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Zanpakuto
Zanpakuto Posts: 1
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Hi,
I feel a bit pathetic but I could do with some support. I've finally woken up to the fact that I am medically obese and that I desperately need to lose weight. I need to lose 50lbs to be even close to a healthy weight and I don't know if I can do it alone. I've just started a new job in a new city, I'm experiencing a breakup after 8 years together and my best friends are scattered throughout the world. I have a lot to be happy and grateful for but I've been in denial about my size for about ten years. This breakup has made me look in the mirror and see photos of myself and force me to not make excuses for myself. It's just shaken me out of my denial.I want to be quite a healthy and active person, enjoy my life and make the most of it, so I would really really love the support. I hope I don't sound too whingy, I am just a little low at the moment but there are times when I do cheer up!
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  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
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    I went through the same thing in 9/2009. Hang in there, it gets easier.
  • sbwood888
    sbwood888 Posts: 953 Member
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    You're not alone. You just joined MFP. There are lots of us here who understand. Just start putting one foot in front of the other and soon you will be walking toward a new you. Friend me if you like! :flowerforyou:
  • K3LLYSU3
    K3LLYSU3 Posts: 56 Member
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    Keep your chin up. You have came to the right place for support, there are sooo many great people here for each other. Good luck with every thing & feel free to add me if you would like. Kelly
  • SeattleLady
    SeattleLady Posts: 70
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    We are here, You are not alone. I felt the same way. You are welcome to be my friend and let's start getting healthy.
  • freerange
    freerange Posts: 1,722 Member
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    Sorry to hear about your troubles, but hey today is a new day, right? And you have come to the right place. 50lbs, is nothing, it will be gone in no time, feel free to ask all the questions you want, I will send you a friend request, this lets you see everything a person post, and we can see your progress too, makes it easier to give support.

    Welcome, and good luck.
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,954 Member
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    Welcome to MFP! I know it's hard right now but you have a fresh start on so many fronts. Take the opportunity to reinvent yourself. Who do you want to be? The choices you make today will determine who you are tomorrow. Whenever you need support sign on here. This site is great for that! Friend me if you want to and good luck! You can do it.
  • krr246
    krr246 Posts: 7 Member
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    you can do this.. i once lost sixty pounds..it took 9 months but it happened and u can do it to and you will feel so good about yourself..i have since re-married and now have another child..so i am on a journey to lose 20 pounds of baby fat.. it is never easy.. that baby is 4..but never give up..:) if you want to be friends send me a friends request. and GOODLUCK..
  • Charli666
    Charli666 Posts: 407
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    Your not alone, you have all of us!!

    I have an awful lot of weight to lose, and have been in my 'new city' a year now, and other than my hubby, and one or two 'friends' i don't really have anyone local, but we are all in this together, and we can do it!!

    You've made the biggest leap by admitting to yourself that you need to make changes, and you've joined which shows your determined to do it!

    I've sent you a friend request, add as many people as you can, and with people all throughout the world on your side, you'll never need feel alone again!!!

