Looking for friends who have 50-100 pounds to lose, or have

oEmmyo

Hi.. i'm new to this site. My name is Emily and i'm 22. I live in Hawaii with my husband. I gained about 80 pounds after I got married two years ago. I've hated myself for it for a while now, and I think it's about time to do something about it. My biggest enemy is motivation. I commute to work daily, so when I get home all I want to do is relax. I would rather lay on the couch than burn calories. Me and my husband both share a love of fine foods and dining out, so that doesn't work well with my office job. I sit at my desk for about 5 hours a day.

I remember two years ago, when I was just 10 pounds over the healthy weight. That was nothing. I had a physically demanding job which required me to be on my feet all day, walk quickly, and I never got time to relax, until I got home. My clothes never got tight, and I was able to eat whatever I want because I was so active during the day. When I look back on it now, that 10 pounds would have been entirely too easy to lose, all I had to do was cut out fast food and monitor what I ate daily. I could kick myself now, but there's no way to go back in time. I might as well use my "old self" as motivation and lose 80 pounds to get back to where I was two years ago.

My husband is in the military so we are stationed on Oahu for about another year. I haven't seen any of my family since we moved here two years ago. We keep in touch daily, but in this economy, a plane ticket to Hawaii is the last thing anyone can afford I don't want to go back home to my family 80 pounds heavier. I don't want them to see what I have done to myself. I want to come back home, at a healthy weight, and skinnier than I was before I left. My brother is getting married in 2012, so I figure a year is a good goal in losing 80 pounds (or more!)

How many of you gained a significant amount of weight after you got married?
Do you have any healthy and quick/cheap recipes that you don't mind sharing?

Please feel free to add me as a friend. I would love to meet some people who have a weight loss goal similar to mine. Kudos if you have already lost 50-100 pounds. I will definately need your support.

llstrength

I've gained 30 pounds since I got married June 2009! I was over-weight to begin with! My goal is to lose about 60 pounds. I'm away from my family also. My husband and I are teaching in South Korea. Our year contract is up in July, so I want to lost about 30 pounds by then. Oh, and I 23, so it seems like we have a lot in common! I'll add you!

llstrength

Oh, and my husband and I love to eat out too! I've been trying to cook at home more often because I've found that I like hearing him say so many good things about my cooking more than I like eating out! Plus, it gives me motivation to try new things out and experiment. At first, it was horrible because I'm not a very good cook, but I think I've actually gotten pretty good at it!

Enigmatica

Been there done that, and lots of other people here have too. No doubt you *can* lose the weight. In my experience it requires adopting new habits. I had to ditch the fast food, the liquid calories, and waaaay too much meat and carbs. And I needed to get moving. Walking is my exercise of choice, and I did/do a lot of it. Find something you enjoy and can incorporate into your lifestyle and go after it with gusto!

Where people seem to sabotage themselves is when they don't want to change their behavior - just their weight. As the old saying goes, "If you always do what ya always did you'll always get what ya always got." Make the changes and over time your body will change too

oEmmyo

I'm a results driven person, but I need to see those results instantly in order to stay motivated. I wish I could just lose 80 pounds in a few minutes. Ack! Lol. Congrats on your 90 lbs Enigmatica.. that's amazing. Hopefully I will be saying the same thing in a year or less! I'll definately be stalking your profile for motivation daily! Lol.

oEmmyo

I love cooking at home too. I'm just so picky with the food I cook, if it doesn't taste AMAZING.. then it's hard for me to want to cook it again. I found this recipe for ham and potato bake that I LOVE. It's so delicious and easy to make but it calls for 8 oz of cream cheese..LOL. Looks like I wont be eating that very often

anubis609

I'm not married, but I did gain a lot of weight when I was in a long-term relationship. The "happy weight" as I call it. Since the break-up I still kept gaining. I didn't mind it so much. I changed my life around when I was diagnosed with diabetes last year in April. Literally, you would have to change EVERYTHING you do and how you go about into planning for diet and exercise.

