Your "Hotness"...nobody elses!

HawkeyeGuy

Ok, this post comes from several emails I had regarding a wall comment. My point out of all this, is that I have YET to find one person that isn't hot in one way or another, but so very few of the people (and yes, particularly women) look beyond the flaws in themselves. I don't care how out of shape you are, how long you've let yourself go, there's something hot about you! Now don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting you sit around and stare at your gorgeous eyes, or pouty lips or tight butt all day! But, use that as a starting point. Find the one hottest thing on you, and then realize that YOU are in control of making a whole lotta other hot parts on your body just like that one! It's not easy to do, but there's only one person that gets to decide how hot you get to be...you.

So, your homework is 3 parts:

1. Find your hotness...no matter how tiny you think it is, and decide you want more of it. If you have trouble finding it, ask one of your friends on here...I GUARANTEE they'll see it in you, and let you know!
2. Find someone you respect on your 'friend' list, and tell them something you find hot about them...physical or otherwise. (i.e. confidence in itself is seriously hot!)
3. Now go work out, and make another hot part of you!!!


The comment went like this:

"That's a recurring theme! It amazes me how many absolutely gorgeous women don't see themselves as hot on here! I know not everyone is perfectly happy with their bodies, but I've talked to a dozen women who literally are stunning in one facet or another, and usually many facets, but they don't see it. All they see is the flaw. So, do me a favor, stop and think about your favorite physical asset...and be proud of it!!! And then remember that you have control of over alot of the other ones, and you're on your way to adding to the "hot" list! Finally in my diatribe...don't forget that "hot" isn't a definitive...it's not that you're there one day and not the next. It's a progression...and I'm betting if you asked any guy on here (and most women), they'd look at your pictures, and let you know just how hot you are! Now go workout and get hotter!"

EDIT: Sorry, I hate my grammatical errors.

EZGruv

Great post.

jgkimo

Excellent Post.

JesaGrace

Yes, I remember that post.....people rate hotness on the wrong things sometimes....

xxPeppaxx

This is awesome!!!!!

laughingdani

I love this. Thanks!!

chrssyeldridge

It is so true! As ladies seem to over look the great things and beat ourselves up over the bad things! I myself do this too!!! Flaws are so much easier to find than beauty… I think this is something that totally needs to be rewired.

Great post!

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navvs15

I know women are particularly hard on themselves. Especially since they compare themselves to other women. I try to avoid doing this (because I'll never be anyone else, I'll only be me). As Celine Dion once said: "that's the way it is".

A lot of women are down on themselves is due to poor self-esteem -- which could be for a lot of reasons. But I agree with your post in general! Although, I think I'm an attractive person...I think I would be happier person losing my weight. And maybe some women would be satisfied with that as well.

MaryDreamer

Hilarious homework Hawkeye this oughta be fun! Find our Hotness LOL! Well I got a compliment from an old man this morning, one of my husband's customers, who didn't know I was his wife, right in front of my hubby. Actually my husband heard it and told me about it. Then I went to the gas station to get some go-go juice so I can make it to the gym at lunch. I got a triple-take from some man walking into the store woo-hoo! OK off to the gym to find and work on my hotness now! ~

mlb929

So true!! Women, especially when we take on the roles of mother, wives, maids, taxi service, etc etc, everything else becomes a priority.

Fortunately for me - I have a 9 yo son, who tells me every AM he dreamed about how pretty his mom is It's a great way to start the day.

mbrotnitsky

My husband has stated the same thing.. He has always told me that we as woman are too hard on ourselves. There is something beautiful or hot as you say in every woman. My hotness is my eyes (so I've been told) and my bodacious ahem... U get what I'm saying. Thanks for the smile. I was needing it today.

FORKDOWN

Excellent post. And so true women, ecpecially are hard on themselves. I have shook my head a time or too at the woman who comment negatively about their apearence.

Just_Dot

Excellent point! (Love the "homework", btw.)

CakeFit21

Very well put! Thank you for posting this.

HawkeyeGuy

And just think, those eye, and your 'ahem', probably gave a few other people smiles today, too...mostly men I'd guess!

My husband has stated the same thing.. He has always told me that we as woman are too hard on ourselves. There is something beautiful or hot as you say in every woman. My hotness is my eyes (so I've been told) and my bodacious ahem... U get what I'm saying. Thanks for the smile. I was needing it today.

dianam1973

Off to find my hotness....lol!

tishasuebrown

Love the post.. you are right on the money with that.. THANKS

ace175

Awesome post!! I think a lot of people misconstrue what "hot" means.. mainly because people look at celebrities and other big social figures and say "wow megan fox/angelina jolie/whoever is so hot/sexy, voted sexiest woman/man of the year" and then they look @ themselves and say "I look nothing like those people! I don't have her eyes, lips, breasts, stomach, etc! I am not hot at all!!" We need to stop thinking the people in the social media world are the only hot people out there and everyone needs to look like them!

hpsnickers1

What are you talking about??!! I'm hot all over!!

And have you seen Megan Fox lately? She has lost that gorgeous body and now she is just skinny! EW!

sweetheart03622

Coming from someone with such "hot" abs/pecs this made my heart go a little pitter patter :smooched: You're so right!

PrairieRoseNE

I loved this!! And Thank You for pointing it out - I don't know what my "hotness" is, but I sure would like to have some of it!!
Maybe mine's an inner beauty that's hopefully gonna find it's way to the surface!

Still_Sossy

You are an amazing person!!!!! Love the post. And you are right, more than you know. There are "hot" things about me I love, I just tend not to share them with people so not to come of conceited or anything.

katapple

Great post!

<<<<---I recently just discovered my hotness, I had no idea what was hiding behind me

Just_Dot

My hubby pointed out some of my hotness this weekend...(let me see if this works!)
eta: nope. I'm not quite sure how to post a pic! I'll have to wait until I get home and can access Photobucket. My work blocks that but not MFP! :laugh:

jon_dub

Love this post man spot on

Supa817

This is such a great post! I even find it hard to accept compliments when people notice my weight loss let alone find my "hotness" LOL But I'm working on it! I have a new found love for my tiny waist, the new muscles in my calves, and my other ASSets

SunLovin1

I had gotten to a point where I thought my hot years were behind me. But for the last year or two, I've learned that hotness is an inner thing. Everyone is hot to some degree, you just need to dig it out and let it shine! Thanks Hawkeye - great post!

MassiveDelta

Funny I was going to post something similar today but more oriented toward self esteem and other people finding something important and meaningful to say to another friend.

This was very good. Thanks Hawkeye

Kityngirl

I've learned that hotness is an inner thing.

So very true Sunlovin1! And a great post Hawkeye.

valeriebpdx

Thank you for this post. After I read it, I did a hard workout that I had been meaning to do but not gotten around to for two weeks, in the service of finding even greater hotness.