uncomfortability

cooki3s

MFP is definitely working for me - it is such a great site!
Just wondered whether anyone else has ever felt uncomfortable or "worried" about being physically slimmer, more attractive.
I'm one of those introverts, and the possibility of looking gorgeous... well freaks me out! Yes, I know i could probably be judged here - people going , come on you know you'd like more attention, or you're not all that wow... i know I'm not gonna be the next Jessica Alba etc.. but I know that Im changing on the outside... and feel much more healthy. I think though I much rather um.. be unnoticed. :P hahah.

Thinking about it.. resistance to change is one of the obstacles that keeps us from living in healthy, trim bodies and with less physical ills. I think hearing about those who have kept on maintaining and winning the battle each day is really encouraging. Because half the battle is losing the kgs, but the other half is keeping it off.
I hope I can learn more about how to maintain my weight once ive reached the "promised land" that i wanna get to!

just my little spill for the day.

melodyg

It makes sense to me. I have a LONG way to go before anyone will call me gorgeous... if then... but I can really identify with just not wanting to be noticed Hoping to work on that along with all the weight loss..

CarterGrt

I think many of us begin our weight loss journey with goals about how we want to look. I think that for me, this started to change as I got closer to my goal into more of a goal of how healthy I want to become. I think that this de-emphasis on appearances has been a healthy shift for me. And, as I transition from a loss mode into a maintenance mode, I think this has more long-term stability.

Just speaking for myself here, but this did come to mind reading your post. Best of luck as you continue your journey.

--Carter

david081

Don't give yourself excuses to avoid becoming what you want to be! I never met a woman who didn't want to look attractive! As you work towards your goal, and become MORE attractive, your self-confidence will also increase, and you'll deal with it! You're doing it for yourself - nobody else!

best of luck!

Regards, David

loseit4good52

actually men are beginning to flirt with me a little and it does make me uncomfortable and a little angry....uncomfortable because I am not used to it and angry because they only pay attention to you when you are looking good....its all about looks to men! But, I still want to be thin and gorgeous

SunLove8

I understand what you are feeling. It's funny because yesterday I was thinking about how weired it's going to feel to be in a bathing suit and even a bikini for the first time in a LONG time. I'm going to feel so uncomfortable and NAKED in front of everyone at the beach. Course I'll be the only one feeling uncomfortable while much younger and even more toned people around me are wearing theirs, but still; its a HUGE change! I think we all will eventually embrace the new us and hopefully not become snotty B@#$%es while we are at it, lol!! :bigsmile:

aawh

actually men are beginning to flirt with me a little and it does make me uncomfortable and a little angry....uncomfortable because I am not used to it and angry because they only pay attention to you when you are looking good....its all about looks to men! But, I still want to be thin and gorgeous

I have experienced the same thing, noticing a lot more looks and more flirting since I have lost some weight.

I think you need to give men a little more credit though. Did you consider maybe they are paying more attention to you because you may have more confidence and pride in yourself as you have lost weight?

cooki3s

It makes sense to me. I have a LONG way to go before anyone will call me gorgeous... if then... but I can really identify with just not wanting to be noticed Hoping to work on that along with all the weight loss..

Yeah…. This is a good point with gradual weight loss - helps give us time to deal with the other changes that come along with it.

I think many of us begin our weight loss journey with goals about how we want to look. I think that for me, this started to change as I got closer to my goal into more of a goal of how healthy I want to become. I think that this de-emphasis on appearances has been a healthy shift for me. And, as I transition from a loss mode into a maintenance mode, I think this has more long-term stability.

Just speaking for myself here, but this did come to mind reading your post. Best of luck as you continue your journey.

Thanks – keeping my mind more on being HEALTHY is so important. There is that fight all the time to battle against the perfect media image, whether male or female and be satisfied that you are doing this for your health.. will try to remember when im maintaining.

Don't give yourself excuses to avoid becoming what you want to be! I never met a woman who didn't want to look attractive! As you work towards your goal, and become MORE attractive, your self-confidence will also increase, and you'll deal with it! You're doing it for yourself - nobody else!

best of luck!

Regards, David

Thank you David – haha  Self saboteur extraordinare I have been before, know too well.
This is encouraging thanks muchly.

actually men are beginning to flirt with me a little and it does make me uncomfortable and a little angry....uncomfortable because I am not used to it and angry because they only pay attention to you when you are looking good....its all about looks to men! But, I still want to be thin and gorgeous

I haven’t experienced that yet. :O I hope not..

I understand what you are feeling. It's funny because yesterday I was thinking about how weired it's going to feel to be in a bathing suit and even a bikini for the first time in a LONG time. I'm going to feel so uncomfortable and NAKED in front of everyone at the beach. Course I'll be the only one feeling uncomfortable while much younger and even more toned people around me are wearing theirs, but still; its a HUGE change! I think we all will eventually embrace the new us and hopefully not become snotty B@#$%es while we are at it, lol!!

Sometimes I think that – ppl who haven’t seen me before will just think - oh shes just always been like that - particularly because in my culture – its expected.. Yet they don’t know it has taken a lot of hard work and struggle.. So the confidence factor.. yea I agree- eventually we’ll embrace the new us.  No don’t wanna become snotty about it!