It all starts with baby steps. Mine started off with diet first, obviously being a diabetic, that was the main start of change. Exercise came very shortly thereafter and started of with small amounts of minutes which progressed as my body began adapting to the workouts.

I can't say I have cheap, quick recipes as everyone has their own preference, but it does involve a lot of lean meat, whole wheat and fiber, low sodium, a VARIETY of many vegetables, cooking for yourself, meticulously reading nutritional information, and measuring/weighing out portions for accurate calorie counts. Anything that goes into your body should be tracked. Water intake needs to be increased. Motivation needs to start and remain at an all-time high, and possibly increase. Do not stress over any part in obtaining your goal. Lastly, PATIENCE. That last part I can not advocate enough. When you're not in a hurry to lose the weight, is when it happens the fastest.

Feel free to add if you want. Though, I'm more of a guide than someone who will hold your hand through your goals. I believe in the preservation of independent choices regardless if they're considered "good" or "bad." As far as I see, neither of those connotations exist. Just the results from the decisions we make. I wish you much success on your journey.

oEmmyo

I'm not married, but I did gain a lot of weight when I was in a long-term relationship. The "happy weight" as I call it. Since the break-up I still kept gaining. I didn't mind it so much. I changed my life around when I was diagnosed with diabetes last year in April. Literally, you would have to change EVERYTHING you do and how you go about into planning for diet and exercise.

It all starts with baby steps. Mine started off with diet first, obviously being a diabetic, that was the main start of change. Exercise came very shortly thereafter and started of with small amounts of minutes which progressed as my body began adapting to the workouts.

I can't say I have cheap, quick recipes as everyone has their own preference, but it does involve a lot of lean meat, whole wheat and fiber, low sodium, a VARIETY of many vegetables, cooking for yourself, meticulously reading nutritional information, and measuring/weighing out portions for accurate calorie counts. Anything that goes into your body should be tracked. Water intake needs to be increased. Motivation needs to start and remain at an all-time high, and possibly increase. Do not stress over any part in obtaining your goal. Lastly, PATIENCE. That last part I can not advocate enough. When you're not in a hurry to lose the weight, is when it happens the fastest.

Feel free to add if you want. Though, I'm more of a guide than someone who will hold your hand through your goals. I believe in the preservation of independent choices regardless if they're considered "good" or "bad." As far as I see, neither of those connotations exist. Just the results from the decisions we make. I wish you much success on your journey.

Wow... 126 lbs lost. That is awesome! Grats!

callipygianchronicle

When I got married my husband was in the Navy. I was 21-years-old and I weighed 125 pounds. I was a homesick little girl who left San Diego and lived in Everett, WA for 5 years. I gained at least 50 pounds while we lived there. In the 13 years since we got married, I put on exactly 100 pounds. I have high blood pressure and I’m currently working toward losing 85 to 90 pounds. i have been at this since January 3rd and have had great progress. But I would be lying if I said you could do exactly the same things you are doing and manage to lose weight. I have had to completely shake up my life—what I eat, how much, where I eat, and how much I move my body. Because I work from home, it was easier to incorporate certain changes, but that makes it far from easy. I work at managing my calories and my exercise each and every day.

But you don’t have to change everything at once. Start by just logging, ignoring whether you go over—just see how the way you eat looks when charted. Then after a couple of weeks, decide to start eating within your calories. After that becomes easy for you, start exercising or finding a way to eat less sugar, or less fat. As long as you are logging, you will start to find out what does and doesn’t work when it comes to your food. You will start to make different choices at restaurants. You will change your mind about how often you eat out.

But give yourself time. If it took you two years to gain 80 pounds, it will take at least half that amount of time to get it back off. So be patient with yourself. And believe that your body can look different a year from now. Then do the work.

wifeyinlove7

I'm a Navy wife as well, and have gained 60 lbs. since we married 3 years ago. It was so much fun gaining all the weight, but now I don't even know where to start to lose it!! Glad to know I'm not the only one in this boat!