    x
  • Denise6914
    Denise6914 Posts: 176
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    Welcome to MFP. You can't be alone with all of us here:) Feel free to send me a friend request.
  • miznel80
    miznel80 Posts: 46 Member
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    Welcome! :) I'm sorry to hear that you are sad. People here are very supportive in everything! 50lbs is what I need to lose to get back to a healthy weight. Friend me, if you'd like :) We'll do it together :)
  • kdao
    kdao Posts: 265
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    Welcome aboard, you found the right place and now you don't have to do this alone! =)
  • bzr21
    bzr21 Posts: 13
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    I feel that working out is like therapy. I sometimes hate it, I curse while I do it, negative thoughts run through my head about whatever it is that I am upset about, and to be honest, I have even cried after a few of them. But I feel like it helps me work out my issues and makes me feel a little more confident.
    It is okay to get down and out so long as you pull yourself out of it. I like hearing that you know you are blessed, but just going through a tough spot. It shows that you have your head on straight.
    I guess my point is, get upset, get angry, and allow yourself the time to digest your situation. Then when it is all out, focus on you and what you need.
  • vkramarenko
    vkramarenko Posts: 8
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    Welcome!! You here and that's a start. Just live a day at the time and dont let little things discourage you in your journey to new you.
  • steph1803
    steph1803 Posts: 1
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    THis is the best time to start new habbits and the best thing is that there is no one telling you what you should eat or questioning why you aren't eatting (especially when "I'm not hungry" doesn't stop the questions)... Think of it as a way to start doing things for yourself, and doing things for the person you have put aside all this time. IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU! Time to get to work and find things that work for you- not on anyone else's schedual. There are so many ways to exercise out there, now is the time to find the ones that you enjoy... It sounds funny, but I never thought that I would enjoy working out but now I do Zumba and Hot Yoga- I love it. Find what is available in your area and try it! Also.... its not all about the pounds but measure yourself for if you are exercising you will loose inches and that is very encouraging! Be positive, this is a door that has opened.:smile:
  • Limeinthecoconut
    Limeinthecoconut Posts: 234 Member
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    My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me basically on New Years Day. I've used the disappointment and anger and channeled it into making better choices for myself, including diet and exercise, and it really has helped! It's so hard not having that person there when you've become so used to being *with* someone.

    Just give it time, because that's the biggest factor in getting over something like that. Friends are a wonderful distraction also. Hang in there.
  • Little_Lisa_Ann
    Little_Lisa_Ann Posts: 59
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    You're definitely not alone! This is a great place to find support, and you'll always have friends here! Welcome :)
  • nichola_watters
    nichola_watters Posts: 22
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    Hi, I have about 50-60 lbs to lose to to get me down to a healthy BMI. I was 226lbs at my heaviest, I dieted, I wobbled I got back on it and now I have lost 26lb in total. You sound like there are more problems than just your weight, try to get upbeat - dont be depressed about what you are, be excited at what you WILL be soon!
  • PrairieRoseNE
    PrairieRoseNE Posts: 265 Member
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    The fact that you're here and asking for help is the biggest step - and you've DONE it!!

    Now, just find a calorie burning activity you like and will commit to. For me, it's walking. I started out with short distances and now I'm up to just under 2 miles a day (most days of the week!) But pick something YOU like - maybe it's simple exercises you can do at home. Or take the stairs instead of the elevator. Every little change you make will help!!

    Start tracking what you eat - be honest too! It won't help you to track it otherwise. After a few days you can see where your calories are coming from, and then MAKE CHANGES - switch from whole milk to 2% or from regular versions of foods, to light versions. Maybe start eating more veggies in place of those hi-carb foods. Start reading labels and measuring your portions - YES it's work and takes time, but YOU are worth it - God don't make junk, so start thinking "I CAN" instead of "I CAN'T"

    We're all here in the same "boat" so don't feel alone - just holler for help if you need it. Don't worry if it seems a dumb question - the only thing worse than a dumb question, is the one you don't ask!!

    I'll keep you in my prayers!!
    ((HUGS))
    Prairie Rose
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
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    Aww, sugar. Live for yourself. Make positive changes for yourself. I know it's hard right now, but you have the power to change anything you want. Take this time to focus on you and I think you'll be surprised at how quickly you start to feel good about yourself again.
  • jellyfishjen
    jellyfishjen Posts: 1,787 Member
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    Wow, look at all the friends you have already. I'm here for you as well. Consider this, one of the best journeys you will ever take and its not just a quick weekend trip, with a quick fix, but a trip around the world, where you will find out interesting things about yourself, you will learn heaps, and you may think you want to reach your goal quickly, but however long it takes it will be worth it. There will be detours, all positive learning ones. This is the trip of a life time, with wonderful friends and support. Have sent you a friend request. :flowerforyou:

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