its in or near Wisconsin look up Dr Lawrence. He is amazing and would never put you through an awful doctor's visit like the one you experienced. Another suggestion is to look at biking or swimming as workouts, because they are much easier on the knees than running or even walking. Keep your chin up and don't take anything that doctor told you to heart. You can do it!

ebgbjo

Not only should you report him immediately to the state board, you should also google his name (including Dr. title) and office location and be sure to leave a review letting others know who are in his area about how horrible he is. I am sorry you had to go through that

Belle_Fille

I'm a nurse and work frequently with orthopedic patients. Knee and hip replacements are our specialty. I don't know where you live but if its in or near Wisconsin look up Dr Lawrence. He is amazing and would never put you through an awful doctor's visit like the one you experienced. Another suggestion is to look at biking or swimming as workouts, because they are much easier on the knees than running or even walking. Keep your chin up and don't take anything that doctor told you to heart. You can do it!

i dont think the thought of taking him seriously crossed my mind for even a second. if his advice was "real advice"....id rather be fat. i cant just NOT eat. and quite honestly, id rather be fat and die a few years early, then to die of starvation and be miserable!

im hoping once we move we can get a gym membership at the YMCA. as of now, i dont have a bike of any kind, or a pool, and i dont think my bathtub is big enough! ;-) but ill stick to cardio, and upper body strength for now. my thighs need to lose weight and be toned, but there are a few things i can do for them, that dont hurt my knees! (leg lifts for example- anything that doesnt require a lot of bending with weight on them)
maybe after i lose the weight my knees will be able to tolerate more. :-)

emmaleigh47

That's terrible, and you should file a complaint with the state. Also, look at your insurance records and specifically how he codes and bills for this visit. It sounds like he did not do any type of decent exam, but I'm sure he is going to bill for a level of visit that MUST include a physical exam. You can notify and complain to the insurance and ding him for fraud. Hit him where it counts... $$$. Sorry you had this bad experience.. we aren't all like that.

Haha that is a GREAT idea!

dylynn

I have problems with my knees ( and knock kneed too) and see a rhuematologist (sp) for fibromyalgia.........been using a treadmill for past two weeks at a fast walk for 30 minutes. Seems to help me and no problems with knees. My specialist told me to try water aroebics if available easier on joints and saves from damaging and tearing any muscles or joints.
I work at a hospital and if any doctor would have treated a patient like you were treated I can say that the nurse themselves would have reported that quack!!!! No way should he be able to practice ANYWHERE and talk to a patient like that. Report his *ss!!!! You did a great job standing up for yourself, but who says the next patient he sees will?
Keep up the good work and remember.............in no way should anyone be treated with that kind of disrespect! God Bless

lynz4589

still in shock from reading this - all I can say right now is make an official complaint!!

skinnyme125

His bedside manner was atrocious. I think what he was meaning to say or should have said is that you are tying to work out too hard and need to go easy on the exercise not only because of your weight but also because of your knees. The problem lies in him being as rude as he was and telling you only one meal a day. Everyone should know that is NOT healthy at all. What a dumb *kitten*. I would just take walks and maybe do some stuff in the gym that deals more with your upper body ( arms, stomach, back) This will help build muscle and this will help you to burn more calories all day long. Have you tried wearing those wraps on your knees when walking or working out. I don't know if this would help at all but might be worth it. I am referring to the ones that lots of athletes wear when they have had knee surgeries. You can get them at just about any drug store. or even walmart in the pharmacy dept. Keep eating like you are and eat you allotted calories and you will get that weight down so that leg exercises will get easier for you. I wish you all the luck in Busting this guys balls to the wall.