When I hear laughter....

Jbirx

I feel self confident every time I walk down the street but I make myself do it, I try to make eye contact and not look at the floor as I pass people.

I find my iPod actually helps me as I can become distracted by the music and not so conscience of everything else.

I also found out yesterday that it is worth all the effort as on my way to town, I smile at a man coming the other way and said good morning. He stopped me and said that my smile was lovely and reminded him of the sun rising in the morning and then he kissed my hand and tipped his hat, ok so he was in his eighties, but it still made my day and reminded me to walk with my head held high.

What goes through your mind is probably 100 times worse than anything anyone actually thinks as you walk past.

It's easy to say but thinking positive really does work and affect's your outlook also. Good luck

autumn13

This post has bothered me very much......Ladies u are all very beautiful...people that need to lower other peoples self worth only feel low about themselves...This in return makes them feel better.Stand up, be proud, love who u are!

Chrizzle21

This post has bothered me very much......Ladies u are all very beautiful...people that need to lower other peoples self worth only feel low about themselves...This in return makes them feel better.Stand up, be proud, love who u are!

AMEN sister!

kayemme

That's a stage in childhood development that we are supposed to outgrow, I forget the exact term but it has to do with self reflection and the belief that everyone is still looking at them, you are the focus wherever you go.

if not properly tended to, this can easily develop into narcissism. but most of this has to do with the thoughts of the "afflicted" person... for example,

if i'm walking around in the world judging all the people i see, "he's fat, he's gross, she's skinny, she's skanky, she's uptight, she's pretty, he's hot, she looks like her dog's *kitten*, she needs a hair cut" what i'm really doing is reflecting on the things i want to change about myself, but not actually doing anything about it except criticizing other people for stupid, petty things.

therefore, when i'm walking around in the world, i can only imagine that other people are doing the same thing. some of them are, sure, but most of them really do not give one rats' *kitten* about me on a superficial level. and those that do, well, i only hope they are able to break their cycle of judgment and self-loathing.

does that make sense? most people see past the surface, so what you need to do is learn to do that, too.

Jon_Rod

I think we all automatically think that someone is looking at us in a negative way when those things happen....
But honestly when I clicked on this post the first thing I thought about was how pretty you are. Maybe those guys that are looking at you are thinking the same thing. Smile at them and hold your head high.
It might just be a guy that thinks you look good and is too shy to come up and talk to you.....

I have to Agree

Most of the time we guys are checking you out

Chiquita_Banana

i know the feeling.. thought i was a little paranoid for a while... but it was more when i was younger... esteem issues i guess