Question for married people.....

binsylad

I am totally on this bus.....and ive only lost 19lbs.

It doesnt get any better lol

Mike
England.

MistyMtnMan

Okay. My husband did the same thing and I had a guy friend explain it to me. It's messed up yes, but it's his way of motivating you. Guys think in reverse psychology when it comes to things like this. They think if they say things like "I bet this wont last" meaning your change in food or exercise that you'll get the "F**K YOU!!I'LL PROVE YOU WRONG" attitude and push even harder. Since my friend explained that to me, I just let them slide right off my shoulder.

I'm sorry but I'm a guy and I don't agree with this at all. It is in no way of trying to "motivate" you and I don't know where this "reverse psychology" thing is coming from either. If you are secure with yourself you don't need to use "reverse psychology", you will just say what you mean.

Your husband is obviously insecure and instead of going right out and saying "this makes me a little uncomfortable" he's making little hints that he is scared in joke form. The best thing to do would be to reassure him that he is the ONLY guy for you and no matter what you are committed to him and only him.

He feels like he won't be good enough for you anymore if you look better but let him know you are doing it to have a long and healthy life that he can enjoy with you as well. I don't know how bad his insecurities are but if reassuring him doesn't work and he continues to get angrier, I would suggest counseling.

Good luck.

nmoreland

I was in pretty good shape when I met my husband, and slowly gained a LOT of weight over the years. Since I have started working out, I have noticed muscles in my legs again. I told my husband that I am going to have nice legs for him again. He responded saying that he liked my legs the way they are now, but I also know he will appreciate the more toned legs. I am getting into shape for me, but I like to point out to my husband parts that he will benefit from as well.

maserati185

Maybe you could approach him during a good moment and ask him if he's being serious on any level. Let him know (if this IS how you feel) that you don't mind some joking, but you want to make sure he understands that you love *him*, you're faithful and losing weight isn't changing that.

Stefani74

We are doing this TOGETHER so we are totally supportive of one another. He knows I want to be a hottie in a bikini...but he knows it's not to impress other guys, it's to make feel good about myself and impress HIM! My husband is very secure in our relationship. I am the insecure one...he is a very attractive man and sometimes I feel like I am the one that needs to look "better" to keep him interested. Though that isn't the case at all, it's just at times my self-esteem gets the best of me. He is doing this for health reasons, but he really wants to be buff in his new boat this summer too! We joke about being that couple you see at the end of some of the P90X workouts running along the beach! LOL! We are just having so much fun with this as a couple.

I wish you the best with your situation.

curleesam

He may just be being playful but you will never know unless you talk to him about it. Tell him that you find those comments hurtful even if he is joking and re-assure him that you are still the same person (just slimmer!)